Why did women like me more when I was an asshole?

[Anonymous]

I wasn't a literal asshole i just never cared to say hi, good morning or give attention or compliments, iam kinda laid back and cool with a great style (friends ask me what they should wear and women compliment my style) and women have told me a lot how good looking i am and attractive, and the looks and stares kinda make it obvious.

At the begging of college (first year of college) i never made an effort to meet anyone or be too nice or even talk about my life, i respected everyone but kinda had a " do the minimum" mentality and i would just dress nice and sit there, i made jokes sometimes and talked to people but never gave attention or showed too much interest and kinda had a "there is always a next girl" mentality, and oh boyyyy girls we're drawn to me like flies to a piece of met (okay not the best analogy) hot and unattractive girls alike would stare at me, hold eye contact and female classmates tried to actually get to know me, i got 3 numbers just like that...

i still get compliments, looks, stares and girls are nice and open to talking to me but it doesn't feel the same, sure i improved in all aspects but the attraction they had towards me seems to be... less

it doesn't make sense to me, why when iam more approachable and nicer girls show less attention, iam not seeking attention but this just feels weird to me...

[unicorncore]

So for me it's like that: Guys that are super open minded and super nice to everyone, they are cool to hang out and you could have great relationships with them, but they're boring. They like everyone, so they would like any other pretty girl as much as they like you. But a guy who does not immediately open himself, who does not always talk and say what he thinks, that's interesting. He has secrets, some hidden facets... these guys mostly seem more manly and harder to get and it's a big compliment if you are the girl he wants

[Asker]

I do understand that and you're right i feel the same about girls who are sourounded by girls all the time i simply dont like it and i make an effort to actually keep a distance between me and women as to not look like an easy guy, but sometimes they're calssmates and its not nice to just walk away from someone who you share the same lectures with few times a week.

I don't know if iam boring or not, an ex told me once you had this mysterious aura around you and i found it very attractive, i didn't exactly understand it, but iam the kind of guy who likes to be alone for a prolonged time, i am introverted , i like going out with friends and girls i like but i need my alone time, i dont share a lot of things about myself and i just sometimes want to sit alone somewhere.

[unicorncore]

Yeah well it depends... if you're too introvert it's not cool. But not being too open and not liking everyone without judging, that's a thing of maturity and character. I like that a lot

[Anonymous]

It's like cats. They gravitate to the person who is least interested in them.

[Asker]

its kinda weird especially when I as a guy are drawn to girls who show interest and are nice to me, so when i first read somehwere that being uninterested makes girls like you i was like " what... are they serious?" but then again it does work quite a lot

[redmask38]

I don't understand it either. I'm a very straightforward and outgoing person, so seeing rude people just ticks me off XD I don't know why they feel that way either. I've never really gotten other girls' tastes :/