Agreed, society expects us to be callous. Some girls say "it would be nice to hear what a guy feels" and stuff, but they're lying. If they knew, they'd immediately leave them for being wusses.
Real men cry and show emotions.
Real men are not always serious.
Real men are full of emotions, and anyone who bottles them up ends up with health problems.
Act like a man?
Yes acting like a man means crying, sharing emotions, going through sad times and good times and facing them with appropriate emotions.
What you seem to be talking about is a robot and someone that could never be loving or real to a partner or children.
Please.. my boyfriend has cried to me twice already. He knows theirs no judgement and that I acknowledge and respect his feelings. life is rough. He shares his vulnerabilities with me so I can help him carry on. I don't mind it. Really it touches my heart to know that he trusts me so deeply as to cry in my arms. It means he does not fear me.Tears are a HUMAN response to letting go of pain.
I like it. Nothing worse than seeing emasculated men.
I'm a pretty stoic man. I have emotions, people just never see them...although I can't recall ever crying...even when my grandma died (with whom I was very close with.)
It's not like I make an effort to never cry. It just doesn't happen.
I don't really see how it makes a man better in any way to hide his feelings all the time. Every psychologist in the world will tell you that is unhealthy and leads to other problems. And who wants to be intimate with somebody who is totally unresponsive emotionally?
Both men and women need to have some control over their emotions. It's not good if an adult of either gender cries in public over every little thing all the time.
But taking any behavior or attitude to an absolute extreme is unhealthy and asking for trouble. It's also perverse. You feel that way for a reason; by suppressing it you are removing a valuable part of the human experience.
why should you judge other people who are connected with their emotions more than you...have you ever seen me, myself and irene - I mean hilarious movie, but its true...if you just hold in all your emotions one day you'll flip...sometimes crying is the only medicine and if you can't understand that then I'm sorry...i just hope its not drugs you'd turn to over crying...
what do I think? I think you're weird. women love it when a man shows his sensitive side. but they don't like it when they show it off to the whole world. if a guys parents died it's perfectly fine for him to cry and feel upset. that'd be taking it like a man. not crying because you think it'll make you weak? that's ridiculous and I really would not wanna be with a guy like that.
Everyone gets upset. One of the greatest traits my boyfriend has is his personality and the fact he's not shy to express how he's feeling. If he's depressed, upset, extremely happy, or laughing so hard he cry's it's okay. Trying to hide your emotions or bottling it in, or keeping it from people can cause problems. crying doesn't make you any less then a man. it show's a sensitive spot that most women like.
no, I would not find it a turn off for a guy to cry...i wouldn't find it a turn on either, but it would show he has feelings, and isn't an empty cold hearted shell. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who hides his feelings.
Humans feel pain & have emotions. Not letting out your emotions in a healthy and safe way is very dangerous. To think that a guy should ALWAYS be strong and stay strong is a pipe dream. If a guy's parent(s) died, and he didn't cry, I would think he was one heartless and demented man.
PRIMARY PSYCHOPATHS do not respond to punishment, apprehension, stress, or disapproval. They seem to be able to inhibit their antisocial impulses most of the time, not because of conscience, but because it suits their purpose at the time. Words do not seem to have the same meaning for them as they do for us. In fact, it's unclear if they even grasp the meaning of their own words, a condition that Cleckley called "semantic aphasia." They don't follow any life plan, and it seems as if they are incapable of experiencing any genuine emotion.
(I was going to properly site the paragraph above, but I guess I can't, because I'm not a level 4.)
in my opinion if a guy doesn't cry, he's simply not a man, if he ant tell you how he really feels, he just hids it to look bigger its a weaker thing to do, a women would not reject a guy just because he cries when he is upset, itts just simply a wayn of showing feelings.
I'm 27. Healthy, fit, and live a productive life. I love sports, love martial arts, and I like women. And I admit I cry. I'm not afraid to show my true emotions. I lost my father? I'd cry. Lost a girlfriend? I'd cry. Lost my mother? I'd cry. The point is, crying doesn't mean you're not masculine. It doesn't mean sh*t. Empathy is nothing to be ashamed of.
No. I would view him as cold. I don't think I could be with someone who couldn't show their softer side, especially to me, someone they trust and care for. That's something he shouldn't have to hide from me. The tougher someone seems to be, whether it be their persona or their appearance, the more I want to know there's a softer side in there. He can be as tough as he wants around other people, but I'm the one person, if no one else, that he should be able to be himself around. If you need to cry, then f.ucking cry, and I'll be there. I'm not going to tell people, I'm not going to laugh, or judge. I'm going to soothe and comfort because that's what I do, and I don't like seeing people I care about in pain. But out is better than in. I think it's bad to repress those emotions. Things usually feel better after a good cry.
I think it makes you weak if you don't cry or show emoshin
it doesn't make you strong it shows that you don't care and you don't have a hart just because your parents aspeshaly your father says don't.cry or show emoshin when you are littel doesn't mean that when you grow up you can't show emoshin or cry most women want to know what you feel and think we don't want a robot for a boyfriend or husband we want a real man who feels and crys not fake crying but real crying and real feelings
You're right about women having really high standards, but no woman has ever judged me for crying. I've dated a lot and I've heard from all of them that they appreciate and admire my ability to show my emotions. I also know a lot of girls that'll say showing your emotions makes you more of a man. Now I'm not saying go be a cry baby and cry over stubbing your toe, but I am saying that crying is a natural reaction to a body's emotion or feeling of pain, and if you don't do it, you're not healthy.
As a woman, I can honestly say that a man crying is not as terrible as you make it sound. If someone he was close to dies, it's ok to cry. If someone he cares about is terribly hurt, it's ok to cry. If he's badly hurt, he can cry. Judging him as weak because he cried is completely unfair. Just because he is a man doesn't mean that he can't cry. So what if he cries, he's human. As HUMANS we are subject to getting upset and crying. Just because a man cries, it doesn't mean that he's weak. It means that something happened to make him cry. If you're saying that it's pathetic and makes a man weak to cry over REAL things that EVERYONE cries about, then you're a really insensitive jerk, in my opinion. Sorry for having to say that, but that's what I feel, just like you feel that men crying over anything makes them weak and that they have no spine when they have enough guts to show that they're feeling upset, even when insensitive jerks will judge them and say that they should "take it like a man." What does that even mean?
I'll cry if I can't help myself. Sometimes my emotions are so low that I have to cry to feel better. And if a guy/girl has the nerve to come over and tell me to 'Stop crying, be a man", then guess what happens?
They get punched and knocked out. THERE! Are you f*cking convinced now how 'MANLY' I am?
So unless you have never cried or felt depressed (in other words, unless you are an emotional zombie) then this post is just completely hypocritical.
I agree men need to be men and not be wimps, but God didn't give us tear ducts just to test our manliness (men should cry in private though)
You have some serious issues if you think men should just "suck it up" when a tragedy occurs in their lives. Crying is natural for everyone, not just women. It IS a show of emotion and compassion, and for your information, girls tend to dislike the apathetic assholes who don't give other guys a bit of credit for crying - especially after a death or being physically hurt. "Taking it like a man" isn't sexist towards women - it's sexist toward men. Being a man doesn't mean you never cry.
Men who cry have a bigger spine than guys who deny their emotions. And why do you feel that men should not cry? I think a man should cry when he wants to, as it shows who he is. We all die naked and alone - I don't cry about that as I'm connected with the world and those closest to me.
Personally, I don't cry when I'm in pain. Got kicked somewhere that should only be treated delicately and my eyes were dry. As for emotions, I have cried when I was overwhelmed and in all honesty it has happened more than once.
N offence, but if you feel I am less than masculine for doing that, please get someone to kick you in the trousers with the maximum force they can, and check to see if you cry.
I like a man to be sensitive, not necesarily a baby but sensitive enough to be able to cry, feel happy or sad. Nothing wrong with it ! For me it is much better to share your feelings with the people you love, and if my man would not be willing to show his feelings to me, then I would be dissapointed very much.
I would totally think a guy was weak if he cried when he stubbed his toe or lost at a game. I know guys who cry when they lose and I hate it, hate it, hate it! However in some cases they should cry. If a man never ever cries then I would say that, that makes him weak. Letting out feelings is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of courage to cry in front of people even if they might think less of you. Real men Cry. That's just my opinion.
haha lolol I love how the p**** ass bitch writing this sh*t goes up anonyymous f***in nigga has no balls... but yeah I mean I haven't ever cried from physical pain and last time I cried was because I viewed myself as a worthless pile of sh*t that nobody would ever care about but hey... you wanna show your a man come and run with tha wolves nigga f*** 2 dope boys snort some crack then hit a bitch with a gat... GOLF WANG!
REALLY...A man cries make him a bigger man.
MAN, just says it all.
For a man to cry that I see, I give him much props, mad respect.
Yes its a man, big deal. Move on.
More respect comes in the long run.
You might not feel the same if you had a wife/girlfriend who you honestly loved died. I like it when guys occasionally cry. It shows a bit of weakness that they aren't perfect which makes them perfect. My mom died 2 years ago. My dad, brother and I cried which is a liable reason to cry.
Honestly, the first thing that came to mind when I read the question is that you are suffering from depression at the moment, and it's manifesting itself as outward aggression and hostility toward others. You're attempting to get people to validate what you feel towards yourself at the moment, so at least you might feel like your not alone.
Men are gonna cry, be scared, feel weak, get sad and depressed, etc... NO WAY AROUND IT... I think what you're saying is that a Man should never show it. In any case it is a matter of opinion and I agree to a certain extent as to that it can be quite uncomfortable to observe a man in such a state(any living creature for that matter).
Dude you got it wrong if a man is strong he shows his weekness, a week man hides his weeknes because he is week and doesn't want to be hurt any more or shamed. A strong man would show his weekness and wouldn't care what people think though cuzz its how he feels, it is stupid to say if one crys that he is any less of a man then the one next to him holding back the same feeling.
From age 3, I always thought Women and Men should be strong and not cry but in the privacy -of themselves. I still can't cry. I had no greater standard for men than I did for women... I'm older now. I think strength comes from what you do not what you feel.
people who hold stuff in commit rape murder torture suicide. research it. .. its not good stuff.
I don't believe in this I think its bs but any standard you hold for men should be held for women too- if its weak its weak. why be a hypocrite.
stupid. I don't even want to read the whole thing. its just stupid. a guy who shows his emotions is stronger than one who doesn't. it shows that he is confident, sincere and not a total cold-hearted ass unlike some people on this site.
it sounds like you are saying all men should be psychopaths :/
I love a men who is strong enough to be himself and let his emotions show regardless of what people might say.
I thinks its OK for guys to show emotion and if someone they were close to died, its okay to cry...but just don't be overly emotional and sensative because then that's not ok...Men have hearts too, they're not made out of stone...Plus I think its kinda hott...
I don't cry because I'm sad or weak, I cry because its an easy way to relieve stress. I can cry with a huge smile on my face and laughing. it just feels awesome!
I am a sensitive individual though have not cried from physical pain since my preschool-days. I have cried though on every break-up whether I broke up with her or she broke up with me, and on the death of every family member and pet.
girls don't look down on it either. I was on a first date with a girl and we saw the blindside and I cried when michael saved SJ. she saw me and then a few minutes later we hooked up.
crying is not a sign of masculinity. It shows we are human
wow so if your mom died? or if you were really in love, well with your personality it seems you don't know what love is! and don't you feel a little bottled up if you never cryed its natural, well I don't like to cry a lot either I don't want people to think I'm a softy even though I'm a 16 year old girl
I think its perfectly normal for ANYONE to cry, especially in a tragic situation like someone close to you dying. It isn't weak at all, in fact I see it as strong; it takes a lot of courage for a man to cry in front of others, after all its only an emotion. But as for men who don't show any emotion what so ever, I find it very unattractive. Just be yourself, emotions and all.
hey, if you feel the full range of emotions, than you are not really living. everyone needs to laugh, get mad, feel happy, feel scared, and yes, cry in order to be human. if you shut out parts of you, than all that negativity will come back in a bad way. Crying is a healthy reaction to certain circumstances and regardless of how many X chromosomes you have, everyone is allowed to cry. maybe you need to learn how.
Ehhhhh...humans are humans dude...people have emotions and they cry sometimes you dig ? It's not about whether you are male or female...it's about whether you are human
That is ridiculous. If you want a guy to be able to feel happy (an emothion) then wouldn't you expect that he could also feel sad. Why on earth would you not "allow" a guy a right to his emotions? That's not just unfair. Its Stupid for lack of a better term. If you cme across a man like this I guarantee you he's probably some psychopathic killer in the making. If that's the man you want then have at it. You don't have to date a whiny crybaby but there is an in-between. Stop being so judgemental..
Yeah, be brave? If you are so brave, how come you are afraid to let us know who you are? Anonymous = brave, justify that!
I think he should grow a pair and stop worrying about what others think. Don't be a wuss but if you need to cry then cry.
I never ever cry over physical pain, and I've done every thing from breaking bones to getting my face gashed open above my eye. I also train in boxing, wrestling, and three different martial arts. But if something moved me to tears I wouldn't care who was watching. It's because I don't let society dictate who I am. I don't know them anything and their opinion doesn't make me.
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