Is there such a thing as a passive man?

[Anonymous]

Like, being totally into you but just naturally passive, laid back. The type that prefer women initiating and pursuing.
Is it a real personality trait or just a myth (he's just not that into you)?

[JackSmy]

That is kind of confusing. Do you like to be 'in charge' and just like a guy who is totally loving you, and comfortable with you choosing where to eat, what he wears and who is on top? OR o you:
I prefer her to be MY EQUAL, and ask me out, at least some of the time! I EXPECT her to pay, at least some of the time. I expect, if she is EQUAL, that she initiates intimate things, and can actually say what she likes, and wants, and show me where and how much, rather than just assuming 'I know'!! LOL!!
I REALLY, HONESTLY LOVE women that ASSUME that I will see them as Equals, and accept nothing less! I am fine, going along with her plan for dates, when she invites! I love being with her!
But where are those?

[NeedinarealLady]

Well sweetheart if that is a picture of you in your profile picture any man that is not into you is a goddamn fool but there is nothing wrong with a woman pursuing the man as well at least I don't think so... You came onto me for I sure as fuck would never say no although I must say that you're cute little sexy ass would really be in trouble and find out what it's like to be with a real man who is not only a hopeless romantic and honest and caring and sincere loving compassionate an adventurous fun-loving playful blah blah blah that actually has a a Heartheart of gold into long term committed relationships. Not a liar or a cheater who likes to spoil and pamper and show his lady he appreciates her I respect her and loves and adores her... But also so damn good in the bedroom that he satisfies and pleases her well beyond Way Beyond not only her loudest imagination and dreams but better than anyone she is ever been with before and her entire life and takes his time for her

[Yads_Is_Back]

It’s a real personality, but those men are too submissive for my taste.

[thekissesofthesun]

Maybe but in my experience these guys were actually not into me.

[Reaperbot666]

more often lately passive or beta males. have been growing up in single parent households. typically when raised by just a mother figure. because they do not have a strong father figure to look up to as a role model. to be able to help them shape there understanding. of what a good strong male should be like.

[KrayZJ]

Living proof that its real right here, then again im... metaphorically... sitting in the back booth of the diner reading the newspaper. No one that's single notices me so why do I bother.

[duneshandy]

I personally feel better because the rejection is enough to not approach for me. I'm good with independent strong willed women because you know where you stand.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Yep, it's very much real for men to be like this. Doesn't apply to everyone though.

[DogEatsCat1973]

I am. I don't like to initiate and am so passive that I don't like conflict either. And if she wants sex I will wait for her to ask.

[Prof_Don]

Plenty of passive men in the world. Not every guy is an alpha personality.

[MannMitAntworten]

I have seen lots of guys like this from around the age of 70 down. So yes.

[Anonymous]

Yeah
in the Me Too era, looking at a women wrong will see you get a lawsuit on the doormat so you wait for them to approach you to avoid that situation arising

[Anonymous]

Yeah. You're talking to him. No woman is worth pursuing to me. There's been a few women i've been into over the years. But i don't chase! You want someone to chase you? Get a dog.

[YHL6965]

Yes, it's a thing. Shy guys are a prime example. Not all of them are passive but shyness can keep them stuck in that passive state.

[db684]

Yep its real. Though some of us aren't really that passive we just don't want to mess things up and/or be branded something if we're too forward.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of guys in the world that hate and resent the gender role that guys have to be the initiators and make the first move in starting a relationship

[thekissesofthesun]

Sure, like there are guys that hate and resent women for making the first move. And they even look down upon them, thinking they are easy, and that the first move is something that is supposed to be done by guys only. I've tried asking guys out and I just regret it.

[Opinion Owner]

@thekissesofthesun well can't speak for every guy

[magiusX26]

yes. but it is called introverted and shy

[In_Trance]

Most men are passive; most women are not

[Slim57]

Yeah I'm that way somewhat

[Tunasub]

That is almost me...

[Smirnoff23]

You just sum me up