Why lie about having feelings?

[hopefulecynic]

We all know we have a strong hook up culture in this society. We've to an extent accepted it even though we're one of the most miserable and lonely generations yet. I'm not dissing on casual flings. But with the way things are and the fact that we all know.

Why do people lie and say they have feelings or care about you and use calculated moves and efforts to get you to trust them and feel a certain type of way?

Invoking feelings in the person you're dating as a means of control? Or is it something else. Basically I don't see the point of using tactics to produce feelings in someone else that you don't yourself feel. What is that about?
A fling is a fling. We're all aware. It doesn't need manipulative tactics to stay afloat.
It really seems messed up to me.

Am i the only one who thinks this way?

[VIVANT]

I agree 💯

This is not 1667

people hooking up is the norm..

no one has to lie or manipulate or distort the truth in order to get sex... You have better chance at casual sex by being upfront with a person who wants casual sex or a fling, than lying about feelings to one who does not want casual sex/ fling... Dumb waste of time, aside from low.

[Bhavin2184]

Think about dating is it's difficult to maintain a relationship so eventually feeling started to fade from that person
So they enter into hook up culture to fulfill their needs and start lies to maintain their relationship but eventually the relationship is broken.

[hopefulecynic]

So the lie is to protect them selves and keep the relationship?

If it's a hook up it wouldn't matter if the relationship stayed or went.

I still don't understand the lies. It's really easy to find casual. Still so strange to me

[Bhavin2184]

Obviously some who want a relationship aren't satisfy and lie and go for hookup
About casual thing some guys I think
get attached to it and they want that person only themselves and for their needs
So overall some guys are idiots having attached feelings that aren't made for casual thing.

[hopefulecynic]

I wasn't talking about men in specific. but that actually does help. clarify things and makes sense to me. Thank you

[Bhavin2184]

About woman I think they handle the casual thing very well. It's just guys are more hornier and idiot and get easily attached in general.

[spartan55]

Most guys say that script because girls need to hear it for them to get laid. Hookup culture or not, when it comes down to it most girls aren't cool to just casually fuck.

[VIVANT]

This is 💯 false

[hopefulecynic]

Yes. Completely false. I've had arrangements with plenty of guys I was fine to just hookup with.
We were completely honest at the beginning about what it was and no one got hurt.

It comes down to complete honestly and being on the same page.

You dont ever say it's more than sex. If it is not. It's a complete set up and a bitch move on a dudes part.

If you want someone casually who doesn't want casual back. Dont go there!

[thechiquitoman]

Hello

[hopefulecynic]

Lol, hi