Do boys actually have feelings or what?

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I know this is probably a stupid question so don't attack me in the comments, I just wanna know. So far, most boys I've met turn out to be players, they either cheat on their girlfriends or they're flirting with you but don't actually mean it, to be honest I don't think I've ever met a boy that was completely crazy about a girl, it's usually the other way around. So many other girls agree on this, that boys are usually just messing around but why is this? I do know that boys theoretically have feelings I mean everyone claims they do but why does it never show then? Do you guys not get feelings as easily or do you just try to play it cool or something? Also, I just got out of high school so it might be the age, I don't know. Is this a younger boy thing or are boys just simply immune to feelings? Also, how intense are those feelings if they do exist? Like, do you also get this tingling feeling when you see your crush? Do you even crush on people?

NicknameShirt · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry you have this experience with men. Let me give you some clues.
1. Testosterone makes us way less able to express emotion and cry. As soon as it starts pumping through us, our tear ducts stop producing so much tears, we grow more "immune" to crying, and lose a little touch of all of that. But I would argue and say that when we really DO feel, we feel it very very very deeply, and with little outlet... It's very painful. Not like sobbing for three days painful and feel meaning with that, but "I feel like my soul is being crushed"- type of pain.

2. There are so so so many romantic, emotionally invested men, but they are usually the ones that don't show so much interest. They are the ones who quietly dream, listen to love songs at home and maybe shed a little tear here and there. I'm that guy.
There's a married woman in my school who is just so gorgeous and smart and caring. We have grown close. Obviously, since she's married and twice my age, I can't act, but man have I written poems to her that I'll never show, listened to love songs, teary-eyed, spoken about her to all my friends, made art inspired by my feelings. The love for her is truly the strongest emotion I can dream of feeling. And I view it as a gift to myself, to love.
When I see her I feel like an electric shock from my chest, and into my hands. I spend every moment I can observing how she moves, her face, and try to memorize the sound of her voice so I can replay it in my head. The initial urge isn't sex at all, it's touch, intimacy, looking into her eyes, tell her beautiful things. Sex would be the fusion of our souls, an almost sacred peak of passion.

You should really read some literature written by men, or watch any kind of movie, and what you see there is how men feel. We aren't a different race. We are just people with slightly different objectives and manifestations of emotion.
But that said - men do have a tendency to prioritize sex more then women. But women can be like that too.

EpicDweeb · Accepted Answer

1. Yes we have feelings, though I've found a majority of guys who bother to talk to, or flirt with girls, are more interested in getting laid. I've found so many people on this sight who make it seem like it's some horrible thing to have not had sex or make it seem like the purpose of doing anything for a girl is for her to give sex in return. (If it wasn't clear I do not agree with this perspective).
2. While we get feelings, our bodies don't produce as many hormones as those of girls, so we don't actually feel as much, so for a lot of guys, it's easier to hide what feelings we do have. (Many people make it out to be an unmanly thing to have feelings so we don't tend to show them when we don't need to).
3. It's a thing for guys of almost any age, though not of every maturity. Some guys grow out of it and become mature, respecting, and respectable people... and other don't.
4. Our feelings for people can range anywhere from an uncertain attraction, kind of a "they're really pretty, I like them," to a "I love them so much and I'd do literally anything for them and don't want anything bad to ever happen to them." (From my limited experience at least.)
5. And yeah, I find I crush on people a lot but 9/10 nothing comes of it, and I'll usually make friends with them... then I'll get over it and we'll keep being friends for the foreseeable future.

Hope that answers your questions :) Sorry if anything was unclear, feel free to ask for clarification, more than happy to help.

OtakuNeko666 · Accepted Answer

Well... some boys do want to love but some just doesn't want to stay with one due to what you said or they're just scared that you would leave them. It mainly depends on the guy. My advice and research "how would I know if he's playing me" or something like that and aim for guys who aren't idiots.

Anonymous · Answer

I can only speak for myself, but I have tons of feelings. More sensitive than I should be even. I'm not heartless or cold, I just don't express all of them openly because it would be inappropriate for me to do so. Players will play, it's just how they are. Some will mellow out, but some will also stay and not want a serious relationship with another person. The feelings I have for my current partner of a little over a year are the kind of "I'll never leave your side, anything you need I'll do my best to provide you" sappiness that I think a lot of people would be thrilled to have from their boyfriends. I still get an intense case of butterflies when seeing my partner and I no longer get "crushes" on others.

nothask · Answer

most guys in highschool are players. it's very hard to find someone that won't skip around and dedicate to 1 person. guys in HS want to act big and tough, if they show any sign of his feminine side, he'll be shunned for it. we do have feelings, it's just a un-manly thing to do in this day and age. college will be different. more mature guys.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

"I don't think I've ever met a boy that was completely crazy about a girl, it's usually the other way around." I'm surprised to hear you say that, I always notice the opposite. It's usually the guys who want a girlfriend so bad.

I think the guys you've encountered just need to find the right woman. Men are very visual, so we'll obviously find many women attractive but eventually if we are seeking a spouse, it'll take longer to find the right woman.

WiseTurtle · Answer

you know the boy is striken once for all by that girl when she just suits to be queen of his heart, and by that i mean she just have all these requierements to get the heart's throne 😁

Sylvainnn · Answer

Yeah we do actually have feelings, my crush hugged me the other day, it felt like my heart was standing still

Wurdom · Answer

I'm a very loving person. When I'm in a relationship I make sure my girl knows she's everything to me, as corny as that sounds.

Mister_sarcasm · Answer

You are probably trying to the date the wrong kind of guy

Jameburn · Answer

i got cheated on in 2 of my biggest relationships in my life

Anonymous · Answer

We do. The other day my heart skipped a beat when my crush smiled at me

Naydyonov · Answer

I don't for most things, however if I like a girl than that's it, no others matter at that moment

Anon85 · Answer

We obviously have feelings. You just have a poor population sample in ypur social circle.

DanielKaluuya · Answer

I think it's feminism. When you turn women into men, men turn into boys.

Anonymous · Answer

Men have no feelings. Unlike women they are selfish shallow bastards who lie and cheat all the time.

Matt72 · Answer

Boys have feelings and know love. Women don't.

jobeta · Answer

I'm numb about everything

TheUglyMonk · Answer

Emotions? WHAT ARE THOSE?

Uncut · Answer

No we are emotionless

MackFreeze · Answer

Yes we do

king34 · Answer

everyone one has feelings

DamnAnon · Answer

Yes. We have feelings. We not robot. We feel.

Do boys actually have feelings or what?

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