If men are "hunters", why do most of male gagers want girls to approach them first? Or this quote is a bs?

[Lillyhope]

[MarcoIsAFailure]

There are many levels to this.
1) GaG does not give a good representation of the average population
2) Times have changed, "hey babe I really want you" doesn't cut it anymore
3) People have realized, that when it comes to love, "working hard for it" doesn't really achieve anything. If you just are not into me, I can't to anything at all to change that. We don't live in a romantic movie, where one big gesture makes the cheerleader fall into love with the nerdy guy she didn't even notice before
4) Those shy guys, who don't dare to approach you first, are actually most likely to work hard to keep you.
5) people react differently. Truly wanting you just means being in love with you. Some people are paralyzed by it, some other people might not want to risk the friendship, because they do TRULY love you and don't want risk loosing you, not even to get into your pants.
6) If you don't say immediately yes, after I ask you to be with me, and I work hard for it then to change your mind, it's actually considered creepy.

I feel like, while general stereotype about men or rather masculinity this is based off is mostly true, in actuality it is mostly different:
Those men who will "just ask you to be his woman" are also the man, who don't really want to work hard to get you.

[Reddwolf]

I don't think that they know what they want

[Lillyhope]

Oh agree

[deraz24]

Most guys on here aren't the typical men, I've noticed that more and more are shy or either been rejected so they don't wanna try or give up. Plus I do believe if someone really wants something bad enough they'll do whatever to get it, and of its not meant to be they'll move on and try elsewhere

[RJGraveyTrain]

No offense to the G@G community nor the blues but most of the types who spend a lot of time on G@G aren't really the hunting/traditional macho types. There are those who are but most of us are a bunch of fucking dorks and dweebs lol. It's normal to find the shy and timid on the internet.

[InfoBot]

Rofl! MHO and 5,000 extra Xper should be awarded for this ^

[RJGraveyTrain]

@InfoBot You know it's true ;P

[tartaarsaus]

MHO material

[JohnDoe3000]

@RJGraveyTrain

You have a point but I believe even in the real world macho men with rock-solid confidence who actually prefer to do the pursueing are a minority.

[RJGraveyTrain]

@JohnDoe3000 Really? Cause I've met plenty and every guy I pursued told me I made them uncomfortable or that I was too forward. Maybe that's just me though.

[JohnDoe3000]

I don't know what to tell you... Did they at least like you back?

[JohnDoe3000]

Most the guys I've known, including myself, will make a move eventually but we absolutely hate the process unless it goes 100% smoothly (but most girls are to shy/aloof/think they have to play hard to get, etc... for it to go smoothly and then it can feel like having to jump through hoops with no guarantee of success).

[RJGraveyTrain]

@JohnDoe3000 All the guys I've asked out confirmed interest. Maybe I'm just too aggressive or something. 😂 All of my boyfriends were super forward and quick to ask me out though. 🤔 Maybe I just attract that type.

[InfoBot]

@RJGraveyTrain Umm, I was wondering... if you'd... like... consider... y'know... umm... like... if you're free sometime... would you... maybe... help me fix my tampon? :'(

[FashionKiller]

I don't think it completely is I mean some guys are shy

[NearlyNapping]

The quote is total BS. The only purpose of these kind of beliefs is to really mess with women's heads and make them believe a bunch of nonsense that will only hurt them.

You see it on here all the time. Girls thinking that if a guy hasn't asked them out, then he's not interested. Girls using it to justify not doing anything themselves. Girls using it to justify taking the easy way out and waiting for the man to do everything - they could be waiting forever.

Then the last part justifies the crazy idea of playing hard to get. I'll take it a step further and say it's implying that no doesn't mean no. If a man is required to go hard for you, what does that really mean? How is he supposed to interpret your words and actions? Put in more effort because without it it will be interpreted as not trying hard enough? Think about where that leads.

[Anon85]

Sometimes the time simply isn't right. I'm very interested in a girl right now, but I'm holding everything in because I don't want to interfere with her relationship. It all depends on the circumstances. If he doesn't feel like he's ready to have a girlfriend for whatever reason whether it's financial, emotional or something else entirely, he's not going to be proactively chasing you.

By no means should you assume someone who is a little less than outgoing for whatever reason just isn't interested in you. Life happens, and if the girl really wants a shot than it may be the time for her to step up to the plate herself

[spidersspiders]

General statments dont fit every person. we're individuals. for me it depends on the girl. If she's outgoing and easy to read I'll go for it. if she's stand offish or introverted I dont know whether saying hi would bother them or not so I dont approach. Again thats me as a person. anyone who tries to lump guys and girls into groups is a cunt

[1995ALEX1995]

It's BS. Some guys are alphas like that (which is kinda a BS thing anyway) and others are not. I personally think it's attractive when women make the first move, but I'm also not a dominant person. If you like a guy, go for him. Make the first move, because men these days, so many of them have confidence issues.

[Anonymous]

you know what I can't stand? when people make quotes like that to excuse their cowardliness. If you like a guy, simply approach him. He may not even notice you until you make yourself noticed. Dont just stand there giving little subtle looks, it makes you look like a child! Imagine how guys are feeling when they approach people, you think we dont feel the same?

[Vyxzuw]

Hunters look for prey.

Many here are looking for partners.

[Vyxzuw]

Also, keep in mind that tigers are one of the top predators in the world.
And they won't (usually) attack a person while they are looking at them. They wait until your back is turned.

Same way that some shyer guys won't come at you head on, but will circle around and try to befriend you first to lower your guard.

Yes, if a guy isn't TRYING anything, then he either isn't interested or isn't ready for anything.
Like I won't cold approach a girl, but I'll look for an opportunity to get to know them.

For instance, in college, the class was going to divide into groups to give presentations to the class. This was going to be done through sign up sheets.
So, I waited until the girl I was interested in signed up for a group, and then signed up for the same group, since it would give me a chance to talk to her.
(Well, it didn't. The group met once, and divided up the topics for the presentation and that was it.)

[Lillyhope]

Thanks for example

[Mikmex1651]

This quote is based of a more traditional way of thinking, but nowadays, girls ask guys out too. It's still kinda true, but not really.

[Lillyhope]

Would you call yourself "a hunter"?

[Mikmex1651]

Haha, not even close lol. The only hunting I do is for the last bag of chips at home before someone else grabs em XD

[Lillyhope]

Chips hunter😝

[PlzFuccOff]

By your logic that would mean that these "hunter" men would see women as something to hunt, which supposedly women are opposed to. But the reality is women want to be seen as sex objects because it boosts their ego and their primary sexual value comes from their looks. But to answer you, a lot of men aren't hunters no. Society is changing and so are traditional gender roles.

[Djaaay]

So in other words , You've decided to not be a man any longer because society says you can't ? I'm I reading this right?

[PlzFuccOff]

No sir, you aren't. I'm not implying anything about myself.

[Djaaay]

But you're implying others should act accordingly to you're opinion...

[PlzFuccOff]

That wasn't my intention.

[Alessus]

Because unlike animal, humans are capable of higher thought which means while we might have natural inclinations towards one thing or another, we can ignore said inclinations if we so decide.

[nbbn5]

I want to hunt a girl ( i mean initiate the things with a girl lol) but i am really shy and i am scared that i will do somethign wrong but still i want to persure her

[Lillyhope]

How would you react if a girl pursued you?

[nbbn5]

I will pass out there on the spot

[nbbn5]

Lol jokes apart i will be shocked like really shocked

[Lillyhope]

Ahahahah lol

[geonator]

I wouldn't say this quote is BS necessarily but it doesn't apply to all situations. Mainly if the guy doesn't know the girl super well but they're "dating" then he's not in a position to decide if he wants to marry her or not, and thus you can't conclude that she won't be what he wants even after he gets to know her more

[JohnDoe3000]

The quote is BS. Men are people, they get nervous too. Maybe the quote used to be true in older cultures but I'm pretty sure that would have been connected to women generally not having been in a position to say no quite like they are today.

[Cosytoasty]

The quote is BS because all men are different.

However when i usually see questions about it on GaG specifically, it's usually the woman who is complaining that guys won't approach her. So the advice is that she stops complaining and does something about it (i. e approach them herself).

Nervous guys in general will be nervous whether the girl approaches or whether they have to approach. Half of them would wet themselves if a hottie decided to come and chat to them or ask them out.

[Anonymous]

Male testosterone drop by over 60% in 40 years. Most men act like girls these days and tend to ass kiss women. In short, we have a generation of nutless men.

[Lillyhope]

Would you call yourself "a hunter"?

[robertburmeister20]

I just grab women and have my way with them. I was in Japan once and I just snatched women away from their fathers and boyfriends. They LOVE my white cock, and Japanese men are too pussy to fight back. If you're white, you have all the power.

[Lillyhope]

Fortunately, you're not in Japan

[robertburmeister20]

Fuck it, I'll do it here too. No broad will say no to me

[Peachman]

because yes biologically we are hunters but some more than others like if we were reset to cavemen we would all hunt but we changed some more than others

[ADFSDF1996]

The quote is outdated. Maybe that was the case for primitive humans (cavemen) but we are not cavemen anymore, we have evolved.

[Wolframium]

Yep. You’ve figured it out. It’s complete BS, stereotype and so on. Now, some men do actually enjoy that. For…reasons. Me? Opposite. Now, go out there and spread your knowledge.

[MackFreeze]

I want to approach women, I like being able to choose when I approach. I wouldn't want to wait around hoping someone will approach me.

[tartaarsaus]

First of all, GaG attracts introverts so the hunting people don't really come here. Even then, irl I see a lot of people just not approaching the people they like. It's obviously a stereotype.