My boyfriend wants blowjobs but won't go down on me?

[Anonymous]

So evey boyfriend I had went down on me and I absolutely love it but my recent boyfriend who I've been with for over a year and we live together does not want to go down on me and says I get too wet and he hates it. I have never had any guy complain except him and not only that he wants blowjobs... alooot. he expects blowjobs here but won't pleasure me. What should I do? And is it selfish of him to want blowjobs but he won't go down on me?

[muddywaters33]

Why can't people give an opinion without trying to fuck you? Lol anyways it could be selfish but that depends on you. If you enjoy giving bjs and would be upset if you couldnt give one anymore than no he's not being selfish because you're doing it because you BOTH like it. If he's already told u he doesn't like it and ur not crazy about sucking him either than yeah he's being selfish. I admit i don't know too many men that hate wetness. Try and talk with him and see if maybe there's a different reason. Im NOT saying you're dirty, but maybe he doesn't like the soap or body wash you're using. If you're douching and change it up with a different soap or wash and he still ain't goin for it maybe try having him go down on u in the shower he won't notice wetness when your both soaked. If not he may be a selfish lover or he legit doesn't like it. Best wishes to you both! P. s. if u can't get him to eat try and get him to play with u while your blowing him. If he isn't down for that he's definitely selfish.

[GingerGuy]

This is a touchy thing. It is selfish yes, however if it was reversed, would you feel the same way? Like, if a woman didn't like going down on me, ok, it's not for everyone and I'd never "expect it". And I certainly don't want someone "forced" to do it. It's not going to be good anyway if they aren't into it. So then, as far as reciprocating it, that's a personal choice and would depend how much YOU enjoy it I think. If you love it, then you're getting something from it so I'd just let it go myself. However, if not so much, and them "expecting it" would be a turn off also, in which case I might refuse to do it and tell them, "if you're not going to, neither am I" LOL But, this could also create some problems in your relationship and is that "worth it" you know?

[GingerGuy]

That said, his selfish behavior in general will spill out in other areas to I suspect, so this is probably something that's going to be a constant problem in your relationship if he doesn't learn to give and take and compromise.

[AmandaYVR]

Some guys love it, some will never. I think if it's important to you and you feel he's being unfair and is unwilling to discuss it, it's probably best you move on. Girls really don't need to tolerate behaviours that are ultimately selfish. If he's a little weirded out by it (you said "hates it"), you could try having a bubble bath together, or a shower, or just you have a shower, and then without giving him a blowjob (he doesn't deserve it now), seduce him a little, but stop shy of any penetration. Get him worked up, tease him, and tell him it's his turn. If he can't do it then, and want it then, he's won't ever. Next...

[holograph]

It's selfish. You could talk to him about it being important to you or you could stop giving him BJs until he agrees that pleasure should be mutual.

I don't understand why this would be but I've heard a lot of guys are like that. But not all of us are.

Some guys are so grossed out by womens bodies that I wonder if they might be gay.

[Asker]

I've already told him I'll stop giving BJ's until he starts returning the favour and his reply is "ok then don't do it"

[AmandaYVR]

@asker Seeing you say that, my opinion stands. 'He's a keeper.' Not.

[holograph]

That could be concerning depending on whether he cares about his BJs or not. Now personally I've never thought of BJs as being all that important but male friends of mine as well as many guys on this site seem to comment that it's important to them. If your boyfriend feels they are important yet he's not willing to work with you on this then it really comes across as him not caring.

But if he's one of the (possibly minority) guys that don't find BJs very important then maybe he just didn't think it was worth a potential argument over.

How does he act otherwise? Does he have drive in life? Does he work? Does he do chores? Has he always been like this or have things changed lately? If he's struggling in general then maybe he's got depression, which can also affect one's sex drive.

[Asker]

He's always been like this and he has a job plus helps with cores around the house she he's a pretty good dad and provider. He says sex isn't important to him and that he loves me for me but he loves sex and BJ's. Apparently his ex's were bad at BJ's and I was his beat one. He's already asked to marry me so I don't know. He Doesbt get overly mad or upset about it he just says "I'm sorry but I don't like it when you get really wet"

[AmandaYVR]

Wow, asker, that last paragraph is much different than your first portrayal.
Now it's a completely different scenario.

[Asker]

@AmandaYVR Well other then him not going down on me we have a good relationship. That's the only thing that bugs me

[markscott]

It seems to me, that if he won't go down on you, then you shouldn't give him a bj. Being too wet is bogus. He just doesn't want to do it. He wants to get, but not give.

[spartan55]

You really have to ask if that is selfish? Really? That is the DEFINITION of selfish... fuck that, you should dump him. You get too wet? That's his excuse? What a dumb fuck.

[Ripper_E]

There is no such thing as too wet.
Don't give him a blowjob. It's fine if he doesn't like giving, but he shouldn't expect something he won't reciprocate.

[Asker]

I won't give him no more BJ's but I also know when I don't he'll just go watch porn

[Ripper_E]

if that bothers you then you need to decide what you want to do. He's being very selfish.

[Reviller17]

Yeah is selfish and dumb, because if you get really wet is a signal that he is doing something good, and since when is sex not messy, in the bed pleasure is the rule.

[R4vedave]

He's selfish, and doesn't care about your satisfaction. Leave him

[Stevefiveo]

You need to sit him down and say listen, you are my boyfriend and it is 100% your job to satisfy me sexually. So you either eat me out the way I like or you will find someone that will.

[swettannie]

it kind of selfish yes. the question is, are you ok with this?

[Asker]

Not really. I wish he would go down on me cause I enjoy the feeling and I do it to him so I would think it's fair

[swettannie]

thne you need to talk to him

[Asker]

I already have. His reply all the time is "I don't like it cause you get to wet" and says things like "I don't wanna be swimming" so he made it clear he doesn't want to because of that reason

[Haelaeix123]

It's very selfish of him and id stop until he agrees to pay his dues to be fair

[MannMitAntworten]

Dear me, this how most women are. I am sympathetic. Tell him he cums too much and you hate it.

[October808]

Are you a squirter? That would be a turn on for any sane guy.

[Surely]

Straddle his face in a 69 position and see what happens.

[dudeinohio]

Yes, it is selfish of him.

[Anonymous]

That's so selfish of him.

[Ray_Lala]

Is he DJ Khaled?