Why do some people just not enjoy socializing?

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btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Well for many reasons:

1. As an introvert, I do not need the company of others to be happy. Just a few people that I love and know.
2. Most people are extremely shallow, gossip all the time, and are unfriendly. They are quick to judge you as you just stated about some people "not enjoy socializing". Human's are social creatures by nature. That's how God designed us. We are just told to be careful WHO WE invite into our lives and who we call a 'friend'.
3. We do socialize. We just choose who we want to socialize with.
4. Being quiet actually is beneficial. We can think clearly, we can listen thoroughly and attentively, it helps gives us energy, and calmly release stressful and negative energy we harbored or absorbed.
5. We're quiet because we again, cause be stressed and is trying to figure it out.
6. We may be daydreaming about something. And no, depending on how good it is, we are NOT happy with it being disturbed.
7. We may be physically ill. Talking just makes it worse.

And those are just 7 examples of it. But there is more.

joleo92 · Accepted Answer

I dont. I'm trying to. o inwas diagnosed not just with social anxiety but I have an actual phobia of socializing. I hate being rejected as I have been my whole life. inlove being alone because indont have to waste 60 percent of my energy being self conscious and trying to have something relevant to say. when I'm alone I'm in bliss. I gotta break this though because when it comes down to it I'm so goddamn lonely I can barley stand it and feel unworthy of attentionx friendship and I feel like a monster and pariah. I wish I could I want to more than anything. being this extremely shy has taken away any enjoyment and independence from my life. I'm so alone. (hence why I joined this site)

dancing_in_nebulas · Accepted Answer

Superficially vs Interpersonal Depth.

For some, gossip, fashion, "basic" subjects and people are boring.

Just as some people find "intelligent" people boring to talk to.

I use quotations since that's how people describe depth people for some reason. Being knowledgeable in conspiracies, history, science, doesn't necessarily mean that person is intelligent- it's just subjects we enjoy.

Likewise, people who like "superficial" topics, are not dumb.

But - interpersonal people tend to be thinkers, so socializing can feel distracting or annoying enough to want to avoid it altogether for periods of time.

ForteExe · Accepted Answer

Because a lot of the time "socializing" means "rehashing bullshit of no consequence to anything important or meaningful" and people like me and my Dad have no patience for that shit. We'd rather disengage than deal with meaningless banter. I don't care about last week's episode of game of thrones, or what some asswipe on the news thinks about the weather, or what the president said on Twitter about some third world country, or about your new diet, or how many girls you've fucked, or what your friend Courtney said about that bitch Melissa, or about anything that -- if it never happened --wouldn't affect the decisions I make or what happens in the course of my life in the slightest. It's all meaningless distractions and noise that serves no productive purpose other than to distract one's self from having to confront the harsh realities of life.

LesterJester · Accepted Answer

Because of past experiences of drama, petty BS and backstabbing, some just feel it's not worth the hassle and leaves you more time to do what you want, when you want and how you want.

I used to host parties every weekend at my place, sometimes two nights in a row. But after a couple of years, things went downhill to the point of fights and gossip and people just getting out of control. The final nail in the coffin was when I got jumped by several guys and no so called friends to back me up.

I did more damage than they did to me, but that was it. Can't be fk'd anymore.

mrArcher · Answer

Because it's draining. In the age of efortless abundance, you don't have to chop trees or haul rocks anymore. During that time, interaction was much more straightforward, because you wouldn't have much to gain from most people. You genuinely wanted to talk to them and had something to say.

Nowadays, interaction is (at least psychologically speaking, which is a big deal) LITERALLY as difficult as chopping trees or hauling rocks. You brain releases dopamine, adrenaline, neuropinephrine, cortisol and many MANY other chemicals that literally play out in your brain as they did in our ancestor's brains when they did THAT and when they fought physically. Which is why women cry after a guy saying mean things and why men call women whores after being rejected.

Yeah, the human mind is a joke.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

It depends on personality, or confidence/social skills/social anxiety. Some people become so nervous while talking to others that it's not enjoyable for them. Unfortunately, I struggle with this at times with new people but try to push through anyway, because I know it's the only way I'll get better and more comfortable.

Some people are just very quiet and introverted as well.

ClearerAtN1ght · Answer

Some people just don't do well with larger groups, or at public places. Some people are just loaners. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing. I think society needs all sorts of people.

Also social anxiety is a very real thing. Some people, even when they want to be social, hit a wall of fear and anxiety. Sometimes they don't even really know why.

shimmeryns · Answer

Maybe because socializing can be draining, having to constantly engage with people. I mean, I'm a bit of both. I enjoy socializing but there will be time I just want to be by myself.

But those who don't even want to socialize, no idea. Maybe they are just introverts, socially awkward or having major self esteem issues.

winterfox10 · Answer

I don't enjoy it for the simple reason that I don't like talking about pointless shit. I just don't care, and I don't want to be put in a situation where I have to pretend to care in maintain a superficial relationship that both of us know will never amount to anything.

Wolframium · Answer

What do you mean by „why“? Isn't it obvious? People are mostly dumb and tribalistic. And million other reasons I can't think of right now, because I'm tired.
(Not to say you do that:) I love how extroverts just think everyone is like them. Or assume that. Everyone must enjoy company of others.

aficionado · Answer

I don't want to be judged. I have major inferiority complex and self esteem issues, and an awkward as hell, so I don't want to sign up for insults and judgements from other people.

aa180 · Answer

Don't you know how people are these days? You could be chatting and getting along with a new person very well, then the next time you meet they'll turn their face and pretend like they didn't see you.

People are crap.

codycccccccccc · Answer

Because 90% of people are only interested in stupid bullshit I couldn't care less that your 3 uncle twice removed that I meet that time when I was 5 died or that stephanie from stupid show broke up with her boyfriend

madgoat · Answer

While I understand that some people find other fascinating, and get a real buzz out of social interaction, that is not true of everyone.
Social people can be intolerant of introverts, difficult to engage with, untrustworthy and/or snipey gossips.

anshubeta · Answer

There are many reasons It can be because they are shy or just can't be able to use social media effectively or They don't care about others opinion or the society or they are busy

SkinnyThickLover · Answer

For me its more forces socializing and talking in groups. OFten people dont include others and just keep the chat with thier pal. Im more small groups or i'm shy.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I like socializing but I also think it is a burden - I prefer to keep a low profile because I don't like attention - I like social intimacy but not social exposure and attention

Cherokeehp · Answer

Because some people are bad at it, and it’s easier to say that you don’t like something rather than admit that you’re not good at it.

Lightning8 · Answer

For some people superficial socializing drains their energy, i. e. some people are introverts. They require deeper connections and conversations whereas most people gain energy just by walking around and talking about anything.

Semasu · Answer

I dont prefer to do it due to the fact that I already have reliable good friends and dont feel the need to have a ton

happyhedgehog · Answer

I think almost everyone likes socializing, just not with everybody. I can be friendly to people, but I only really enjoy being around friends and family.

mistixs · Answer

Because our brains aren't releasing the chemicals that make socialization a pleasurable experience for most people.

goaded · Answer

I don't know why, but I know I don't enjoy it much.

markscott · Answer

For many people, socializing is fun, and they gain energy from interacting with others.

DamnSam · Answer

Seen too much shit in life... Know that problem pretty good... anyway, most people are so dump, I ask myself how they survived over tgat time...

OhThatsMorgan · Answer

Personally for me, it’s mentally draining and when it’s mentally draining, that’s when it starts to get physical draining. There is a limit to how much socializing I could pull off.

dbr1987 · Answer

Not strange, some people are loners and don't feel confortable aroundstrangers. I don't like Social settings and prefer to be alone or with good Friends

MonagiRiz · Answer

There's a lot of reason but mostly would probably be fear of rejection, social trauma, and too picky with friends that likes to keep their circle small.

Wewladdy · Answer

I enjoy socializing. But I like being alone even more. Maybe if I was more of a social butterfly I'd think differently about it. Even better being alone with another introvert.

Hannah12112004 · Answer

For me, I struggle with anxiety and get scared the they will judge me or are thinking bad things about me while I talk to them.

Shamalien · Answer

Cause the world is trash and people smite the right and praise the wrong iv no patience to be molded by this shit

Anonymous · Answer

It's tiring and people are too fake, I don't have the patience to put up with bs and making meaningless conversation.

Reach500 · Answer

It could be because of some kind of social trauma, but I think some people are just naturally more outgoing and others are kind of shy

Lunch_Long_Legacy · Answer

I used to think that, until I actually stopped socializing that often. Nobody truly hates everyone else.

Tslaveee · Answer

Don’t know how I’m a social outcast Detestable  Gave up long ago Nobody cares to hear what I have to say  Gay

mermaidia_lol · Answer

I enjoy it but it's hard sometimes, so I don't do it.

Anonymous · Answer

People are not that interesting, it feels like a chore

akiflyer · Answer

Because most people are shit.

eila7 · Answer

Introvert here, socialising drains me

rosscore728 · Answer

Crack... they're smoking crack

ZeonWolf69 · Answer

Because people suck.

LuWe22 · Answer

Because I´m awkward and shy

Anonymous · Answer

People are generally garbage an not worth knowing.

NovissimumVirorum · Answer

Hurt too many times

mayur955 · Answer

I m one of that.

MisterSir · Answer

i don't like people

PrinceOfAljazeeeeraa · Answer

they are pussies.

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