Guys do it because of many factors.
They are sex obsessed. Porn-obsessed. And they take that out to the real world and do it to any woman they lust after or find sexually attractive. But the reason for why the sexual harassment starts depends on the person and the one they are harassing.
- If you're physically attractive and your wearing clothes that are sexualized, and or skimpy clothing[ you know what I'm talking about] especially in pornographic material. [I don't really know because I never watch porn]. They will catcall. Especially if your revealing your assets or wear fitting clothes that displays them even covered.
- If your not physically attractive to them, but they are attracted to what your wearing in a lustful manner. They will catcall.
- If you DON'T wear skimpy outfits BUT dress modestly, they may or may not catcall you.
-If your just physically attractive period, and you are covered up anyway. They will still catcall you.
Yes, I have plenty of times growing up, and even in my adult life. I never wear such clothes as I described. I dress modestly and appropriately. But I've been told by plenty that I'm attractive. Their words, not mine. And this is something I always had to think about. The same way you treat others how you want and desired to be treated is the same way you dress how you want others you treat you. This is just something that is socially acceptable in an oversexualized world. That cartoon explains EXACTLY the mess I went through. I never got called a slut because why? I never messed around with a man or ever been touched by a man sexually by free will. I'm a virgin. So they can't say anything that doesn't affect me. But I have been called other names. And men especially want's to know why women have trust issues and self-esteem issues. But then, again, women catcall men too and do the same thing. It's just either less common or under-addressed.
The issue is we can't put the blame on any and everybody like that because we're not there to know the situation. I do believe that women need's to be responsible for what they wear and how they chose to allow themselves to be looked at. But at the same time, men definitely shouldn't be treating women and females like this. Since this topic is pertaining to men.
It happened to me a lot. And I don't dress sexy. People have even followed me for blocks. And I have to make circles until they lose me. Or I make a phone call to someone saying I'm being followed and I describe the guy to a T. Usually that scares them off.
But I've started lying to cat callers cuz it makes it go smoother than ignoring them. for example a guy calls out to me I say 'yeah?' They say I'm cute. I say 'thanks' they call me over to them I say 'sorry I have plans I can't stick around' and they let me go peacefully
its like a desperate farcry of the horndog saying "i'm too ugly, illiterate, impatient, and unsavvy/unsmooth to ever properly seduce a chick, so i can at least have the satisfaction to tell to my male ego, you did it man, you at least expressed how you feel... .". something among these lines.
REAL TALK:
Ok #1 the freedom of speech is everyone's 1st amendment right. So that is not verbal abuse unless they are scream obscene curse words at you. And the word assault means physical not verbal.
#2 you have every right to use your 1st amendment right to reject a guy and he can exercise his 1st amendment right all he wants for getting turned down but that doesn't make you a bad person. HOWEVER!
#3 if you are looking hella good out in public or showing lots of skin cleavage skirts you are ASKING for this behavior!
#4 which should be #1 but if a guy hits on you that hard he is a player normal guys have more respect that this and they want to "earn/win" your affection.
#5 sometimes a normal guy might work up the balls to say something and you have just been unlucky with it.
#6 you have to understand that because most women want to be dominated in the bedroom that guys learn that being dominate works for them. And this is how all kinds of stuff end up happening like public gropings.
#7 how is a man supposed to blame himself when you are dressing to attract men? Bow if this is happening to you when you are dressing conservatively with no skin shown and not excessive makeup then the guys might be out of line but I know you're not dressing that way ladies. Because those ladies get asked out on dated properly. (If you act like a lady you get treated like a lady. and if you act/dress like a slut you will get treated like one) it's the honestly truth. You can exercise your 1st amendment right and disagree with me but that doesn't make me wrong. :D
Cause guys don't get it. (Just look at the other answers in here). Guys need to understand that it is in fact a big deal to girls. A lot of guys would argue "it's not harrassment, I was just complimenting her" or "it's my way of expressing myself". The thing is, harrassment isn't defined by what the 'compliment giver' feels, but the receiver. If girls are telling us to stop, we should just stop. People will argue about freedom of speech, and everyone has their own opinion, blah blah blah. But I think it's more about respect than anything else.
So why do guys catcall? Because guys don't know how it feels, and thus don't know how bad it is for girls.
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zzzz... you need to chill. Guys that do it aren't even serious its more of a prank then anything. They don't even expect you to even bother, if anything it would be hiliarious if you catcalled them back. They would be dying laughing and think you are cool.
"and men should know better." Men do know better. I don't catcall. I don't know anyone that does. Ever heard of the vocal minority? Can we stop blaming all men for something only a small minority do? If this is REALLY an issue for you, then telling me to stop doing something I've never done isn't going to change shit.
It's degrading? Really?
It may be crude and annoying, even misogynistic, but if you're letting cat callers make you feel like less of a human being, that's on you. You're an overly sensitive crybaby. Women say fucked up shit to guys all the time, every bit as much as guys do to girls. But only whiny little bitches are crying that they've been somehow dehumanized by the words of a stranger. Grow up. If this is what hurts you now, life is going to kick the shit out of you.
I really think it just depends on the area.
I mean I've been yelled at before when I walked through town. A few racial slurs, but as I got older they were a lot more rare.
Some were just pretty random like someone would say hey stupid or fuk you. And I just make a face and walk off.
I'm pretty sure some of those people were high, drunk, or doped up on something.
Women catcall too. Which kind of weirds me out because I know guys do it just to kind of get a reaction or to mess around with their friends but when women do it it feels very strange. Probably because as a society men do most of the chasing so when a woman is so vocal about what she wants to do to you it's like... yeah...
The guy is at fault. But to some extent it may be the girls fault as well. If a girl dresses too provocatively like showing off her cleavage to an extent that covering doesn't even matter... Then I'd say it's her fault as well. Dress modestly and of course it's the guy's fault. We should respect each other. Girls guys whoever it is, one should have respect others dignity and should always be respectful on their own.
it's rude and really uncalled for. it would be better if they would shut up. but the reality is some people are going to be rude assholes. you can either let them get to you or simply ignore them and move on with your day. tbh I find it more troublesome that some asshole yelling stupid shit in the street is considered harassment. it waters down the word to mean any type of comment that is seen as negative, and that is really problematic.
Depends what you call catcalling. If you're at a club or a bar or a place where people socialize and someone compliments you nicely to try engage a conversation its fine I think. But if someone yells "yo you looking thiccc af sit on my face " then its fucked up.
Why does the image not have any catcalling?
I have no idea why people do it though, shouting anything in public is embarrassing.
Side note: it isn't necessarily harassment as that needs to be repeated (so you would have to be catcalled by the same person several times).
Q: what do you mean by the paradoxical term "verbal assault"?
Think it's just bad upbringing and insecurity. They know they can't have it so what have they got to lose by making you feel like a peice of meat instead.
it's a poor man's way of giving out a compliment
if everyone could just calm the fuck down about it that'd be nice
In the first place, "verbal assault" is a threat to cause bodily harm. Telling you that you have a nice ass is not assault. Secondly, we cat-call because one out of every 100 times we will get laid.
Don't know, why do women do it? Horny and need to make a statement maybe?
I don’t see any of this in Texas. I’ve lived in all the large cities. Maybe an East Coast thing. In Mexico, it’s a different story.
It's a victimless crime but I don't condone or support it. Women can't be blamed for men's behaviour, just because they look hot.
It's aigit if you don't mind coming off like a dummy. But to say mean shit if they are like no get the fuck outa here. Is really fucked up.
Women also catcall. It's more of a class thing than a gender thing. Also there is usually booze involved.
never catcalled but i have been catcalled. i really didn't care and kept walking.
Women do it just as much too. And because the guy feels "power" and control.
I'd say it depends on the time, place, and relationship you have with a person because some girls seen to like it and some detest it.
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