Do you think most guys who hate "sluts" - especially the ones who proclaim it strongly - are actually turned on by them but are in self-denial?
I think deep down most men really are aroused by women who've slept around or done sexual things with the average neighbor, co-worker, boss, student, customer, etc. but are suppressing it because they've never had that kind of experience or opportunity with women like that and are actually frustrated about it, so they try to label them so badly as a way for them to feel better about it. And also because these women may have more sexual experience or sexual knowledge than they do and it would of course bother them.
I think most guys really are attracted to "sluts" but are mentally overwhelmed by them and are in denial. What do you think?
Are men in denial about hating women who've slept with lots of guys?
I am not going to lie about it but Sluts are only good for "WHAT THEY DO BEST?" and its fucking, so guys use them for sex BUT, When it comes to relationship only a idiot is going to trust her with anything and YES the open hookup world favours men and don't try to lie about it,90% of woman don't get the hot man 24/7 either but GUYS automatically assume every girl outhere is fucking some hot guy.
When in reality 90% of them personally scolding guys for not making moves and just waiting for assholes to do something. I think its due to absence of some general forum to talk about behaviour and humans emotions+imaginary thinking to develop their, Similar image of monster rather than accepting their fault and do something about it. The Guys tend to label womans as cheating sluts (majority is up to age of 27) and woman tend to label guys=Not loyal enough
I personally think a woman is going to cheat on you if you allow it to happen to you, you should respect ladies otherwise you will get nothing by aggression on first date but during the course of relationship your consistency and inflexible attitude towards cheating or things related to it will make it perfectly clear to her, if She cheats its done find a new man. She will probably call you many things for it and do her best to manipulate you in to something (woman are good at it just look at number of guys that their g. f back after cheating)
Its same reason for sluts the Guys tend to hate them but I am 100% sure they will fuck them at every opportunity BUT again the man will probably use any shot at pussy he gets it his nature, But Slut on the other hand is trying to settle down and they mistake his "LUST" for attraction, somehow woman believes if I can allow him to fuck me. I can manipulate him to be with me but its just woman thinking. The Guy will fuck you and then "ON TO THE NEXT ONE" but the woman is wasting her productive year and her 35(beauty limit) clock is ticking pretty fast and that's why majority of ladies tend to very very serious about settling down at 30's but Guys have tasted multiple pussies by then and his age mark mark won't expire. If he can't trap it, he will pay for it.
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No, I don't.
I think there are two common 'negative' views men have about sluts. But to recognize what's going on we need to step back and see why men's instincts around sex are probably how they are.
Men seem to have an instinct to randomly screw available women. Men also fall for women, at which point they get jealous, protective, etc. It's likely both have uses from an evolutionary standpoint - one takes a shot at having random kids, the other invests resources in your highest likelihood of survival kids.
One group of men looks down on sluts, but is happy to sleep with them. These guys view them as good for fucking but not loyal enough for relationships. These sorts of guys tend to view most women as highly likely to cheat around hot men (which likely comes from the fact that these guys have lots of women cheat -with- them). So they want very faithful women as partners.
A larger group, who 'hate' sluts more is men who don't get laid. Those guys perceive that when women are relationship focused, people tend to pair off one by one. In an open 'hookup' world, they perceive that most women sleep with a smaller group of 'hot' men. They are not in that group. So they're angry because sluts, instead of pairing off (with them) are instead going around fucking a bunch of hot guys who get lots of partners.
I do not think 'secretly turned on by it and ashamed' is a major driver. Some guys -are- turned on by it, but they seem a minority. More guys seem to be turned on by a virgin, from a pure 'turn on' standpoint.
The same could be said for salty bitches who pretend to be repulsed by Chad womanizers. They're just mad because they can't control him sexually. But yes, they want his dick in their every orifice and they want it BAD. Incel types who shit on sluts are no different. Of course they want to fuck them. But they can't, so they take up a bogus moral posture about hating sluts. Most of them would be all for sluts if only they could score one. Which makes me sad, because I legit hate sluts and I wish more people hated them for the right reasons.
Although I think you're right in most cases there are legitimately men and women who don't like sluts and just want to find someone with self control and traditional morals. You can read my post on here if you want more detailed info. But yeah most are just frustrated they are not getting any so they will project.
Men hate to admit that they love sluts, actually. I mean, there is a reason why these women are existing and thriving and are common around us. That is why it is important to get a man with character, at least I personally look for character as one of the major things I look for in my partner.
@Samantha7 It's because there's something sexually arousing to me about a woman with a body count. When I call them "sluts" I use that word just because that's how to identify with people, even though in my real life I never use that word and feel like it's really overused. I just refer to them as women who've slept with a lot of men, and who may not necessarily do it out of actual habit but that it's just how her life worked out that way.
No we don't. We can get attracted to any potential mate. Doesn't mean we like them.
When we say we are "attracted", but in what sense tho?
"Attracted" doesn't simply mean sexual attraction, but women are more concerned solely about sexual attraction. And yes it's natural for them to to be concerned since they have got powerful assets. They just want to know if they're powerful enough.
There is no difference between a slut's body and a nice woman's body. So if we can get sexually attracted to anybody.
It doesn't mean we like them. The asker completely ignores this.
Besides you might have heard that men want sexually dominant woman...
1) how sexy a woman looks. 2) They jerk off on what they (men) would like to do with their mate's (woman's) body.
These are two different things.
In men who say that they would prefer sexually dominant woman.. 1) is more common fantasy that the 2) nd.
Men jerk off to 3) woman's sexual dominance/ boldness.
You can relate this with
the sexual fantasy, fetish that is very common in men is the "cuckolding" fantasy. And the most searched type of porn on the internet is the cuckold porn.
Almost 45-50% men have this fantasy
Sluts are "bold" and "dominant" as they're shown in the porn videos.
Again their "sexually attractive" bodies play their roles. And this combined effect of 1) and 3) overweights the effect of 2) which is the cause of concern for women and which also becomes the cause of their increased insecurities.
The idea that a beautiful and innocent looking woman has sexual desires so great, she insatiable and she fucks multiple people to just to satisfy her itch... This idea suddenly boosts men's sexual... The pleasure derived from doing something that is prohibited...
Well, now there's an interesting concept. One of my favorite jokes goes like this: "What's the difference between a slut and a bitch?
The slut fucks everyone at the party. The bitch fucks everyone but me!" That's still funny to me and a lot of comedy is funny because of the truth resonating at the heart of it. I would still hesitate to generalize with the term "most," but I'm certain that at least some people feel as you've suggested. Men and women both. Men want to be with a sexually adventurous woman, and it's always nice to feel desired. And I'm certain conservative women sometimes wish to be more adventurous, but don't dare risk their reputation, let alone health. I've never had a problem with women's promiscuity. I've enjoyed adventurous women a great deal. They're knowledgeable, open-minded, usually provocative, often skilled, and typically generous. In my experience, they're quite willing and capable of taking full responsibility for their own orgasm too. An intoxicating quality that too few women possess. I've never applied the term slut, except to the woman who cheated on me. I still regret denigrating promiscuous women by comparing them to someone so selfish and impulsive. I was wrong. May they forgive me.
This may be the point for which slut walks are meant to raise awareness. Women own their own sexuality, same as men. As long as they accept responsibility for their choices, I have no problem with that. To be fair, I'm also quite certain that there are educated and open-minded people who've examined the statistics of promiscuity, single parents, STDs & STIs, et cetera, and are genuinely opposed to such liberal sexuality outside the confines of marriage or at least long-term committed relationships. And they have good points. But I believe in freedom of almost every kind. As long as you aren't hurting others, or taking things from others, I think we should all be able to do whatever we want whenever we want. I often feel very alone with that particular principle.
I used to work in porn. Im attractive and i have a big dick I've always gotten lots of girls. I literally just bumped into a girl at the gas station a day before Thanksgiving and we had sex. So that being said, I've been with way more partners than most sluts have been. That being said. I dont hate sluts, they are fun. The problem is they are completely worthless for relationships. Im a man ho but the second im in a relationship im completely infatuated with them and them only. Im in a relationship because i want a family. In my experience, women who are sluts are not capable of being completely about one man. They will never get over lack of attention from lots of men and lastly they often put themselves before their want of a family. So they just aren't suitable for marriage. To make it even worse, time must pass to be a slut. If you're 18 there's only so much sex you could have vs 28. Women are valued based on their fertility so many men want a young girl not an older one. And all the sluttiest girls are older. So its just one more force pushing men away from more sluttier women. Personally id prefer there to be less sluts. Finding someone to marry and have a family with is way more important than having fun and there are hardly any good girls available.
The reason I, and many men that I've talked to, don't like promiscuous women is because when we want a decent and wholesome relationship we can't take sluts seriously for that so we get mad that they would choose that road instead of being in a monogamous relationship.
If me, being a man, can have enough self control to turn down women for sex that I can tell want it because we want to find a good partner and want to be a good partner that hasn't slept around with dozens of women then I expect a good woman to do the same.
And sometimes when I meet a woman thinking maybe she's actually a halfway decent woman who has self control and is not controlled by her carnal urges then I get a little disappointed when I find out she's just the same as pretty much every girl nowadays with little or no self control.
It's not a jealousy thing, it's not an intimidation thing, it's a "I want to find someone like me" thing. Plus there are studies to show that the more partners a woman has the more likely she is to cheat or be unable to pair bond and stay loyal. It also shows they are impulsive and make rash decisions which is never a good thing. That's a big no-no for me.
I have never cheated on a girl/woman and I never will, even though I've had opportunities, and some even with women more attractive than the girlfriend at the time. It's just a sh*tty thinkg to do to someone.
So, in conclusion, I can't speak for ALL men but I think a lot more often than not there are men like me that just want a wholesome and good girl and when there are practically none left we get frustrated sometimes.
Hell I don't judge any woman as long as she is hot on me; why would I be that stupid? Every gal is different and has different mileage and I will drive anything that gets me from point A to point B. Now, if it breaks down along the way then I hate her... lol
Actually I often thought that most of these guys that claim to be these one partner types and criticize women that can go out and get 20 like nothing are really full of shyt and if they could get laid often you can bet your ass they would. I really think these so-called nice guys are probably the worst possible control freaks a woman could get involved with. If they could get a lot they damn well would.
I disagree. Hate is a strong word. I think most men would prefer not to marry a "slut". I know a lot of men, who view a woman who has had multiple sexual encounters as "damaged goods".
I personally don't hate promiscuous women. I have friends who are promiscuous and although I don't approve of sleeping around (for both sexes) I'm not gonna judge them or hate them for doing so. Jesus was friends with a prostitute and he was a cool guy.
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Easy sluts are great as they provide a quick release and some bragging rights of just having gotten laid. Low expense and low effort.
Now for a long term relationship it is completely different. Her reputation will reflect on the guy. She is was screwed by so many people and therefor thought of less by the community and even his friends. He is thought of less because that is all he could get, damaged goods. Ten years into the relationship and still people will see her as cheap and him as stupid.
It's not an interest in a girl that's been run through by so many guys, perhaps it is envy (that they/ we can't as easily have as many sex partners as we want) and resentment that they and society push us to accept them after they've been so thoroughly defiled. It doesn't seem fair that we miss out on the power they have, and after they abuse the power we're supposed to treat them like a treasure instead of getting a girl who's respectable.
I don't think there is anything attractive about knowing a girl has been with a lot of men. The only thing that's attractive about them is the assumption that she may be kinkier/more adventurous in bed as a result.
And that only makes them attractive in a "it would be fun to sleep with her" kind of way but not nessesarily in a "I want to commit to her" way.
Yea those guys will say they hate them but will still have sex with them, which makes them look dumb. They won’t know if a girl has slept around usually anyway. I’ve never seems a girl that slept around have a problem with getting into a relationship.
They won't 'hate' them necessarily, more they don't think they're relationship material. But ofc they'll want to have sex with them if there's no commitment.
@Coolgirl235 I believe that if approached by a "slut" they know, whether it's a neighbor, co-worker, etc. and she offered sex to them, that most men would definitely agree to it, even the ones who say they would never fuck a slut.
If a woman doesn't want think I'm relationship material because I've hooked up, that's her choice. However most women I've encountered have normally expected I was and didn't care one bit. I on the other hand do care.
In my personal experience women have judged guys who are virgins far more harshly then guys who have had a lot of sex.
If he's a virgin suddenly it's 'why don't girls like him? What's wrong with him? Is he a creep?' blah blah.
Whereas if he's had sex a lot in MY experience it's more 'Oh yeah, girls like him. I've got a man who girls like'.
I'm sure there's plenty of women who might not like guy's who have been with many women, but as a guy who was questioned by women when I told them I was a virgin when I was younger when they expected different, I've always found that if they expect me to have a high count anyway, that's fine with me
Dude you are only 23. You should know this. Women would not judge a hot guy for being a virgin if he was a Virgin by choice. Girls in our age bracket do not want a “man thot”/hoe/fuckboy. They would rather have a virgin, maybe it’s because I’m a little younger than you. But that’s how it is for most girls my age. N what girls would be so dumb to think that if a guy had a lot of sex that means that more girls like him? He could have easily just lowered his standards and just had slept with anybody. Which is nasty and guys that do that are usually fucked up in the head.
Yeah, it could just be the girls I'm around. You might be in a 'better' crowd. In the clubs, I regularly notice I'll get more attention from women after they've seen me kiss another girl or something. In that environment, having female attention seems to boost your status in the eyes of many women. The guys who usually struggle the most are the ones standing alone in the corner.
But again, that's my world and I understand that your experience may suggest a completely different picture.
@Manon what more is there to find out about this? There isn’t. N @kkaoes yea you must be around some hoeing girls cause no no promiscuous girl that I know would talk to a guy after he kissed another girl. Girls get very jealous if you didn’t know. N insecure especially if you are interacting with other girls. That’s a straight turn off for most of us. Oh shit, most people in the club are off the drugs anyway, so yea it would be different in there, but not that much different.
Of course we are attracted. Why should this mean we don't hate them? No man really likes a slut. Never! A man likes a slut only as he is shoving his dick inside her. Once the thick hot cream has been spilled, it is over. She is merely an object that fulfilled a man's need to cum.
Being sexually experienced (knowing how to please a man in bed) is the only good thing about these types of girls.
Theyve seen it all nothing surprizes them, so nothing is really new to them, theyre subconsciously comparing you to their previous partners, and are less likely to be committed to you if your not as good as their previous guy. Some of these are my opinions so not going to valid for every situation
I very much agree with you. Well, I dont know if men are inherently all attracted to someone with a lot of partners, but I think they hate them and label them out of anger. Either because they didn't have the opportunity to go wild too, or because they think all women need to be pure and whatever.
Sluts may turn us on SEXUALLY, because they are extremely pretty most of the time and they make for an awesome bedroom experience. HOWEVER, that being, deep in the back of our minds we KNOW that this woman is a horrible option to take seriously. When you are in a relationship with a woman, that woman is a representation of you, whether she knows it or not. And if she's painted herself in a bad light, we'll she's gonna put you in a bad light as well because YOU are the one that is taking HER seriously.
I'm sure there are some men who have genuine hate for women who sleep with random people, but most of what seems like "hate" from the guys in general is more like frustration either personal of themselves or about other people. I don't think it's really fair to blame all of them for feeling envy or frustration.
pfffft i dug up my feelings. all you have to do is think about how many guys cum in that just as you about to eat her out. your like auuuuu fuck dat.
now yes watching it online is different. fantasies of a hirl getting gang bangs and threesomes, and so on. its hot! but in reality ill moon walk from that idea. lets say you dont eat her out. still got to take into account her saliva she shared it with, who nut in her mouth and your kissing her, what disease she have and many many more things.
Nope. We are matured enough not to re-use the used products. Just a slut might look attractive. doesn't mean a guy wants to be with her. I would be ashamed lol😂
Must have heard about men wanting sexually dominant women, have you?
Have you heard about this fantasy, fetish "cuckolding Fantasy"
This is a very common male fantasy. Almost 45-50% men seem to have it. The most searched porn category is the cuckold porn.
It's a form of sadomasochism, that is, deriving sexual pleasure from traumatic situations.
It's a form of complete transformation and going through lots of feelings and emotions in a very short time. Just like the difference between "force" and "impulse"
I think maybe women feel this way. 🤔 I always find it distasteful when I chicks a ho.. but that may well just be because part of me wishes to be that liberal.
No that would be very hypocritical. You find it distasteful for a girl to sleep around but want to do it yourself? The epitome of a hypocrite. Not good.
Well... Actually I agree with @Bandit74. Sure she'd be more kinky in bed, but if you are looking for a commited relationship, do you think you can trust someone who sleeps around? I think this is why some women lie about the number of sexual partners they've had
Also I'm not saying I'd dump a woman for having a high body count right on the spot. The more important quality is her having the courage, honesty and integrity to tell the truth about that at some point, so that the proper conversations and adjustments can happen, and the each other's boundaries are discussed.
It's always better to be loved for who you truly are. I think that's the best way to "not settle". And it's not inherently bad to have a high body count, just understand that at it can reasonably raise questions about your tendency to commit to your partner and/or be exclusive with your partner. However, honesty is the first step in building trust.
Im a girl so I dont know. But Im not attracted to a trash who got his d in other 20 women before me or had one night stand. A man is smart enough to keep a women with him , A boy will sleep with as many girls because he wants to prove that he is macho.
I'm of the opinion that you should only have sex with people you care for, that said that doesn't mean who you care for should just be limited to a single person. You might want to spread the love if you catch my drift. it is possible to love more then one person you know.
Yes. You can love your family. Friends. Dogs etc. doesn't mean you have to have sex with all of them. And love? Its a feeling you can have just for one person at a time. If you are attracted to more people its somethings else tho.
You could possibly be on the right track but I don't hate anyone, I don't really care what other people do and do not do. I also have no interest in casual sex and even if I could get laid with lots of women I wouldn't.
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