My boyfriend would rather be in work than see me?

[Anonymous]

Im really confused i dont know why my boyfriend hates spending time with me it could literally be two weeks and he come up with any excuse not to see me. Like yesterday it was because he was sick today he's working so he's happy. Like on Saturday he wouldn't see me because it was too cold out and he hates the snow and said he was to mad to go out.

Eventually he decided he would see me but i say it was just for sex because thats all it ever is that one day for sex.
I keep saying it to him that i feel like your just using me but he says he's not that he loves me and he's making love to me. And i told him how shit I've been feeling by him and he just started saying im the one with insecuritys that he can't change that.

He says its all in my head that i think im using him and that he loves n cares about me but how come i feel always the same i feel like shit i feel like he doesn't want me and is just using me i feel like im an ugly cunt thats how i feel tbh.

I always fantasize about being loved and cared about by some one and just feeling happy like im the only girl in the world i dunno its stupid
Im just so confused i dont know what is real or not anymore

[zinnca]

Yell him exactly what you need in the relationship to stay. If that's to see him 1-2 times a week at least and reaffirmation that he cares and what he sees in you 1-3 a week on the days you don't see each other. Tell him. If he can't do that and that's what you need in a relationship you should probably leave and find someone who is more compatible with you.
It's true you can't make people change but you need things and if he can't provide it for you someone else will be willinh

[Asker]

I do tell him but he says because of work and then me in college he can't see me but anytime he does have spare time he never choses it to spend it with me. I just feel like i really dont matter to him and i dont know how to make him want me

[zinnca]

Then honestly he probably shouldn't be in a relationship if he doesn't even have time to really solidify the relationship. I think you should find someone else who can or be single and work on building your self confidence back up

[P_R_X_1]

Move on. He's using you. On your way buy a dictionary so you won't have any insecurities.

[Asker]

Wow jesus how could i have insecurities with people like you

[P_R_X_1]

I taught you how to spell. Be grateful. The serious part is I'm telling you the truth. You may not want to hear it, but if someone is interested they will make time. If he only shows up for sex it's not your fault you love him but he's taking advantage of you cause he knows he can show up whenever he wants to get pussy. If you don't mind or you want me to lie to you why ask. Besides he might be seeing someone else & he doesn't deserve you if he's taking you for granted. Move on so you can meet someone who always has time for you & won't take you for granted. You want to hear he loves you don't ask cause if you have to ask then you already know the answer.

[Asker]

Ok thanks for your help in my question, but insulting me on my spelling really offended me tbh everyone makes mistakes so for one spelling mistake i made you say i need a dictionary wow i definitely didn't ask 4 that in my question

[P_R_X_1]

I was joking. You're too serious. It's okay to laugh at yourself. I know it was a mistake. However if you don't wanna hear any criticism than don't put yourself out for everyone to read about.