- most males have primal urges to seek out and mate with as many female partners as possible. in order to ensure their bloodline continues for the next generation. this is true with all life not just humans.
- most females have primal urges to seek out the best male they can to mate with. in order to ensure she has strong and healthy children. this is true with all life not just humans.
- however the males urges can be kept in check. if he finds a willing female to keep his urges in check. by ensuring he is full satisfied physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually.
- but modern hookup culture, one night stands, the internet, dating apps/sites and social media. have all played a role in increasing cheating for both males and females. because instead of finding one partner to be with long term. while working out any issues that happen to come up.
- people find it easier to get their sexual fix and bail without developing long term bonds.
- recent studies show that females who have a long history of partners. are less likely to bond with any one partner long term. so she is more likely to cheat as well.
- which also causes males to then revert back to their own primal urges of seeking out a new mate.
- also modern laws regarding relationships and marriage along with the increasing divorce rates. have made males less likely to get into a long term relationship. over fear of losing most of their money and resources.
- plus if the female even claims the male did anything wrong to her. even without having any real proof to back up her claims in court or on social media. the court system and social media is 7/10 more likely to take her side of the story and the true.
- without even hearing out or believing the males side of the story in 7/10 cases.
- http://pauldavidphd.com/wp-content/uploads/Pair-Bonding.pdf
- https://www.medinstitute.org/articles/pair-bonding-and-the-brain/
- https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20131125/how-the-love-hormone-works-its-magic#2
- https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/a-48-hour-sexual-afterglow-helps-to-bond-partners-over-time.html
- https://www.thetrumpet.com/7750-the-emotional-corrosion-of-casual-sex
- Would much rather not make it legal.
- After all it is just paperwork and a headache for all involved.
- Should things not work out in the long run.
- Can still get married under the eyes of your own religious believes however.
- Personally I would like western culture to remove. the legal aspect from relationship and marriage.
- Paperwork does not prove you love for each other. Your actions and desire to support each other shows that.
- With both men and women being able to earn their own income and resources.
- Why should either side be forced by the court system. to pay the other if they spilt up down the road.
- Unless they choose to share with their money and resources with their partner in question.
- Also child custody should be default 50/50. Unless one side can prove the other is unfit to be a parent.
- Or one side chooses to forsake their rights to custody.
- The divorce rate in western culture is over 50%. With many of them failing in the first 5-10 years of marriage.
- Because to many people rush into marriage these days. Without getting to fully know and understand their partner.
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Women cheat too. They are simply programmed inhibition by society.
If you want to talk about pre-programmed in a genetic sense, you can. But if you want to claim that men are subject to our base biology, that means women are as well. Because if we are, you are.
The female equivalent, is cuckolding. The female finds a beta provider. She mates with him when she is not ovulating, to secure his resources. When she ovulates, she sneaks off and fucks the alpha male behind her mates back. She has alpha males babies, and comes back to her provider and tricks him into believing they are his kids.
So if men cheat, for biological reasons, it’s because the male is supposed to spread his seed to every female he can, if he can. Because the alpha male is having sex with all the females when they are ovulating. He does not stay in a relationship. So he must be able to spread his seed to everyone.
The beta male tries to win his own reproductive success by providing for a female. She gives him sex in exchange for resources and to help another males offspring thrive.
So that is really what human sexual strategy is. Well, it’s theorized anyways. Nobody really truly knows what our sexual nature is at the most basic level. But this idea is the one most supported by evidence.
Neither men nor women are moral in the world of sex. Especially not women. Don’t think of yourself so high. If men are so bad, you’re confirming what women are.
My opinion is we can easily overcome our base animal sexuality. Culture plays more of a role in the way we behave than our animal instincts. Culture overrides our animal instincts most of the time. Culture has been proven to change our dna. And our dna has been proven to change our culture. It’s an endless circle and you can’t tell where the start or the finish is. It’s all infinitely intertwined.
Genetically and historically speaking, both sexes would be "pre programmed to cheat" as the aim of early human existence like all animals was to live, breed and pass on genetics to another generation...
But this is not a modern program, and later learning suggests that coupling provided a better chance of survival for early humans, and why many species mate for life.
People think cheating happens all the time, although this is likely as people are more likely to hear about that then happy couples
No definitely not. I hate when I hear guys saying that they're "hardwired to spread their seed". That is a bunch of BS and just a excuse to cheat. Believe it or not men have hormone changes when there childern are born which lowers testosterone and makes them more likely to stick around to be with their baby mama. Maybe all the guys that cheat aren't the ones reproducing but they'll sure the fuck claim it's a biological thing to spread their sperm to any hoe that they desire
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Scientifically speaking, we are not naturally made to stick around with a single girl. It's just a societal convention. After spending a given amount with a girl, our interest fades away. Our happiness also goes down as that happens. For some it takes longer, for others it takes less, but it's really rare for that to not happen. That brings us the new for something or someone new.
However, this is not the reason why people cheat. Not at all. The main reason is immaturity. So what does that actually mean? What characterizes a healthy adult in the first place?
Well, I'm sure you heard about this before, but it's responsibility. A very important trait that people don't take seriously until they realize its importance. This can also determine how much work someone would put into a relationship and how much communication there will be. It takes two responsible people to work together towards a common goal to have a relationship, and without that you'll likely have only two delusional persons by themselves, holding on to their own ideals that are not founded in reality. And when those people realise that reality doesn't coincide with their delusions, the weak ties keeping them together fall apart and things like cheating happen.
Just because it's in your genes to keep looking for partners, that's not an excuse to cheat, but only someone mature enough would be able refrain from it.
Of course, not cheating doesn't say anything about how good the relationship will be, but that's a first step in the right direction.The only reason men win the statistics of being cheaters more than women is because Men are more sexually driven Then women are , Adult entertainment is more focused on luring men in then luring women in , there is a bigger market in luring men in , Girls are labeled as sex symbols , there are more Female Strip clubs then their are Male strip clubs , A Female Porn Star makes more money then a male porn star because she is the market. But to say a guy cheats more then a
Girl that mainly comes down to that individual , I know girls that cheat and I know guys that cheat , so it comes down to that individual. People cheat in general for many of reasons , A guy cheats mainly because his sex life at home is dull and sex is lacking in the relationship , his girl constantly nags at him and makes him feel like he isn’t good enough for her. Most marriages where the sex dies down so does the marriage , A girl will mainly cheat because she is drawn to status , If her man doesn’t have a good job or doesn’t complete her to do list then she is turned off and holds that against him , then she is open to meeting a guy that has a higher status and presents himself better , a guy that is pretty much talking out of his ass to get laid , but girls fall for that shit all the time. All cheating is a selfish act , if people removed selfishness in relationships and respected each other without thinking grass is greener on the other side , relationships would last , I feel social media has a big part on destroying relationships by filling people’s heads with thinking grass is greener on the other side , comparing their lives to others , before internet and social media apps people actually valued each other more because they weren’t comparing their lives to others as much , we didn’t see what was going on behind closed doors , now people today have access to anybody their hearts desireI think when men cheat it's usually for sex and when women cheat it's typically because they want an emotional connection. It takes longer to establish an emotional connection, so statistically men cheat more frequently. There are a ton of women out there who cheat.
As far as being pre-programmed to cheat, there was an interesting evolutionary theory I heard once about "stayers" and "strayers". The theory was that some early humans had a breeding strategy of pairing up for life and making as many babies as possible together rather than risk finding a new mate. Other humans thrived better by procreating with as many different mates as possible to create as many children as possible. Modern society, especially if you go back thirty or forty years, seems to frown on having children out of wedlock, and so people with instincts to be "strayers" feel that they must hide and be dishonest if they wish to fulfill those urges.
I myself don't cheat. I establish boundaries with my girlfriend and stick to them, and if I wish to go outside those boundaries we talk about it and decide if it is okay to move the line or not. Not everyone feels they can be that open and honest about what they're feeling with their partner though.Both men and women are programmed with impulses to cheat and impulses not to. Those impulses are stronger in some men and women then others.
Men and women cheat slightly differently - men more often cheating for quantity and women for hypergamy - but there were evolutionary advantages for men and women to pair up and cheat and both instincts persist.
men traditionally cheated in marriage quite a bit more then women primarily due to opportunity. As women have similar work lives to men, those numbers are evening out.
I suspect it’s true that high count serial cheaters tend to be men - though a small group of them.Huh? all Humans were pre-programmed to do so. Humans mate make a baby then do it again it don't matter to nature if it's the same partner. And it's actually better genetically to spread out. So less incest happens or when it does happen there so disconnected from the genetic pool it don't matter. But that is no matter due to humans are more socially adept there genetics and nature. And we have a thing called morals which socially impact are genetics and nature so neither is really pre-programmed.
no one is preprogrammed to cheat, and in my experience no gender cheats more or less than the other... some areas just have more cheaters present than others...
where as other areas have so very few.. if any... it also depends on how a person's morals are, if you are someone who doesn't care and only want what you want, without bothering about who you hurt... chances are you'll end up being guilty of cheating or something else... but if you give a crap, and prefer to work through things and care about those you are with... then you are more likely not to cheat..
however certain instances of life can often turn someone into a cheat, or certain people easily manipulated can often find themselves not wanting to offend or upset so they do what they can to appease... that though is no excuse for cheating, but it can be a valid reason for it happening even if it will never excuse the act itselfI think you're wrong here.. Statistically it's about even, women are better at keeping it secret than men are.. Let's not forget 25% of men are paying child support for children that aren't theirs.
https://nymag. com/article/2016/05/women-are-now-cheating-as-much-as-men-but-with-fewer-consequences. htmlAt a base genetic level we both are. But i would say males have a stronger urge. Its all about ensuring genes a carried forward as successfully as possible. We can dress it up any way we can with societal words like morals, respect, badness, devotion etc but there's no escaping that its driven by a basic instinct to reproduce.
Now, as we have evolved emotions and rational thought processes we haveva certain amount of control over over these instincts, self discipline. So with that in mind, humans cheat for two reasons: 1 enjoyment (mostly males) where the relationship is still strong and cheating is random without attachment, 2: dispair (mostly females) where the relationship is unproductive and fulfillment is sought elsewhere.There's a lot of statistical data out there that questions whether or not there's truth in the idea that men cheat more than women. The problem is that men are programmed to be boastful, so are far more likely to admit it when doing a poll or study.
Outside studies have confirmed women are far less likely to admit cheating, even in anonymous settings, than men.
UK studies on cheating have shown that among people who admit cheating, that men still appear to cheat more often, but when they factor in a percentage of women that cheat but never admit it, the scales tip to show women actually cheat more than men.
The problem is obvious though, if they won't admit it, there's no mathematical certainty on accuracy. Personally, I just level the field and figure that both sexes cheat equally.I know statistically, men are more likely to, according to those numbers, but I don't believe everyone who cheats is going to go out and say "Hey I cheated"
Almost every woman I have met has admitted to cheating in some way, whereas only one man I know has cheated, or at least, the only one I know about.
To answer your question though, no we are not. I think in a vicinity such as high school, our peers may pressure us into making decisions like that or circumstances in general throughout life, which also applies to women, but I think people cheat for similar reasons so it's just a matter of who gives in, who crosses that line and who doesn't. I don't believe most parents would encourage or support cheating and I don't think most friends would do so either. It really depends.
I hope I answered your question lolTHAT'S JUST PURE BULLSHIT MEN DONT CHEAT MORE THAN WOMAN...
Are Men are preprogrammed to cheat ...
consider this historical throughout all civilizations people have always taken on multiple sexual mates
Its only fairly recently in our modern western Christian culture that its no longer the acceptable normal... except now its done secretly/Discreetly
I don't know about another men but for the majority of my adult sexual life I would estimate that over 95% of all my sexual partners were with non-single woman they were either married and/or otherwise already had a serious boyfriend
So NO men are not preprogrammed to cheat.. technically!!!
People (Human beings) are simply not ment to be be in Monogamous relationships indefinitelyAccording to https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america#:~:text=also%20means%20infidelity.-,In%20general%2C%20men%20are%20more%20likely%20than%20women%20to%20cheat,gender%20gap%20varies%20by%20age.
20% of men cheat and 13% of women. So yes men cheat more but not that much more. There's some anthropomorphic evidence to support the belief that humans were originally polygamist.Why are men “caught” cheating so much more than women... that should read.
Women are far better at concealing their improprieties than men are is why. They’ll carry identical changes of clothes along with toiletries, burner phones with ‘his’ name entered as a woman’s in case discovered, and have faux email accounts to even including their friends to cover for them If called or approached.
Women entering a man’s phone number into their phone under a woman’s name is even common on their regular phone.
Nearly an equal segment of both sexes cheat. Women are simply significantly better at not getting caught Is all. Ironically this is likely the one area where women are most united and cover for one another and claim naivety and where men more often than not will throw the cheating man under the bus if confronted.I didn’t cheat and I know I could have. The two married women that in know who cheated were both in their 40s, below average looking for their age and destroyed their family. In at least one case, the grown children (Females) won’t speak to her for destroying the family. The other one I was just talking about yesterday with my wife as we passed her old house. Her best friend lived next door. The cheaters house was having construction work done. She took a construction guy next door to her BFFs family home and screwed the guy there. The BFF walked in and found them, got mad and through them out. Then it made the rumor mill. The husband left and she had to sell the house when the last child graduated high school which was a few years later. The BFF and family moved too, they moved first actually.
It's actually not the case. I know a guy who is a private investigator and he told me it used to be in unmarried couples, men cheat more but it married couples women cheat more. However, now with the rise of online dating apps, there has been a huge increase in female cheating because it is so easy for them but no real increase in male cheating. Also that there is only a limited range of men who even get the opportunity to cheat but with women, that opportunity is basically across the board.
When he is investigating a man, it usually turns out that he is doing some other activity like drinking alone, or going to football games with his friends or fishing or fast food bingeing or something but when he investigates women, they are cheating almost 100% of the time. So to say men cheat more than women isn't the case in today's society.They don't cheat more no one can prove this you can show all the studies you want but that person might be lying anyway
I read a study that said a person with higher testosterone (males are higher) are more impulsive which could lead to cheating but to me that's just an excuse Also the only way that they was able to get this information about that person cheating is either from them or their girlfriend which both parties could lie why would someone lie about cheating if they didn't simply because they can people lie about little stuff all the time
But if that study is true then it's in guys DNALots of guys are for sure and they won't ever change... personally im not just because i can only handle 1 girl at a time... that and im not a liar and cheating takes a whole ton of lies to keep going. . that being said I've been the side piece for many girls which i dont mind because its out in the open... I've just never really had the need to cheat because I've never had a problem getting hot girls... and I'm nothing special... personally i think girls are far bigger cheaters they just lie better
To be honest, this is MY opinion only, attractive guys are more likely to cheat then average looking men, just because they have huge selection of women who'd love to them. I'm not saying average looking men or people who are really unattractive don't cheat, they do but not as often. Also, i think feelings are a major part of cheating. You can always tell when a guy only wants to date around vs a guy who actually loves you and sees a future with you (marriage)
The easiest way to figure out if men cheat more often than women is to look at current infidelity statistics, courtesy of the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy:
57% of men overall admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives
54% of women overall admit to committing infidelity in one or more of their relationships
22% of married men admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
14% of married women admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
As you can see, the percentages of men and women who have cheated in a relationship are very similar. However, when you look into the lives of married couples, men do have a higher rate of infidelity than women. These numbers may be skewed based on the amount of people who were willing to tell the truth about their infidelity, but it is safe to say that as a whole, both genders have the ability to cheat on one another.Most of the sperm isn't there to fertilize the egg, it's there to tangle up other men's sperm and is known as kamikaze sperm. Even the shape of the penis and thrusting action is designed to scoop out the last man's sticky donation. Add to this behavioural aspects such as mate guarding any it's clear that men are programmed to cheat.
Obviously women never would lol
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