I’ve had a strong crush with my neighbor for years, we would always flirt with looks, smiles and greetings but he has never made a further approach. Recently he told me he assumed I was into his friend (which I told him I’m not). Anyway, last night I saw him in the hallway with his brother. He greeted me kinda distant, and a few minutes after I saw him in the parking lot again. This time he came up to me and greeted me again with a hug which he has never done.
It just makes me wonder why some guys won’t display attraction in front of their family or friends?
Why won't some guys display attraction/affection in front of family and friends?
I don't know, they have different pathologies than I do. I would inseminate you in front of your mother and then inseminate her. I won't go into exploits but PDA has never (or always) been a problem. But I'm hypersexual and subconsciously use physical affection to validate my own self; making you feel good makes me feel valued. So essentially, making you feel good in public is a bit flashy for my taste but it doesn't hinder the mechanisms required for me to continually provide the devoted good vibes.
That feeling can become like withdrawal however, and I notice this pinging need to not explore a group too greedily without checking back with my SO. I think it's just decent dinner-party behavioral management but it's also partly how I interact with others and how uncomfortable it can be to be suddenly intimate with a person then not because their attention is elsewhere. And I can't tune into a whole crowd as well, so it's more like I have to change tacts and become a conductor of my own values. And then I'm stuck because I've been ignoring them in service of learning about others. But the crowd is 100% right. My values truly do seem to dictate the proper course, even when it doesn't seem so immediately. It's when I ignore them that I suffer.
Perhaps these other men are dreadfully worried about what cosmically may befall them if they were to ignore whatever values cause them 0 PDA -- as you suggest. If those values don't border or crossover with their sexualized persona (who they are with you) then that should explain your quandary. They are more their social, externally valued self with family than they are their own internally driven demons. But I'd just totally ignore personality science unless you want to get real nerdy, because its mostly reduced to bumper sticker garbage anyhow.
It's much harder to show attraction in front of other's I am sure both families would love for you two to be together Be patient and let him know how you feel. It will give him the motivation to make a move
Tell your mom you like him She will tell his mom And she will mention you to him.
It is respect my boyfriend sometime won't kiss me infront of my parents or his due to culture and how we are raise. Because we try to practice not kissing in public especially in my country is like a big sin to kiss another girl from different religions and race. I am like split two
In my country kissing a girl who look totally different can send two people to jail. That why if we both can we try not to act like a couple in my country or one of us go back home then the other next month go.
You probably haven’t earned that status or that’s just not how he was raised. My parents don’t do PDA and I tend not to either. It’s just seems awkward for the most part
Depends on what his situation is and what he has told who ever he is with. Ex: could be on a date with someone. Waiting somewhere else. Or maybe he is doing that to protect you from him, so he does not try and act on you. Or a converstation started about you after seeing you. Talked about it. Then he acted/got some bravey to act on his feelings. The options are endless lol.
Do you really think your neighbor has been flirting with you for years? Or he is simply a friendly person that says "hi" to people and maybe makes some conversation from time to time?
There are many women that I chat with here and there and I am friendly with yet I have no particular attraction to. OTH , it is possible from their point of view that they think I am flirting with them. But that is there issue not mine.
I don't' like to in front of my parents because it's embarrassing. I don't want my family potentially teasing me for giving my partner affection. And I don't do it in public for the same reason why I don't' like seeing others showing PDA. It makes people jealous or uncomfortable.
Well in the Irish community, I have noticed many sons and daughters aren't very affectionate (they don't hug each other often or express their love for one another) it stems from their parents not being very affectionate and creating a cycle of behaviour. This is obviously not exclusively a trait of just parts of the Irish community but from my own experience. Carl Frampton (Irish World Champion, boxer) spoke about this, which was kinda funny.
Well the more people around the more people will see the potential rejection, which can be seen as a blow on his manlyness. So unless he is sure you want the same he might want to keep it private.
That kind of pisses me off, I mean you are right there and he doesn't really say anything? I dont even have dreams like that. That's a fantasy I can barely comprehend and he just craps it away?
Honestly I think it's because how men were always told to be tough, don't cry, don't show fear so basically to not show emotions and feelings. And although it's changing right now, men can still feel uncomfortable showing those, it's like a subconscious feeling of being judged.
Well family and friends are the closest to men it’s only when you are his everything (gf/wife) does he showcase pda and even at that point it’s common for it to be an effort displayed by the woman.
My boyfriend didn't grow up being shown affection so he hasn't got much experience showing it himself but he is slowly growing more confident in doing so around family. Not so much friends
Most men are idiots. (You will come to realize this with time) Especially when u group them together 2 or more. They think they gotta act like this cuz their dad or brother or friends do.
Because those guys don't grew in a family where people would easily hug or touch easily, making it weird to do it in their presence. If alone it's different.
Maybe his brother isn't the one he wants to talk about you. Because if he greeted you with a hug his brother will ask him about you two. I've been in situations like this and I didn't like when people started asking me questions.
We limit our affection in front of family to a small kiss on the lips and hugging each other. It is just polite and shows good taste that you aren´t put on a show for family and friends.
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