He might just be a cheesy sort of romantic. That's a strange angle to take as I see it from an experienced guy who knows how to seduce women. He seems more like a lovesick puppy to me. Then again I don't know what people do nowadays.
From my standpoint, if you're prone to overthinking, it doesn't help to get a hundred different varied opinions on the motivations of your guy. I would take it easy on that, take things one step at a time, and try to judge these things more for yourself. At the end of the day, you either have a guy who is genuinely empathetic and concerned about your well-being or you don't. If you know your boundaries, you can see whether or not he respects them or tries to cross over them.
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Yes, there are guys who will "say anything to get in a gal's pants".
That said, I hope that he is NOT one of those guys.
I DID notice in the last section that he mentioned that you share "old soul" traits. It was this that gave me a glimmer of hope that he might be the "real thing", and not just a guy who makes up lies to hook-up with a gal and then dump her shortly afterward.
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I believe it’s more likely that he believes it than that he’s playing you.
that doesn’t necessarily mean you two are getting married. You’re still learning about each other and how you two would function as a couple. So over time this initial glow will likely cool somewhat and you deal with the reality of whether your lives can really fit together, whether how you want to live really aligns, whether you two really make a good team and actually can make each other feel cared for year after year. Even if the answer to those ends up being no doesn’t mean the way you two feel now is fake.
you’re supposed to deep this way at the start. Don’t do anything stupid but enjoy it. And don’t close your heart off.to be honest, what he said reminds me back when I had my first loves back in middle school... those times I was sort of love obsessed and these feelings were strong but also true. I would always pour out my feelings in text and they sure liked it as well. but getting older I don't do that anymore. that's where I get unsure though because if he's older now I'm not sure if he's becoming obsessive or if it's just him falling in love with you and that's just simply how he expresses his affection. I say that you should keep going with it and make sure that it's what you want and these feelings are mutual
Look your mom is simply saying be careful don't believe every word you hear.
Words are easy especially written one. I could just sit here and wirte countless of poem-like lines about how much I'm in love with you and i don't even need to have ever seen you for that.
I'm not saying he's lying but don't just assume he has feelings for you because he said so. He needs to show it.
The naive ones get there hearts broken the most I'm afraid. Don't be that girl. The one who believes all Innocently that someone just appeared out of nowhere and fell in love with you. Why you and not someone else?
If it's too good to be true that means it's not true.
Be careful, always doubt, always ask questions. Don't do a repeat of last timeYour mum is really toxic man, as I keep saying.
It's doubtful any man who wasn't genuine could be arsed writing all that. Same with the 6am texting.
I think he believes it. Men can be very gushy, myself included. Then they become jaded when they get hurt repeated times. A bit like your mum eh.
Not saying you shouldn't be careful. But his true intentions will always reveal themselves in his behaviour. Keep your head. But allow yourself to follow your heart.Why are you affraid if your not going to have sex before marriage...
I already told you the ultimate test of love, try to see if he will love you and remain with you without doing sex, tell him that sex comes after marriage.
Your mom is right but sometimes the guy might be honest, so you have to try him and only time can tell...not all guys say that, especially in depth😂 he definitely cares for you and he has opinions based on his experiences. you guys are a good match. stop listening to your mom. it gets better when you do.
I think if the guy is Christian he would believe in sex after marriage
i never had sex with a girl cause i don't believe in sex before marriage
i hate say this but your mom is toxic her frame of thinking will chase
all guys who try to date you they can't be judged on what they text you
any guy who spends wee hours of the morning texting you has some
feelings for you trust me?Your mom has a point, some are like that.
Some guys mean it.
You weed out guys heart by taking things slow.🤔hmm... not necessarily to "make" a girl fall, I wrote things like this myself once, bcs that's how I expressed my feelings at best my second was singing love songs to her. Could that be his case? Life is like tootsie pop.
Exactly fucking God damn exactly I've been trying to tell u the same thing but u don't take me serious. All guys say these things. And having sex with virgins🤔 she's right.
Sorry but I agree with her🤟😑Not all guys, but a lot. I am not sure we should be seeing all this. Private. He would not like us seeing this. Does he have a faith? Does he want kids?
well... he is laying it on rather thicccc... just don't get pressured into doing anything you don't want to
Words don't mean shit. Look at this actions. Does he act according to what he says?
Do not be quick to judge. Wait until you see things clearly based on how he treats you.Not to sound negative but your Mom is a putz. Sorry.
He's writing from the heart. He's thinking deep thoughts. He's feeling deep feelings. I think he's genuine.
Your mom is right, but I don't think this guy is one of the bad ones. Just my opinion.can't really say it's a new relationship so take it day by day
i'm a little disturbed that they're numbered
I agree with @0112358. Sounds too good, that it comes off odd.
if he’s still writing, and feeling that way in two years..., maybe
he's clearly a bit over obsessed and y'all should slow it down or better yet just find another guy whos more normal lol
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