What to do if a guy won’t take a hint?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve never met this guy in person but we talked for awhile on Snapchat. He’s nice but I’m just not interested. I think I accidentally led him on for a while. For the past week or two I have been trying to be super distant so that he gets the hint to move on. I take hours to answer a text, use a short answer, never start convos, and have left him on read several times. He still texts me a lot. How do I make him stop without hurting his feelings?

[Cynicaldreamer]

Tell him the truth. Yeah, you're going to hurt his feelings: sorry, but it's unavoidable. But it's either hurt his feelings now, but give him a chance to move on. Or keep dragging him along making him think you're interested or he has a chance with you.

There's a nice way to turn people down: just tell him that you don't like him in that way and you rather be friends. And you're sorry if you gave him the wrong impression. That's it. Don't lie, don't mislead him, and no ghosting him! Just tell him you like him as a friend and hope he understands.

[alice55]

That would be so much simpler to just tell him bluntly you don't have romantic feelings for him... Why going trough so much trouble? (too what you have been doing mean nothing, if someone did this to me I would just think that he was busy...).

[Dchrls78104]

You should have been upfront about that with him from the getgo. Now, you will have the job on your hands to communicate that to him clearly. One way is to meet him (not sure it's safe to go alone, although this is the best way) and speak to him about it, letting him know, gently but firmly, where he stands with you. This would require a lot of tact.

[lightbulb27]

This is the challenge with people, they don't want to hurt someones feelings and risk confrontation.
Telling him straight up, or lie like most girls do to avoid that (. e. g. I have a bf).
"Ive decided I am going to date someone else, I'm sorry." or I'm not dating right now, sorry.

[spartan55]

Tell him you are only interested in being friends. Please don't use that hinting crap that you girls love to use. That won't work.

[PrimalInstinct]

Just an fyi people are **not** mind readers.

Taking hours to respond, short replies & not starting conversations doesn't mean a dang thing. People do it all the time.

Tell him to stop & if he doesn't then block him.

[missygirI]

Just straight up tell him to stop. You’re probably already hurting his feelings anyway by leaving him on read, giving him short answers, etc.

[Aj619]

How about just tell him. Jesus what's wrong with you people have you never heard of the concept of honesty.

[4mazing]

I don't think you can reject someone without hurting their feelings. And it is more merciful to make it quick than to drag it out.

[Creepazoid]

Hurt his feelings. That's the only way to make him stop. Communication is key both you and he must be at an understanding that you have no interest in him. Then block him.

[Ttam69]

All you're doing is just prolonging the anguish by trying to be nice, you've just got to be upfront and honest. It is the kindest way, or he'll just be left wondering.

[Albeshr]

Sometimes you should hurt their feelings to make them get the hint, but you can use "I am in love with someone" move as well

[13IsALuckyNumber]

I think right now all you can do is just tell him directly because men are terrible at picking up on signs.

[beldath]

So are women for that matter.

[13IsALuckyNumber]

True. But the difference is that most women think they are great, they aren’t, but they think they are.

[Anonymous]

Just stop responding.
If it doesn't work, just tell him you are not interested... one of those. "you're a great guy but not for me".

[Laozi]

By telling him to go and find someone else in polite manner.

[ajaxtoolkit]

It would be much better if you tell him straightforward to move on. It could hurt his feeling but it's way better than getting hurt everytime waiting for answers to text.

[Pejtu]

Just fucking Block him or Tell him to stop
Stop hinting some stupid shit be straight forward

[distressedanonymus]

You're a grown woman with a mouth stop hinting and telll him

[Nikola99]

Stop giving fucking hints and just say you are not interested

[Robofeet]

Just be clear with him.

[dbr1987]

Kick him in the balls full force

[Nikola99]

No. Some people can't understand a hint. so just say you are not interested.

[dbr1987]

I stick with kickin' in the balls and file a report you feel harrassed

[EnocV]

Just tell him and that's it... Or block him..

[beldath]

Block him.

[beldath]

Or flat out say you're not interested and Lea e you alone.

[Jltakk]

Maybe just tell him?

[Luukas]

Give bigger hint.