I think guys, men, should never cry, never get sad or depressed, those who do are weak, have no spine.

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and I mean over anything, whether his girlfriend/wife died, his parents died, his pet died, or if he gets shot, stabbed, or severely injured in any way, a guy, or man should never cry or get sad, get depressed over anything, whether it is physical pain or emotional pain, what do you think? A guy, man, or male should never cry, should always be serious, never let anything get him down, and I mean literally anything. Girls, Women, would you view a guy, Man to be weak, a huge turn-off if he was sad and crying because his mom or dad died, his siblings or best friend died, his dog or cat died, or if he literally got shot, stabbed, physically hurt, he should just take it like a Man shouldn't he?

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what if he got murdered, shot to death like this?: should he just take it like a Man?

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or if he lost someone close to him and started crying like this?

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I think it's unfair but that's life, reality, society, culture, and women without a doubt have higher standards than men do

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm really curious how you appearantly know what we as women think/know/want. We're not robots. We don't all want and desire the same thing, in MY OPINION bad boys are a waste of time. If I wanted to get hit, punched, and beaten... treated like crap just because my guy "cant show emotions because it makes him look weak ,sad, depressed" then I would've stayed with my ex and eventually let him kill me.

Men or woman people who surpress emotions are more likely and prone to violent outbursts. If a man crys in front of me, I don't see it as a weakness... I see it as he TRUSTS me enough to let go and express his pain. To me, I'd rather have my man feel comfortable enough around me to cry, and feel things. Then him come off as a total ass because "society tells him to"

That is also a BS statement no one ever told boys or men to never show emotion. PEOPLE, other kids, other men, their friends. THOSE are the people who say "dude that's so stupid only a woman would cry" No where in this world except maybe the communist nations would even say that. There is nothing wrong with sheding tears over a lost loved one.

So either your deranged and think you understand every single being on the planet or you think its OK to surpress rage... trust me... I've surpressed my anger for nearly 15 years... to the point where I now have to seek counselling so I don't physically hurt someone. So no... I don't think a man is weak for crying or being sad or depressed... because news flash... DEPRESSION IS AN ILLNESS not something you just "start" having when your sad. I've been clinically depressed for 14 years.

Bad boys are just stupid, guys who are clearly overcompensating I'd rather have a guy who will treat me right and trust me, respect me enough to be able to show any emotion around me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

what the hell ?

im a feminist. so I don't believe men have to abide by these ridiculous male exclusive standards, and neither do women have to abide by strict standards for being a delicate, fragile, submissive wilting flower. people are people. some men and women don't show their emotions as easily and others do. I would never think less of a man who is in touch with his sensitive side. crying every once and a while is healthy and id want the guy I'm with to feel like he could express any emotion around me. he can sit and cry in my lap if something bad happened or he's having a rough day, whatever. ill just listen, give what advice I can, and try to make him feel better. I don't want some steel cold hard man because that's not a man at all, that's a plastic toy, an action figure, a doll. something that can be beaten and thrown around and still maintain a smile, never showing any evidence of the blow, no tears, no nothing. who the hell wants that? I know I dont.

i would be worried if he were like that. id think something horrible happened as a kid or something that made him feel like he couldn't trust people, including me. id want to get him help or something.

CreativeIntrovert · Accepted Answer

As a woman, I can honestly say that a man crying is not as terrible as you make it sound. If someone he was close to dies, it's ok to cry. If someone he cares about is terribly hurt, it's ok to cry. If he's badly hurt, he can cry. Judging him as weak because he cried is completely unfair. Just because he is a man doesn't mean that he can't cry. So what if he cries, he's human. As HUMANS we are subject to getting upset and crying. Just because a man cries, it doesn't mean that he's weak. It means that something happened to make him cry. If you're saying that it's pathetic and makes a man weak to cry over REAL things that EVERYONE cries about, then you're a really insensitive jerk, in my opinion. Sorry for having to say that, but that's what I feel, just like you feel that men crying over anything makes them weak and that they have no spine when they have enough guts to show that they're feeling upset, even when insensitive jerks will judge them and say that they should "take it like a man." What does that even mean?

TigerRoseBear · Accepted Answer

If he wants to cry, he can! Not all women want a robot for a boyfriend. I don't remember the last time I cried, but I'm sure I'd cry if my parents died. Not that it's okay to cry about anything - it'd be kinda weird if a guy stubbed his toe and started crying. But for certain things, it's okay.

I think for the most part guys don't cry over physical pain (mature/adult guys, at least), but for certain emotional things, it's totally okay to cry.

I have no idea where you got that bullsh*t about how guys should never cry.

KERMlT · Accepted Answer

Some men are like this but I think they call them heartless murderers. If you don't have a heart, you most likely don't care about others.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Agreed, society expects us to be callous. Some girls say "it would be nice to hear what a guy feels" and stuff, but they're lying. If they knew, they'd immediately leave them for being wusses.

cun7n1nja · Answer

No. I would view him as cold. I don't think I could be with someone who couldn't show their softer side, especially to me, someone they trust and care for. That's something he shouldn't have to hide from me. The tougher someone seems to be, whether it be their persona or their appearance, the more I want to know there's a softer side in there. He can be as tough as he wants around other people, but I'm the one person, if no one else, that he should be able to be himself around. If you need to cry, then f.ucking cry, and I'll be there. I'm not going to tell people, I'm not going to laugh, or judge. I'm going to soothe and comfort because that's what I do, and I don't like seeing people I care about in pain. But out is better than in. I think it's bad to repress those emotions. Things usually feel better after a good cry.

toulouse · Answer

From age 3, I always thought Women and Men should be strong and not cry but in the privacy -of themselves. I still can't cry. I had no greater standard for men than I did for women... I'm older now. I think strength comes from what you do not what you feel.

people who hold stuff in commit rape murder torture suicide. research it. .. its not good stuff.

I don't believe in this I think its bs but any standard you hold for men should be held for women too- if its weak its weak. why be a hypocrite.

DonJuan · Answer

I like it. Nothing worse than seeing emasculated men.

I'm a pretty stoic man. I have emotions, people just never see them...although I can't recall ever crying...even when my grandma died (with whom I was very close with.)

It's not like I make an effort to never cry. It just doesn't happen.

me_just_me · Answer

I think he should grow a pair and stop worrying about what others think. Don't be a wuss but if you need to cry then cry.

I never ever cry over physical pain, and I've done every thing from breaking bones to getting my face gashed open above my eye. I also train in boxing, wrestling, and three different martial arts. But if something moved me to tears I wouldn't care who was watching. It's because I don't let society dictate who I am. I don't know them anything and their opinion doesn't make me.

BamSlake · Answer

buddy, I'm a cage fighter, I cry at songs most days

ying and yang for you ehhh?

some men don't cry, some men do, to say that if any man from any background cannot cry as it makes him spineless is ludicrous and concerning. one of my friends passed away recently, I cried, for hours, so did many other male friends of mine. I think no less of anyone who cries for whatever reason.

if you feel that you can't cry, because it makes you less of a man, I'm afraid you are emotionally deprived and you need to let go of what others might think of you

Brendi87 · Answer

Men only think other men who cry are weak. Do you hear girls saying it? I doubt it. Not that we encourage it, but it's OK to cry and show a sensitive side.

My father used to tell me (a female) that crying is weak every time I cried in front of him. It's like I couldn't express my sadness/anger. I couldn't be myself and it hurt to cry those times I couldn't hold it in 'cause I heard his voice telling me I'm weak. What's the point of holding your emotions anyway? They come back stronger.

This made me think of my ex, who would sob and I thought he was crying but when I went to dry his tears there was nothing there. I was like huh? It was just a way for me to pity him. And you would think only girls are capable of using pity tears.

sarah-a180 · Answer

I don't really see how it makes a man better in any way to hide his feelings all the time. Every psychologist in the world will tell you that is unhealthy and leads to other problems. And who wants to be intimate with somebody who is totally unresponsive emotionally?

Both men and women need to have some control over their emotions. It's not good if an adult of either gender cries in public over every little thing all the time.

But taking any behavior or attitude to an absolute extreme is unhealthy and asking for trouble. It's also perverse. You feel that way for a reason; by suppressing it you are removing a valuable part of the human experience.

emmabee11 · Answer

Well even a man is only human so don't forget that, men are not just some alien being who has to close off forever, they have emotions and feelings too and to not cry when someone you love dies, they would be sick, it would look like they don't give a sh*t at all. People are not weak for showing emotions I just utterly hate that concept, actually a sensitive man is a couragous man who is not afraid to face the facts and doesn't give into this whole stereotypical thing that men do and their whole ego games. A real man shows everything that they feel inside and doesn't care what anyone thinks. Your litterly just looking down your nose at them, do not do this at all because then you really won't be accepted by anyone at all, even you have emotions and don't tell me you haven't cried or been sad, angry or depressed but everyone feels what you do at some point in their lives, remember this.

RolandX · Answer

I have cried in front os someone twice in my lifetime. Once when I was very young and a close friend passed away.

And when my fiance was killed in a car accident. I honestly could have, or even now, given two sh*ts about crying in front of other people. That is a level of pain and loss you never want to feel. A part of you, AN ACTUAL PART OF YOU, is ripped out and gone. And you can feel that hole, and nothing you do fills it. So I cried, and I cried a lot. Time does not heal something like this. I still cry sometimes when moments hit and I miss her more then usual, sitting alone in my apartment late at night.

I say cry if you want. It makes you MORE of a man then you think.The universe designed it as a way for you to express pain and fear. And if you hold it inside it eats away like cancer, devouring eternally from the inside, until in the end, all that's left is a shell of your former self. Drifting through a world you are now far removed from.

A ghost in the machine...

lucyloo · Answer

NO! I'll be honest I wouldn't want a man so in touch with his emotions that he weeps at bambi...although the bit where his mum dies is pretty sad..i'm welling up just thinking about it... anyhoo

Everyone cries dear, even if tears don't physically spill, you can be crying inside. And everyone at some point in there life has cried..even you.

For some, crying is a sign of weakness and therefore if a man does it he is seen as weak., for women to cry...and lets face it we do it better then boys, and fake it better too. Its OK for her to do so. So with men if he cries that makes me think he is stronger, because crying in front of others takes more strength.

But when it comes down to it, a man doesn't have to cry to show he's emotional...punching a wall, getting hammered, er... there are many ways a man can prove to be crushing up inside.

Anonymous · Answer

Bad boys are just a novelty, someone to have a bit of fun and thrill , but not someone to marry and have kids with.. do you think girls like being bashed and abused? they have low self worth already and are dependent on them as they fear being alone or for whatever reasons..actually its pretty sad bad boys having to use that muscle and lack of brain to control their spouse.  Strong men are those who can make decisions and take care of things, but also those who have morals values, are respectable, who are down to earth and can show they have feelings and emotions when it all gets too much at the end of the day.. Men who cry in those situations are in pain are human.. but men who cry like little boys like when a sports team loses are a turn off.

number10 · Answer

Disagree. A man has every right to cry under those circumstances---- Love and loss is not a weakness, but a strength. Even if I see a guy cry out of happiness during an emotional time is a turn on, lol. It shows how much he cares about something, and in turn could care for me.

TeAmo122008 · Answer

I mean... are men robots?!?! NO... are you an a**hole? Because if not, by lacking these very important emotions, and by not showing them AT ALL... you come off as one... this is WAY MORE UNATTRACTUVE THAN A MAN WHO SHARES HIS FEELINGS... YOU'RE FREAKING HUMAN FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! Women are emotional and need to have a man who understands and can share those emotional feelings... if you can't show them to her, then she won't feel like you trust her and won't feel a true deep connection... YOU'RE NOT A DAMN ROBOT...AGAIN...no..it's not life for a man NOT to cry when someone close to him passes away, or for him to be upset when his girlfriend hurts his feelings... it's life that it DOES hurt and you should be able to share those feelings with someone rather than bottle it up...freaking shed a tear if you have a heart

MsKia · Answer

That is ridiculous. If you want a guy to be able to feel happy (an emothion) then wouldn't you expect that he could also feel sad. Why on earth would you not "allow" a guy a right to his emotions? That's not just unfair. Its Stupid for lack of a better term. If you cme across a man like this I guarantee you he's probably some psychopathic killer in the making. If that's the man you want then have at it. You don't have to date a whiny crybaby but there is an in-between.  Stop being so judgemental..

buckinghorse · Answer

You're right about women having really high standards, but no woman has ever judged me for crying. I've dated a lot and I've heard from all of them that they appreciate and admire my ability to show my emotions. I also know a lot of girls that'll say showing your emotions makes you more of a man. Now I'm not saying go be a cry baby and cry over stubbing your toe, but I am saying that crying is a natural reaction to a body's emotion or feeling of pain, and if you don't do it, you're not healthy.

Anonymous · Answer

there is nothing wrong with guys crying. lots of girls prefer the sensitive type. and therev is almost no way any guy wouldn't cry if he'd lost his parents , sure they  wouldn't cry in front of people, but they would cry. and if a guy had been stabbed there's no way that they wouldn't cry, its painful, my mums a doctor, I've been around people been in situatiions like that. my mum saved my bf's life after he'd been stabbed. he cried but I dnt blame it. if you really think guys shouldn't cry or get upset or anything than you don't have much experience in life do you?

scarygoodyr34 · Answer

Humans feel pain & have emotions. Not letting out your emotions in a healthy and safe way is very dangerous. To think that a guy should ALWAYS be strong and stay strong is a pipe dream. If a guy's parent(s) died, and he didn't cry, I would think he was one heartless and demented man.

PRIMARY PSYCHOPATHS do not respond to punishment, apprehension, stress, or disapproval. They seem to be able to inhibit their antisocial impulses most of the time, not because of conscience, but because it suits their purpose at the time. Words do not seem to have the same meaning for them as they do for us. In fact, it's unclear if they even grasp the meaning of their own words, a condition that Cleckley called "semantic aphasia." They don't follow any life plan, and it seems as if they are incapable of experiencing any genuine emotion.

(I was going to properly site the paragraph above, but I guess I can't, because I'm not a level 4.)

art84 · Answer

There's a saying that goes real men don't cry. I think men should be able to show emotions such as crying. What I hate is how we are depicted as being strong or "macho" acting tough and holding all of our emotions instead. I think girls do find it as a turn off if a guy shows his emotions. They think he is not a real men or acts like a women and gets made fun of. I will say I a sensitive guy but can act manly when the times comes. We as men having feelings, heck he aren't robots. Robots can't show emotions but we as humans can. I think its alright to cry for a guy but not just cry for anything like when you lose a bet or your team loses. Perfect times to cry would be during the birth of your child for example or when your child graduating from school. Losing a love one as I have when my grandfather passed away but I cried in my room so no one would see me.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, that's all silly crap. Normal women aren't heartless like that, if anything most of us wish you'd show emotions a little more. If my guy cried, it would split my heart in two and melt me at the same time to see him that vulnerable and I'd do anything to make him feel better that I could. It would just strengthen the bond and I would certainly not look down on him for it. If he was constantly crying and whining for no reason, however, yeah, that'd be a problem, just like it would be a problem if a chick did that to you (it's annoying).

I think guys, men, should never cry, never get sad or depressed, those who do are weak, have no spine.

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