Why would my crush add me back on snapchat 3 months later? first of all he just recently broke up with his ex & he’s not active on snapchat?

[Anonymous]

Okay so he had been dating his ex for i think 1,5 years and they just recently broke up. Around the time they were dating i added him on snapchat, i think it was somewhere around may & June, but he didn’t add me back, which kinda made sense because 1. he had a girlfriend and 2. he barely uses snapchat/social media. He did follow me back on instagram though a while ago. We would also casually talk to each other at school, always greeting & he’s the one who starts the conversation, not me. Him & his girlfriend just recently broke up & suddenly he added me back on snapchat? i was kinda excited but at the same time confused, why would he suddenly add me back months later if he barely even uses the app, because I've checked and his snapscore doesn’t even change which means he doesn’t send nor receive any snaps. So i thought it’d be a good idea to send him a snap first, which i did, he immediately opened it , but he didn’t reply back. it wasn’t a snap directly towards him, but he could still have maybe answered something, I don't know? he does watch my stories too, so i dont know what’s going on? do i have to start a conversation? i also don’t get what the point is of adding me back months later if you barely even use the app? unless he obviously just saw it, but i doubt it

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update: i sent him a snap directly asking him how he was and he responded with “goodd, and you?” i started a conversation out of that by saying im not good lol and i explained why. It was about me having to take a corona test bc of my vacation, so we talked about that. But eventually he started replying slowly, i think he got busy or something, so i ignored his last message. this was two days ago and we haven't talked since. im hoping he’ll feel more comfortable now texting me first

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oh also, a guy friend of mine was at the gym with him 3 days ago and asked him how he was doing and my crush responded with “fucked up man, but i need to clear my head rn so we’ll talk another time about it” , but when i asked him he answered with “goodd” so im guessing he’s not comfortable about being open with me or he just much rather discusses these things in real life? either way, he’s not over the break up yet, even tho he’s the one who broke up...

[mike542]

Well, i think it's possible that he just saw it coz he's not actively using the app.
Also i think you should start the conversation but i don't think you should make any moves coz he might still be heartbroken from the relationship. And he could be back with his girlfriend if the breakup wasn't about anything serious.

[Asker]

yeah i thought about it too, but he always watched my story, so im pretty sure he watches others, i just kind of get the feeling he added me because he’s got nothing to worry about now. also he broke up with her and they have been broken up for a while now i’ve heard.

[mike542]

It could be that she was not allowing him to add you out of jealousy. You never know until you ask him (you can ask him casually and get your answer)

[spartan55]

Stop short circuiting your overthinking girl brain and send him a message... you girls make everything so complicated...

[spartan55]

Re: your update. Your logic is so backwards. First of all, you think he will want to text you first after you didn't respond to his last text? Second, stop with the games.

[spartan55]

This is a GUY THAT YOU LIKE, not your boyfriend. You seem to expect him to open up all of his feelings and text you first... that won't work.

[Asker]

read my updates, i sent him a message :)!

[spartan55]

I responded to your updates..

[Asker]

oh im sorry i didn't see. well i just sent him a snap after 3 days about some struggles with the corona test i have to take, so it wasn’t anything directly towards him. i mean he couldve replied something but he didn't :( he just opened it, i feel like im annoying him

[spartan55]

Again, you are placing boyfriend type expectations on this guy.
If you want him to respond to you message him individually..

[Asker]

but other guys do respond tho, except him. well not all guys obviously, but most do respond

[spartan55]

Everyone isn't going to respond the way you like, that's beyond your control.
Girls tend to boil everything down to: if he does XYZ.. then he really cares, he loves me!
OR
He didn't do XYZ that must mean he doesn't care, he hates me!
No, no, just no.

[Avicenna]

He may have other reasons for communicating with you

[Asker]

like?

[Anonymous]

Probably wants back in with you.

That or he's scouting for options to hook up with.

[In_Trance]

Because he's bored and thinks you're easy

[Asker]

could be, but i doubt it. He’s a very respectful & nice guy, irl he’d always initiate the conversation with me even though sometimes id forget to say hi back because i was that nervous/shy/in love lol, I don't know if he noticed, but he probably wouldn't see me as “easy”

[In_Trance]

I can assure you he does. Unless you can tell me another valid reason, which is answering your own question.
He wants to smash

[Asker]

if he wanted to smash he wouldve already said so, right? or at least responded to some of my snaps. i feel like i annoy him

[In_Trance]

So why don't you put it to the test and and ask him if he wants to?