My boyfriend got "jealous" for the first time in four years is he testing me or what? he's not the jealous type?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys so my boyfriends never been the jealous type. weve been together for four years and for the first time he got jealous. After having sex we were getting dressed to go to the store but he told me im not allowed to wear shorts to the store because he doesn't want me to show anything and i was like okay whatever so i wore yoga pants and he's like "really? your ass is going to show through those too Cover up!" But it didn't really sound serious.. is he testing me? Or what cause if he was jealous he would have showed his jealous side a long time ago!

[Gnostic45]

Many guys, unlike women, will sit on something for a LONG ASS TIME before bringing it up. This probably bothered him for YEARS, but he said NOTHING.

He is probably serious, and this is only the first of many things that have been frustrating him that he is going to start bringing up. Usually, guys who operate this way are also explosive, so be aware of where your boundaries are at this stage, and be ready to draw firm lines and hold your lines.

At four years, you are on schedule. This sounds to me like the moment that marks the fighting stage of your relationship, if your relationship survives it you guys might be ok. But keep in mind, this stage can be BRUTAL. There is healthy fighting and unhealthy fighting. If he rages, throws things and gets physical, get out. But arguing and even some yelling once in a while is going to be normal. Also both of you saying mean things you both later regret. No avoiding this stage, though. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks so much he does have a problem with sitting on things i always tell him whatever bothers you tell me we can fix it but he stays quiet hm im going to have to look out then!

[Asker]

The weird thing is im explosive possesive and jealous im the way you described weve been fighting, like the stage started two years ago. I just dont understand why he never said anything to me if im so comfortable letting him know what i hate h

[Gnostic45]

I'd like to tell you there was an easy way through this, but the problem is, each of partner is struggling within themselves at this stage as well as one another. Yet, this is a powerful process for both parties to mature and grow, provided both parties have the capacity for such growth. Thanks for your reply.

[scorpion29]

the same happened to me when I had a damn sexy girlfriend.. she was so curvy specially in her tight leggings that I observed every single guy tries to take a look at everything of her. for initial days I just ignored as I too (naturally) used to check out other girls hotter than mine and thinking it's just how a guy react.. but then as time passed and we got more close and I started suggesting her to keep her beautiful assets only for me. fortunately, she did obey me she started wearing a bit loose dresses. it's not being jealous, he might have been getting insecure of you. you guys being so many years together, it does create that you belong to him (and just him) kind of mindset in guys as if he owns you and he can't let you go anywhere.

[crazyinlovemal]

I would think his view on your relationship has taken a turn maybe he has decided that you are more than just his girlfriend, especially when they decide to become more committed not saying after 4 years but maybe if he's deciding to take it to a new level

[roy_ricky09]

Oh... This usually happens when someone else commented about you to him and all of a sudden this behaviour came up.
This isn't jealousy it's possessiveness.

[Asker]

Thank you !

[TripleAce]

Sounds a little controlling
It's just Shorts... comfy snd functional. boyfriend just took that luxuary from you

Bad boyfriend

[cancan73]

That's weird
I insist my wife wears sexy clothes to show her off
perhaps he was feeling a little insecure for some reason

[Asker]

Yes see he used to be that way just cool about everything i wore but i dont know what happened tonight lol

[cancan73]

just have sex again
that'll keep him quiet

[Danny_dan92]

Wtf... he is telling you what you can and can't do? You're grown woman, you tell your insecure boyfriend to man up and let you be an adult and do what you want. You aren't his slave

[nvik47]

@4you... haha mmm u must be a peace..;) but na he was just tryn to show u he cares...

[nvik47]

I would let u put em on so averybody can loik eyes while i show em u mine.. little

[athulnair]

I think he dont wanna show your ass shape to others

[Asker]

Yes but why after four years is my question lol were so close he was never jealous before lol

[athulnair]

Maybe he started caring you more now

[Asker]

True thank u we did have a very intimate night

[athulnair]

when?

[Dantheman101]

He does not want other guys seeing your underwear throu yoga pants

[Antvin95]

Maybe he's to the point where he feels like you don't need to show off your body anymore.

[Asker]

What do you mean " where he feels like you dont need to show off your body anymore"

[Antvin95]

He probably thinks since you've both been dating for so long that you have no one to impress anymore.

[Anonymous]

You have an untrustworthy face, he probably knows you will flirt around

[Asker]

Lol he might think that but i mean its been four years he used to not mind i rememeber i got mad because he never got jealous lol he's just so cool about everything

[hektor]

I think that he has afraid to losing you

[Asker]

Thnks we did have a very special night right before that comment

[hektor]

haahahah i think she is a lucky guy 😂

[hektor]

he**

[Danielson1987]

He might throw a ring on that finger

[Arya_Christ]

maybe he wants to take it to next level.

[uisuww28272]

It sounds controlling

[uisuww28272]

U can follow me if u want

[uisuww28272]

But yea something doesn't seem right

[uisuww28272]

I don't know

[uisuww28272]

Haha

[Anonymous]

he is transforming