Guys, Should I reach out to a guy I just deleted?

[Anonymous]

So the other night I deleted this guy off Snapchat in a drunken state of anger. I asked him when he was going to come visit me and he kind of did some word games and was making light of the conversation when I was just anxious to get a straight answer because weve been talking about meeting for awhile. We met 9 months ago and have been talking on and off through text and snap almost everyday since. I deleted him when I was fishing for an answer and I feel foolish because in the morning I went to take it back and readd him he didn't add me back.. I feel like a complete idiot but I still feel like if I reach out to try to explain why I did what I did it might be fixable.. do I try or do I just try to move on and get over the fact that I'm an idiot? What would you guys think of the situation if you were in his shoes honestly?

[ManWithThePlan123]

If I were in his shoes, I'd probably be confused. I feel like explaining what happened to him would be a great idea. It doesn't guarantee that he thinks you aren't a psycho though.

[Asker]

Yup and that's my issue.. I definitely already look crazy.. but is it a crazy someone can forgive and still want to meet?

[ManWithThePlan123]

Depends, I don't know the guy. I feel like he would understand though that you were having a meltdown.

[Asker]

9 months is a long time to talk to someone and not make plans to meet up so I just got a bit upset but he also wouldn't continue talking to me if he wasn't interested?

[ManWithThePlan123]

Well I don't know, most guys are pretty straight forward and would just want to meet.

[Asker]

Well shoot.. is he just playing games?

[ManWithThePlan123]

I would think so yeah

[ManWithThePlan123]

But I don't know if it's in like a "I don't want to be friends way" or "I'm too shy/embarrassed because I like you"

[Asker]

That's a bummer

[ManWithThePlan123]

And then on top of that he thinks you are a psycho, so yeah

[Asker]

Is there at all a chance it's just because he's been busy like he claimed?

[ManWithThePlan123]

Oh now we are playing the busy game. Trust me I've had girls tell me they were busy before and this is how it works. If someone can't make time for you, it is because they don't want to. There is always time.

[Asker]

We live 2.5 hrs away from each other it's not like it's a half hour trip. It would be a weekend trip or a day even. It's also not like I tried to make it a serious thing. Its just that I'm ready to meet him hangout and know the guy face to face because we vibed all the time. I would go to him but I also just am a believer that a guy should come to the girl.. which I sort of regret not just saying I will come visit

[ManWithThePlan123]

Sorry for not understanding the situation, but yeah nothing should stop a girl from taking initiative. If he isn't going for it, you go for it. In this situation, after your outburst though, probably not the greatest idea.

[Asker]

It's just hard to explain all at once. He's from my home town so I went to go visit friends and family about a month ago and told him I was going to be in town about a week in advance and he said he had another wedding and then he was going to be out of town and how it was the worst timing. So I figured I made my effort to try and come visit and meet up so it would be his turn kind of thing to do something about it. I did put a lot of pressure on it the other night because it just felt to me like he was blowing it off when it shouldn't be that hard to be like okay let's meet in a month when I don't have plans or something. Ya know? I never tried to put a lot of pressure on the topic but it came out in the drunken state and yes it was stupid but would he understand or is it just bad now?

[ManWithThePlan123]

Fuck it, why not go for it? If he thinks you are crazy, then I guess that is that. If not you could be wasting a big opportunity.

[Asker]

I mean ya that's what I was leaning towards since I've already kind of made a fool of myself might as well just try anyways.. but I also just don't really know what to say other than I'm sorry for being a stupid girl lol.

[ManWithThePlan123]

I mean it made me laugh to read that, maybe he will think of it the same way. Just curious, are you on your? Is that why this happened?

[Asker]

Im ridiculous I know! But also why does someone talk to someone without any intention to maybe meet up one day?
Nope I am not on it but tequila hits me and I turn into a different person

[Avicenna]

Sure, but be sure to apologize as well

[Asker]

How do I go about it? I have million ways in my head but I can't seem to find the right way to say I'm sorry for being crazy impatient...

[Avicenna]

Be genuine about it. Its not always how you say it but how genuine you are. Apologize directly and let him know why you're still interested.

[Asker]

Hey, Im sorry for acting rash and deleting you on snap. I was drunk and impatient and looking for an answer that I wasn't getting. I really don't want to lose you as s a friend because I'm still interested in you of you still were interested in me. I get that we live 2 hours away from each other and I know we aren't a serious thing. I enjoy randomly talking to you and if we meet up then we meet up when we can which is how I liked it. Can you forgive my crazy?

Is this okay or is this just pathetic?

[In_Trance]

why bother

[Asker]

Because I like him and we talked a long time for it to end like thay

[In_Trance]

It has to end some way

[Asker]

Why does it have to end if they don't want it to end?

[In_Trance]

It's been this long and nobody is making any type of commitment; so what are you even doing here?

[Asker]

It was a casual thing it never was a commitment type of thing but I guess it seemed that way when I wanted to meet up and he kept saying he wanted to meet but timing wasn't our friend..

[In_Trance]

If you really wanted to meet, you would've made it happen. But neither of you did

[Asker]

Then why talk for all that time

[In_Trance]

Because nothing else came along

[Asker]

Would you say forget it I'd you were him then?

[In_Trance]

Like I've already stated; nothing has happened after several months

[Iron_Man]

Sure if you want to