Why does my friends with benefits guy never wash himself after we have sex?

[Skiiitles]

Everytime we have sex he has never had a shower afterwards or just gone to the bathroom to wash his face, fingers or dick. He has a shower every morning but we normally do it during the day or at night.

I've asked him why he doesn't and he says I'll shower later or in the morning or just isn't bothered and says he doesn't need to. I tell him just because I don't smell doesn't mean you don't have to shower. I've never seen him sniff his fingers or do anything creepy like that though. He didn't have hand soap in the house untill he met me and I kept pestering him about how he didn't have it till he bought some.

But he normally gets up and goes for a smoke afterwards. So I'm not sure.

[Anonymous]

If it bothers you that much (obviously it does) tell him so. He just doesn't feel the need to do it right at that moment. Nothing to do with being a "civilized human being" as he says "he'll do it later or in the morning". What's wrong with that? How do you know he doesn't go home and have one? Maybe he just doesn't want to do it there? It's not like he's waiting days or weeks to have one. Does this somehow in your mind make him "gross"? Just because it's not your preference doesn't make it wrong or him "dirty".

[Skiiitles]

It's always at his place and I always stay the night/s. He would pick me up after work then drop me home on his way to work the next day or end of the weekend. I do find it gross and I have told him that he is a ferral and he just laughs. It's one of those things were it's funny because it's so weird as I laughed while saying.

[Tony1974]

Maybe he doesn't believe in soap, deorderants and the like. Over showering plus all chemicals in all these products leech the natural oils from you skin which causes dry skin and infections.

Maybe he enjoys you stench so much he don't reveling in it. Or he knows it bothers you and he's hoping you'll leave afterwards.

[Skiiitles]

Maybe, but he has body wash and uses body spray and underarm.

He would always pick me up and take me back to his so he would have to take me home and would always want me to stay the night and would be sad and say I thought you were going to stay the night when I went there in my car and only stayed for an hour or so.

[Anonymous]

Ewww that's disgusting and weird stop sleeping with him

[Poppykate]

Just agree to have a shower together! Problem solved!

[Skiiitles]

He doesn't like to shower together. Which is another weird thing he does.

[Poppykate]

Then don't have sex with him unless he showers after sex!

[Poppykate]

Set up boundaries!

[Skiiitles]

I will if I ever choose to see him again. I won't just let it slide and let him change the conversation.

[MrAssHat]

he's a dirty fucker lol.. only time i dont take a shower after is if its like on the sidewalk or somewhere out and about where i dont have access to a shower at that very moment

[Skiiitles]

I've told him jokingly that he's a ferral when he doesn't shower or wash afterwards lol

[MrAssHat]

lol ur ass is gonna end up with an infection from his dirty ass.. cuz he probably doesn't actually shower as often as he says but says it so u won't bother him to much or think he's dirty

[Skiiitles]

He would normally wear a condom but then he started just putting it in without but would put one on after about 30 seconds as he was going to come and condom makes him last longer.

[MrAssHat]

hahha so not only is he dirty he's a lame ass when it comes to sex in general lol.. 30 seconds haah

[Skiiitles]

The sex is actually pretty good. I come during it. But I will admit most guys I've slept with have said I'm quite tight. the first time/s normally doesn't last too long

[MrAssHat]

Well how many times do you cum? Cuz most women i mess with come at least once before i even start to fuck them and normally a total of 2 or 3 times during.. only times they dont cum more than once is if we have been drinking heavily lol

[Skiiitles]

I've only squirted during sex with two different guys and he is one of them. I prefer sex over foreplay, don't mind a little at the beginning. I honestly don't know why I still see him or like him, only thing I can think of is he's probably the only guy who's actually respected me when I've said I don't want to have sex and doesn't force me to do things when I don't want to.

[MrAssHat]

well foreplay is important because after a woman cums once each time after it becomes easier and more enjoyable at least for most women lol.. only had two that actually felt discomfort after they came the first time

[Skiiitles]

I normally take too long to come during foreplay. I can have a guy go down on me for 20-30 mins and not come. But then I can have a guy go down on me and make me come within a few minutes. So if it doesn't happen in the first 5-10 mins I make them stop and just have sex. Otherwise I feel really bad about it

[MrAssHat]

ah well each woman is a little different so it happens.. But remember communication is the key to good sex.. also have him do some reading about different techniques to prolong his excitement

[masterfree]

I don't feel the need to shower after. Unless it was with someone I might regret etc... however, the no hand soap thing is fucking weird. He just might be a dirtball. But the sex thing is fine in my opinion.

[1988fido]

He is lazy
He get tired after sex don't feel like doing anything.
He lacks hygiene for sure

All 3 reasons together.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't shower because he doesn't want to destroy the evidence he shows his friends when he brags. Have you noticed any of your underwear missing by any chance?

[Skiiitles]

I have panties missing all the time. But I normally end up finding them eventually.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm surprised you found them again. Maybe he does a catch and release system instead of the usual never see them again system.

[Skiiitles]

Lol. I do have a lot of panties probably wouldn't notice unless they were favourites (practically all sexy with a few cotton)

[Opinion Owner]

That's probably why you don't realize how many have been stolen. Something tells me you don't mind though...

[Skiiitles]

Well it does and it doesn't bother me. It shows that they like me and are thinking about me, even though it's a bit creepy. But everyone has different sexual desires and as long as it doesn't involve animals, underage kids, pee or fecal it's okay as long as no one is being forced to do something. But if they took one of my favorites I wouldn't be happy I would demand them back, clean 😂

[dwiller943]

Maybe he already showered before you 2 had sex.
Maybe that day wasn't his shower day.
Maybe he showers later on at a different time.
I mean those are usually my reasons.
I don't know if that's why for him though.

[madhatters4]

maybe he's not concerned with it. doesn't seem like a big deal. i don't shower after sex.

[Skiiitles]

So your not bothered if you live with house mates and you speak to one of them and be around them after you've had sex and don't worry if they can smell it? It's the going down on me then possibly speaking to someone else I don't understand. Or touching things with those fingers. Maybe I freak to much about being clean

[madhatters4]

i don't think it smells as strongly as you think it does.

[Skiiitles]

I don't think it smells strongly it's just really weird to me like I wash my mouth out after going down on a guy and have to pee after sex and wash it with water afterwards. I wash it with water after someone just goes down on me and before. I think it's cause woman are more prone to infections and I try to do everything I possibly can to stop that from happening. Is it so bad that I want to have and keep a clean and healthy vagina 😂

[madhatters4]

well i do pee to avoid UTIs. if i'm not going to shower for a while i'll sometimes clean of my penis. but plenty of people don't care to clean up

[Eddieniceboy]

Have sex in the shower next time maybe that will work and it's a great time! 😈

[Skiiitles]

We've only done it in the shower when its been that time of the month. And if he hadn't cleaned himself after that I think that would've been the end. I didn't even have to say anything with that one after he was done he washed himself straight away.

[Eddieniceboy]

nice...

[Dnly01]

LoL...

[CapnHawk]

Quickest way to get me out of a shower is to turn the water on.

[03FreeBird14]

Maybe after you leave he probably masturbates and thinks of and smells his fingers and likes the smell of you between his legs when getting off

[Thongsman]

why would you waist your time with someone that you are not married to that has a problem with taking a shower in the first place

[Truthatanycost]

People do it because they aren't prepared to sacrifice their desires for their beliefs. Most have little self control, willpower, conviction and little faith.

I remember a woman that said she was waiting for marriage but had sex because no men wanted to wait. After being with lots of men, she still ended up with nothing she wanted anyway. She also made it less likely that a guy waiting would be interested anymore too.

People want to have their cake and eat it but they don't realise they might miss out on the ingredients of the best one by doing so.

[Thongsman]

verry true

[Skiiitles]

@Truthatanycost i lost my virginity to a guy I was with for two years we were both very much in love. I lived with him and did everything for each other. But he had anger issues and the jealous type. I thought we were going to be together forever as I do believe in being with one guy but it's not feasible in this day and age. I left him because he was punching holes in everything and when he did it would be right near my face. I obviously went with the terrible rebound guys a little off the rails

[Thongsman]

I was married for 11 years to a woman that I could not wait to get away from

[Thongsman]

I don't hit on weman I know how it feels to be mistreated

[Skiiitles]

Why stay together for so long? Scared she was going to take everything? Or just built a life with her and kept putting it off or thinkng you can just deal with it and secretly sleep with other people.

[Thongsman]

I was trapped

[Thongsman]

I did not have a car or any way of getting away from her because I lived 1500 miles from my mom and brother when I was married

[Skiiitles]

Why didn't you have a car?

[Thongsman]

no license

[Skiiitles]

How old were you? Why no licence? I went for mine as soon as I could

[Thongsman]

I have not past the test yet

[Truthatanycost]

Leaving was smart but why would you go for terrible rebounds.

[Skiiitles]

@Truthatanycost because I'm an idiot lol
I needed someone to stop me from forgiving him and going back as I still love him.

[Skiiitles]

My friends with benefits is always nice to me and treats me with respect. I just don't understand his choices of not washing after sex. I find it quite disgusting

[Thongsman]

tell him to take a shower or you and him are done

[Skiiitles]

Well lately I haven't been seeing him anywhere near as much. as he just laughs it off whenever I ask him about it. And am now in the same boat as I miss hanging out with him all the time 😑

[Thongsman]

That is disgusting

[Skiiitles]

What's disgusting? Oh, I didn't mean I don't have a shower after I see him. I meant trying not to see him as he doesn't deserve my time just like my ex in the previous comment I made 😂

[Thongsman]

you are right

[TonyRyanAgain]

Not everyone showers immediately after. If he's going to bed soon, why shower? Just to do it again in the morning. It's not that uncommon.

[Anonymous]

people shower in the morning for a reason. when you go to sleep, you will just wake up dirty again. So he goes to bed, then takes a shower.

[FaithfulGuardian]

You should wear a condom that covers your whole body then...

[Skiiitles]

Why? 😂

[Chanel1981]

He goes to work without showering after sex?

[Skiiitles]

No he always showers in the morning before he goes to work. If it's a weekend he will maybe have something to eat and a smoke then have a shower

[Chanel1981]

I see. Must not bother him then, everyone's different!

[oldoldold]

well why should he... it's not like he needs to impress you

[Skiiitles]

It's not about impressing me it's about being a civilized human being.

[oldoldold]

but he dosent need to make any more effort to get what he wants than he is

that's how thin the veneer of civilisation can be

[Skiiitles]

No, it's called being a ferral. It shouldn't be an effort to be clean it should be a normal part of everyone's life. It's not hard to just use some soap and water from the sink to wash those few places.

[oldoldold]

lol i do agree with you

it should be easy to wash it.

the question is why do you let him touch you with it? at all?

[Skiiitles]

I didn't notice straight away. I still like him but I just don't understand why he does that. he won't tell me whenever I bring it up, he just laughs it off.

[Maxine_Payne]

I guess he's just lazy.

[Anonymous]

Too much washing is not good for the body.

[Skiiitles]

I agree. But we only have sex once that day, twice on the odd occasion but it's not long after the first session.

So everyone showers at Least once a day. (Well most people) so a little touch up won't hurt inbetween

[SuccessfulHornDog]

He a dirty bird

[OfDeath]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

That's just gross.