Guys, do you ever feel like crying?

[happyhedgehog]

I know a lot of girls cry quite often, including myself. I can't help it, no matter how hard I try, even though I wish I could. How do you guys keep it together? Do you just not feel like crying? Or do you have a way of holding it in? I have only seen guys cry a couple of times, while I've lost count of how many times I've seen girls cry. Are guys just better at holding in their emotions?

[Anonymous]

Yes I cry more often than the average guy. And 9 times out of 10 I’ve lost respect for it. 10 times out of 10 I completely lost romantic respect for it.

I remember I had to meet up with my ex gd three weeks after we split. It was for business purposes. She agreed to finish up designing a website I needed. I kept it professional but at the very end I looked her in the eyes and said “I miss talking to you”. And my eyes watered up. That was the ONLY time I had ever cried in front of her in a one year relationship. Her responses “with EXES I don’t talk because it weird”. She then rubbed more salt in the wound by comparing me to her last ex boyfriend. I will never forget that. Ever.

So girls if you wonder by guys don’t cry, well you are one of the major reasons. Barring very special circumstances (Funerals, weddings, birth of child) you don’t respect men who do that. Period.

[JBarbs]

I hate to be near anyone at all if I feel like I might cry so I always walk off on my own to hide it because it makes me feel so pathetic. The only time I've cried in front of a girl was the night the love of my life told me she had never loved me and never would while also trying to subtly get with my friend. He realised I had disappeared and found me/ stayed with me so I wouldn't harm myself while she tried to justify herself so it looked like I was just an idiot. Would rather kill myself than ever see her face again. Yes men cry, I'm very depressed but I hold it together somehow most of the time but it's painful to be seen by anyone when I'm like that.

[Gizimo]

So, I used to cry a lot as a child and bit through my early teens. Although, now whenever a situation that I would think I would cry during I can never muster any tears. Even things that make me feel depressed like a death or constant harrassment aimed towards me. It's only something i can take with me, causing me to think about it when I'm alone basically all bottled up.
The only times I end up crying is when someone talks with me about my problems, instead its left to bottle up and keep me up at night.

[N192K001]

it's a little of both.

Given the differences of mass & scale of the hormonal glands & the whole body to be affected, we're biologically hindered compared to women. Females produce 60% more prolactin (which is not only involved in milk-, but also tear-production). Also, testosterone (which men produce more of) further inhibits the our more-limited prolactin-supply's crying-enabling effects.
www.livescience.com/...tim-hunt-why-women-cry.html

Hence, we're biologically less prone to it. (And as the article suggests, triggers for crying between the sexes differ as well.)

And the few times we're at our biological limits, cultural-pressures & upbringing dictate the norms, escapes, work-arounds, etc. to be followed.

[InDetail]

Yes, the only time though is when what I fear is likely or happening, like the numbers of people using Ashley Madison, possibly just for hook ups for those not in relationships but how many are? The internet is so easy to use and hide shit for someone who doesn't trust much it's scary thinking of those closest to you betraying you without you knowing or with, it's like at any point in time you could become a victim if they have those shallow thoughts everyone has... and as a guy we are obligated to do a lot of stuff so that makes the fear more intense, but only if we put years of effort into making it unlikely

[drummerdude25]

I have done my fair share this year... I lost my father earlier this year, so there’s been some rough times in the last few months, but I’m generally pretty strong emotionally. I don’t just cry just to cry lol.

But also a good song will make me cry on occasion. Not usually because it’s sad, but more because it may just be an exceptionally beautiful song, or sometimes because it’s just THAT good. Like if I feel it’s really striking a deep chord with me, sometimes I get a little emotional.

Sometimes there’s just a lot of emotional potency in music. It’s like “spiritual” almost...

[Odeiki]

We're raised not to cry. "Crying is a sign of weakness" and "don't ever appear weak" is instilled in a lot of us from a very early age. But as others have said, sometimes things get to be too much and we break down. Usually not in front of people. I can count on one hand the number of times someone has seen me cry since I was probably 5. Society (or at least the American society I grew up in) expects us to be the rocks of relationships. Strong and steady. And rocks don't cry. But yeah, we definitely do, y'all just don't get to see it very often.

[RasmusAiken]

Girls are wired more to internalize a bad experience. That is to say, they make THEMSELVES miserable over something like a harsh comment. So they cry, get depressed, think the worst, self-harm etc. Guys generally externalize such things and do that which makes OTHERS miserable like fight, vandalize, act in revenge etc.
Of course there are many exceptions for both sexes. My current wish is to grow spiritually by allowing my heart to be broken by events that break God's heart. As a result I cry much more but for others.

[Animus95]

I do, though at some point I was laughed at for doing so by my EX who had an idea of a strong male who doesn't display any emotions. Holding them is a matter of need, not a matter of will I suppose, at least in my case. I'm writing poetry which helps a lot in terms of venting, but if I feel like it, I will cry. Some women don't realize that guys are having emotions and feminine traits too, or to expand, not taking any initiative because the social norm is focused on a guy taking the move, which is a crap I believe, coz' you need a couple to dance though.

[Slax421]

Personally speaking I think guys from my generation and prior were raised to be more reserved with our emotions. But this has its caveats too. I've cried at the end of a relationship or two. I can't watch Les Miserables without going to tears when Anne Hathaway sings. (Everytime! So beautiful.) But i also think there is a paradigm shift towards sensitivity with the younger generations. This generation gap thing is good. Emotions are not the enemy contrary to what many men believe. It's a depth of feeling thing. So maybe guys are just generally speaking more able to shrug to thinges off and don't emote quite as openly as females. Plus there is a social stigma. Stiff upper lip and all that. I can get away with it more than most because I'm artistic. But I don't because I frankly don't think many things are worth tears. Plus guys tend to emote with anger rather than tears. That's probly closer to the truth.

[Capnjaques]

I think most guys are more private about it because it's really awkward. When my parents passed away I bawled like a baby, or when I split up with my wife, or thought my roommate was dead, or my daughter in law and wife contacted me again. More for bigger or more serious things.

[Therisinghero12]

1. Do you ever feel like crying?
Not really, seems pointless to me cause it's not solving the issue, witch I prefer to do, but every once in a great while, just happens without wanting it.
2. How do you guys keep it together?
I don't know about everyone else, but I just try to always keep a positive outlook, that and it's just in my nature not to lose composure.
3. Do you just not feel like crying?
Yeah, answer to the first question summed it up.
4. Or do you have a way of holding it in?
Yeah, in the few occasions I cry it's because there is no solution to the problem I'm facing, like mourning and all, and to hold it in I get angry sometimes, at myself, for not doing more and all.
5. Are guys just better at holding in their emotions?
In general, I believe so, but every bodies different with this sorta thing.

[name_is_christian]

I think a lot of guys want to cry, we are just not good at showing it. We are good at holding it together for somethings but it can be tough at other times.
I’m not gonna cry if I stub my toe or get hurt while playing ball. But if I lose someone close to me than yeah I’ll cry in public because it’s perfectly acceptable.

[StormCOGy]

I've cried before. My ex had made me cry. Often or not its a stereotype men don't cry. It's more that we have been conditioned by society to a higher threshold (not saying all men have it.)

I've always been brought up that when emotional, a gentleman should go alone and cry. You're to be the patriarch of the family.

[DWD1994]

Guys keep it together because we have no choice. The only acceptable emotion for men is anger.
Anything other than that is pretty much something we get shamed for.

Most girls are put off by guys that cry and they see men that cry as 'weak' and are turned off by it.

We aren't better at holding in our emotions, we hold them in because we have no other option. We get shamed for them and not to mention, if we want to be successful with dating, we can't do anything that might give off the impression we are weak.

Last time I really cried was 2 years ago.

[Seket]

I'm raised in a family where men are expected to hold back our tears. Whenever I feel like I want to cry, I will start imagining putting a heart in a box and make it fall into a chasm. I will not fish the box back up until I can shower at home where I will let my tears flow out freely with soft sobs.

Men who can't cry are either insensitive or just plain violent. I believe you can catch one or two caring men crying if you know where to look, or where to stick your ears to.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes i cry real easy and i been this way since Second Grade
i believe something happened to me within them years
i was up late last night couldn't sleep and sitting here
all teary eye over nothing yes it does hurt and i can't
listen to certain songs.

[vernalpath]

There are days where I come home from work and I feel like a fragile child where if someone raises their voice even a little near me it makes me flinch. And it brings up lots of mixed feelings. Frustration that I feel this way, paranoia, depressed, etc. So yes. All the time.

[UglyestGuyEver]

never, never had a reason or urge to cry,
my mum broke my ps3 once and i sorta forced tears out jus so that i would cry once in my life,
jus cos i felt i had to cry at least some times... but even when i do i really dont feel like doing it... i jus try hard asf to think sad things and force it out,... i guess i jus dont care enuff lol

[Ücool]

It's not that we hold it in, it's just not much compels us to cry. Something that might really bother a woman might not bother a man that much and if it did, we probably still won't cry. I'm almost in capable of crying. Like I can't even force out tears anymore

[vxlsir]

Until recently I hadn't cried in over 15 years
But then again my fiancee at the time came back from a work trip and said she just wants to be friends and since I invested all of my savings into us in stuck living with her trying to keep a strong chin up while I watch our friendship flounder wondering what does someone my age do when they are financially and emotionally fully invested in their ex and her children

[sheepdip]

I can't remember the last time I wanted to cry.

I remember more the times I've gotten angry or felt hopeless or felt stressed out.

You deal with the emotion and you let it out in a manageable way or you bottle it up until you can safely release it. Sports and crafting hobbies are great ways to deal with those feelings. The act of creation is a wonderful form of self expression.

Remember; behaviour is communication.

[SenNyanko]

Guy's are usually just as emotional as anyone else, guy's feel like crying often but they don't because as a male they are raised to be "manly" and to not cry. Its the same for a lot of things, men are expected to be tough.

[Anonymous]

We're crying but in a too rare situations, i was crying in my mother's funeral and for 2 weeks it was too easy for me to crying but in the end i found that crying don't help you to solve anything, it's just something emotional inside us more than anyone's imagination

[Emerald5]

I think you are missing the occasions when guys cry. As an empath, I have cried quite a number of times according to the situation I experience and also have been woken up many times from crying because of the dream I was having.

[confusedrepeatedly]

Absolutely
I just can't bring myself to do it ik there's nothing wrong w it but there's just no one I'm comfortable crying to and alone I just kind of sit there all somber like never petting the tears leave bec I can't and that makes me want to cry

[joshmn26]

Guys can hold it together well but if any guy says he hasn't cried in his own time he's talking shite 😂 girls and guys have a different perspective from one another. You could look it up probably.

[nbx15]

I usually rarely cry but this year has been an exception. I have been dealing with really bad anxiety and depression from a bunch of stuff that happened to me this year. Within the same week earlier this year, I lost one of my best friends, the girl I was talking to for a couple of months ghosted me the day after his funeral, and I had to put my 17 year old dog down. I was an absolute wreck for a couple months but have been holding it together pretty well lately.

[Anonymous]

Guys cry. We just don't do it as easily as women and children do.
It's a basic biological mental difference between us. Men deal with things internally and by ourselves because as animals we didn't have time to be emotional over nonsense. We had to provide and protect.
When we do cry, it has to be something major.

[_SOARER_]

I seldom feel the need to cry.
Last time I cried was 5 years ago, I remember it well.
Women cry because they feel insecure (Not only internally, but externally), women cry more than ever they have never been more insecure.

[JSmuve]

It helps if you don't really feel anything. I think that's the key; to be so numb to emotions that anything bad that happens to you doesn't make you shed a tear and anything good that happens doesn't make you smile.

[holograph]

I don't usually cry when I'm sad, but sometimes I do. And sometimes I feel like I could cry (or "should be crying") but don't.