It's a stereotype---obviously not all pretty girls are high mainteance and worthless in bed. But I think, as with most stereotypes, there's at least some grain of truth in it, or it's true of at least a proportion of people who fall into that group.
Pretty girls are used to getting attention. If you have a lot of guys who are interested in you, you need a way to sort of weed through them in order to choose the "best" ones, so you raise your standards very high. Some pretty girls also let the attention go to their head and decide they "deserve" all the attention. In the end, they expect guys to go out of their way to attract them, dote over them, spend lots of money on them, treat them like a princess, or otherwise go out of their way to please them. If a guy doesn't do these things, she either won't notice him, or will move on to a guy who will. Pretty girls might also be more likely to "play games", because they want to know that a guy is willing to work to attract her and keep her attention, and they're able to do so because if one guy isn't willing, there's still plenty of others who are (whereas with other girls, it might be enough to just know a guy is interested in her, without expecting him to prove HOW interested he is. If you don't have may guys attracted to you, you don't want to risk playing a game that might make him lose interest). Because some men are willing to live up to these, often unrealistic, standards, they add to the problem by reinforcing that its okay to have these expectations of people.
As far as sex is concerned---again, if you're used to all the attention, you might just expect guys to want to sleep with you (and they will!), but there's less motive to put a lot of effort into involving yourself, learning how to please someone else really well, etc. because whether or not you put in that effort, men will still want you. This is similar to the stereotype some people believe that fat girls are better in bed---because they're willing to put more effort into pleasing their partners and indulging their partner's fantasies because they need to make up for what they feel they're lacking in the looks department (which might be true of some, but certainly not all----just as the case is with pretty girls).
I think this is similar to why attractive men are often seen as jerks. They're able to act like jerks because girls will put up with it more than if he wasn't attractive. If a guy is used to girls lining up to be with him, he doesn't have to put much effort into attracting one and doesn't have to care as much about impressing one girl in particular.
Of course, there is the flipside to all of this. Guys might push this negative stereotype about pretty girls because pretty girls aren't interested in them. If a pretty girl turns a guy down, it's much easier to just chalk it up to her being stuck-up or high maintenance than to consider that maybe there's just something about him in particular that she doesn't like.
i think insecure guys who don't attract very many pretty girls think this way. like they wish they had the pretty girls but they don't so they say sh*t like that to make themselves feel better..but what is their definition of pretty? do they mean girls that are like model status, or girls that are nice to look at? does that mean they think every girl who isn't model status 9/10 isn't attractive or what? idk...i just think if any guy is gonna negatively judge you for being pretty is an asshole right off the bat. because basically he's saying they will go for a girl just for her body and stuff but she's not good in bed and worthless when not all pretty girls are like that. maybe girls wouldn't have to be like that if guys stopped worshipping them just because they won't the genetic lottery? I really think that stereotype only applies to the pretty stuck up snobby girls, but you can be pretty and cool at the same time
What a load of bullsh*t. These guys are just making an excuse why they can't bother their ass, act like a real man and go for it. If they just don't try to get to know you, but judge you by your appearance, and decide that you're high maintainance, [without knowing you] they are NOT worth your time. They just want to reassure their little egos by getting a girlfriend who is not even that attractive to them, just so that these girls who are not so pretty will always try to please them, because they have no self-confidence. Guys want a girl whom they think won't leave them, and doesn't have a million other cocks lined up on a string for them.
High maintenance yes (I don't think this way per se, but lots of guys do), bad in bed no. Girls I meet who are really good looking usually have high expectations out of guys because they can get a rich, good looking guy and/or are so used to attention from guys that they don't care about it. I can count on one hand the number of girls I have met who were genuinely hot and nice, polite people at the same time (the one I'm with is in this category). I walked up to a well, dressed, good looking girl at the supermarket the other day and she bitched at me and turned away before I could even open my mouth and ask if she knew where they hid the Parmesean (spelling?) cheese. Turns out it was near the cream cheese butter stuff and not near the other cheeses.
Also I find it impossible to believe that if you're pretty you can't get a guy - you can, you are either being super unfriendly or have impossible standards for what you want out of a guy (not just looks but what you want or expect him to say and do to earn your affection). That or maybe you just have tunnel vision on one guy and don't pay attention to other ones?
I agree with the guy who said that pretty girls often aren't worth the effort.
as a rule of thumb, I find that _made-up_ girls are high maintenance. there's a difference between natural god-given appearance and being made up -- a girl can be naturally very pretty but not made-up, or naturally plan and extremely made-up.
made-up girls tend to be insecure, fussy, self-absorbed, impossible to please, emotionally abusive, and whores for attention. in fact, an interesting study recently discovered that it's possible to identify narcissists with a fair degree of accuracy simply by their appearance -- > link <
remember that I'm speaking generally. there are exceptions, and I try to judge people as individuals. but I've also learned the hard way that a pleasant 7 is usually a better girlfriend than a difficult 10.
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I would more-or-less agree witht eh fact that pretty girls are high maintenance.
I read a guy's blog about something - he states that if a good-looking guy is trying to game a beautiful girl, but he has friends (aka wingmen) along who aren't as attractive as he is, then his chances of scoring are reduced.
I might be off-topic with this statement here, but pretty girls carry higher standards with them. I wouldn't say it's their fault either, since everyone else has kissed their asses and inflated their egos to trip like crazy.
I can easily tell when a girl is high maintenanced. If she asks me to 'buy her a drink', that's a red flag already. Or if I tease her a bit, and she acts totally cold, then she takes things too seriously. Even if I say 'You look very beautiful' to her face, and she starts teasing me by using her looks to bait me into liking her, I won't budge.
Basically, taking your looks and using them to your advantage is a big turn off. There's no good reason to do so, because there's other women out there who will be worth talking to and befriending. Beauty is common.
Kinda... generally girls your age range who are naturally pretty, but especially if they put in extra effort (makeup, nice clothes, etc) to look good, well... girls like that are very self-absorbed. They usually feel like they're the hottest chick ever and a guy is incredibly lucky to get into their panties or even just get to talk to them.
So it's high maintenance in the sense that if you're going to be with a girl like that, you have to work to make the world revolve around them because that's what they expect.
I think that your guy friend was over reacting, and that his comment tore up a bit of your self esteem; thus, disregard his comment and just be happy with yourself. Underlining all of this is your desire to be desirable to a member of the other sex. There's no point in worrying about your routine in the morning if you like how you look. It's not worth changing yourself for some guy because in the end he wouldn't be liking the real you.
That sounds terribly cheesy, but I believe it to hold true.
If your face is plastered with orange foundation, then yeah - high maintenance. Natural beauty is not. My ex was the most beautiful girl I've ever seen - but it had its downsides which were, because she was so pretty and had a great body, every bloody guy either hit on her or joined a queue to be with her.
Don't ask me about her now, she broke up with me a fortnight ago and I haven't seen her since, but I suspect she's already with one of the many guys who showed interest - and this is why I'm probably not going to bother again.
Guys (at least the perceptive ones) know that it's an uphill battle with "pretty girls". These pretty girls are used to attention and to being hit on, so just another guy doing that doesn't even cause them to think. They also tend to be more experienced, so they are used to being doted on and stuff, and therefore they become harder to please than other girls. In a way that leads pretty girls to being high maintenance.
He's just intimidated by you. He's sort of trying to help but kind of in a backhanded way. Guys can often tell if a girl is high maintenance more by her personality and how she treats other people than her looks. But if a girl wears a lot of makeup or dresses super trendy, then yeah, that can come off as high maintenance. If you're just naturally pretty and dress casual, then it's just guys being too shy to ask you out because you're pretty.
I think they refer to girls who are constantly touching up their make-up and might fix their hair during the act or don't like certain positions because its not their best angle. Pretty is no problem I guess, extreme vanity is.
not everybody sees it like that, but some do..."pretty girls" aren't always high maintenance and as long as they have a good personality to go along with their looks I don't see why it wouldn't be worth the effort
Yes and No. Being high maintenance isn't a big deal to me but I hear where he is coming from. It could be that they are intimidate by you or just assume you have a boyfriend.
"Don't get me wrong they're nice to look at, but a lot of times not worth the effort "
Well said!
I heard that before. Guys say we just lay there and don't put any effort in.
We're high maintenance because we put in more of an effort to look good. Not all wake up with clear skin
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