most males have primal urges to seek out and mate with as many female partners as possible. in order to ensure their bloodline continues for the next generation. this is true with all life not just humans.
most females have primal urges to seek out the best male they can to mate with. in order to ensure she has strong and healthy children. this is true with all life not just humans.
however the males urges can be kept in check. if he finds a willing female to keep his urges in check. by ensuring he is full satisfied physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually.
but modern hookup culture, one night stands, the internet, dating apps/sites and social media. have all played a role in increasing cheating for both males and females. because instead of finding one partner to be with long term. while working out any issues that happen to come up.
people find it easier to get their sexual fix and bail without developing long term bonds.
recent studies show that females who have a long history of partners. are less likely to bond with any one partner long term. so she is more likely to cheat as well.
which also causes males to then revert back to their own primal urges of seeking out a new mate.
also modern laws regarding relationships and marriage along with the increasing divorce rates. have made males less likely to get into a long term relationship. over fear of losing most of their money and resources.
plus if the female even claims the male did anything wrong to her. even without having any real proof to back up her claims in court or on social media. the court system and social media is 7/10 more likely to take her side of the story and the true.
without even hearing out or believing the males side of the story in 7/10 cases.
Women cheat too. They are simply programmed inhibition by society.
If you want to talk about pre-programmed in a genetic sense, you can. But if you want to claim that men are subject to our base biology, that means women are as well. Because if we are, you are.
The female equivalent, is cuckolding. The female finds a beta provider. She mates with him when she is not ovulating, to secure his resources. When she ovulates, she sneaks off and fucks the alpha male behind her mates back. She has alpha males babies, and comes back to her provider and tricks him into believing they are his kids.
So if men cheat, for biological reasons, it’s because the male is supposed to spread his seed to every female he can, if he can. Because the alpha male is having sex with all the females when they are ovulating. He does not stay in a relationship. So he must be able to spread his seed to everyone.
The beta male tries to win his own reproductive success by providing for a female. She gives him sex in exchange for resources and to help another males offspring thrive.
So that is really what human sexual strategy is. Well, it’s theorized anyways. Nobody really truly knows what our sexual nature is at the most basic level. But this idea is the one most supported by evidence.
Neither men nor women are moral in the world of sex. Especially not women. Don’t think of yourself so high. If men are so bad, you’re confirming what women are.
My opinion is we can easily overcome our base animal sexuality. Culture plays more of a role in the way we behave than our animal instincts. Culture overrides our animal instincts most of the time. Culture has been proven to change our dna. And our dna has been proven to change our culture. It’s an endless circle and you can’t tell where the start or the finish is. It’s all infinitely intertwined.
Genetically and historically speaking, both sexes would be "pre programmed to cheat" as the aim of early human existence like all animals was to live, breed and pass on genetics to another generation... But this is not a modern program, and later learning suggests that coupling provided a better chance of survival for early humans, and why many species mate for life. People think cheating happens all the time, although this is likely as people are more likely to hear about that then happy couples
No definitely not. I hate when I hear guys saying that they're "hardwired to spread their seed". That is a bunch of BS and just a excuse to cheat. Believe it or not men have hormone changes when there childern are born which lowers testosterone and makes them more likely to stick around to be with their baby mama. Maybe all the guys that cheat aren't the ones reproducing but they'll sure the fuck claim it's a biological thing to spread their sperm to any hoe that they desire
The only reason men win the statistics of being cheaters more than women is because Men are more sexually driven Then women are , Adult entertainment is more focused on luring men in then luring women in , there is a bigger market in luring men in , Girls are labeled as sex symbols , there are more Female Strip clubs then their are Male strip clubs , A Female Porn Star makes more money then a male porn star because she is the market. But to say a guy cheats more then a Girl that mainly comes down to that individual , I know girls that cheat and I know guys that cheat , so it comes down to that individual. People cheat in general for many of reasons , A guy cheats mainly because his sex life at home is dull and sex is lacking in the relationship , his girl constantly nags at him and makes him feel like he isn’t good enough for her. Most marriages where the sex dies down so does the marriage , A girl will mainly cheat because she is drawn to status , If her man doesn’t have a good job or doesn’t complete her to do list then she is turned off and holds that against him , then she is open to meeting a guy that has a higher status and presents himself better , a guy that is pretty much talking out of his ass to get laid , but girls fall for that shit all the time. All cheating is a selfish act , if people removed selfishness in relationships and respected each other without thinking grass is greener on the other side , relationships would last , I feel social media has a big part on destroying relationships by filling people’s heads with thinking grass is greener on the other side , comparing their lives to others , before internet and social media apps people actually valued each other more because they weren’t comparing their lives to others as much , we didn’t see what was going on behind closed doors , now people today have access to anybody their hearts desire
Scientifically speaking, we are not naturally made to stick around with a single girl. It's just a societal convention. After spending a given amount with a girl, our interest fades away. Our happiness also goes down as that happens. For some it takes longer, for others it takes less, but it's really rare for that to not happen. That brings us the new for something or someone new. However, this is not the reason why people cheat. Not at all. The main reason is immaturity. So what does that actually mean? What characterizes a healthy adult in the first place? Well, I'm sure you heard about this before, but it's responsibility. A very important trait that people don't take seriously until they realize its importance. This can also determine how much work someone would put into a relationship and how much communication there will be. It takes two responsible people to work together towards a common goal to have a relationship, and without that you'll likely have only two delusional persons by themselves, holding on to their own ideals that are not founded in reality. And when those people realise that reality doesn't coincide with their delusions, the weak ties keeping them together fall apart and things like cheating happen. Just because it's in your genes to keep looking for partners, that's not an excuse to cheat, but only someone mature enough would be able refrain from it. Of course, not cheating doesn't say anything about how good the relationship will be, but that's a first step in the right direction.
“Yes, but I say that Nature is our enemy, that we must always fight against Nature, for she is continually bringing us back to an animal state. “ Guy de Maupassant
I think when men cheat it's usually for sex and when women cheat it's typically because they want an emotional connection. It takes longer to establish an emotional connection, so statistically men cheat more frequently. There are a ton of women out there who cheat. As far as being pre-programmed to cheat, there was an interesting evolutionary theory I heard once about "stayers" and "strayers". The theory was that some early humans had a breeding strategy of pairing up for life and making as many babies as possible together rather than risk finding a new mate. Other humans thrived better by procreating with as many different mates as possible to create as many children as possible. Modern society, especially if you go back thirty or forty years, seems to frown on having children out of wedlock, and so people with instincts to be "strayers" feel that they must hide and be dishonest if they wish to fulfill those urges. I myself don't cheat. I establish boundaries with my girlfriend and stick to them, and if I wish to go outside those boundaries we talk about it and decide if it is okay to move the line or not. Not everyone feels they can be that open and honest about what they're feeling with their partner though.
Both men and women are programmed with impulses to cheat and impulses not to. Those impulses are stronger in some men and women then others.
Men and women cheat slightly differently - men more often cheating for quantity and women for hypergamy - but there were evolutionary advantages for men and women to pair up and cheat and both instincts persist.
men traditionally cheated in marriage quite a bit more then women primarily due to opportunity. As women have similar work lives to men, those numbers are evening out.
I suspect it’s true that high count serial cheaters tend to be men - though a small group of them.
Huh? all Humans were pre-programmed to do so. Humans mate make a baby then do it again it don't matter to nature if it's the same partner. And it's actually better genetically to spread out. So less incest happens or when it does happen there so disconnected from the genetic pool it don't matter. But that is no matter due to humans are more socially adept there genetics and nature. And we have a thing called morals which socially impact are genetics and nature so neither is really pre-programmed.
no one is preprogrammed to cheat, and in my experience no gender cheats more or less than the other... some areas just have more cheaters present than others... where as other areas have so very few.. if any... it also depends on how a person's morals are, if you are someone who doesn't care and only want what you want, without bothering about who you hurt... chances are you'll end up being guilty of cheating or something else... but if you give a crap, and prefer to work through things and care about those you are with... then you are more likely not to cheat.. however certain instances of life can often turn someone into a cheat, or certain people easily manipulated can often find themselves not wanting to offend or upset so they do what they can to appease... that though is no excuse for cheating, but it can be a valid reason for it happening even if it will never excuse the act itself
I think you're wrong here.. Statistically it's about even, women are better at keeping it secret than men are.. Let's not forget 25% of men are paying child support for children that aren't theirs.
https://nymag. com/article/2016/05/women-are-now-cheating-as-much-as-men-but-with-fewer-consequences. html
I feel kind of stupid, I failed to actually answer your question.. Humans, male or female are programmed to seek out the best possible mate.. Loyalty is a learned trait in that respect.. One i am happy to say i have learned.
At a base genetic level we both are. But i would say males have a stronger urge. Its all about ensuring genes a carried forward as successfully as possible. We can dress it up any way we can with societal words like morals, respect, badness, devotion etc but there's no escaping that its driven by a basic instinct to reproduce.
Now, as we have evolved emotions and rational thought processes we haveva certain amount of control over over these instincts, self discipline. So with that in mind, humans cheat for two reasons: 1 enjoyment (mostly males) where the relationship is still strong and cheating is random without attachment, 2: dispair (mostly females) where the relationship is unproductive and fulfillment is sought elsewhere.
There's a lot of statistical data out there that questions whether or not there's truth in the idea that men cheat more than women. The problem is that men are programmed to be boastful, so are far more likely to admit it when doing a poll or study.
Outside studies have confirmed women are far less likely to admit cheating, even in anonymous settings, than men.
UK studies on cheating have shown that among people who admit cheating, that men still appear to cheat more often, but when they factor in a percentage of women that cheat but never admit it, the scales tip to show women actually cheat more than men.
The problem is obvious though, if they won't admit it, there's no mathematical certainty on accuracy. Personally, I just level the field and figure that both sexes cheat equally.
I know statistically, men are more likely to, according to those numbers, but I don't believe everyone who cheats is going to go out and say "Hey I cheated" Almost every woman I have met has admitted to cheating in some way, whereas only one man I know has cheated, or at least, the only one I know about.
To answer your question though, no we are not. I think in a vicinity such as high school, our peers may pressure us into making decisions like that or circumstances in general throughout life, which also applies to women, but I think people cheat for similar reasons so it's just a matter of who gives in, who crosses that line and who doesn't. I don't believe most parents would encourage or support cheating and I don't think most friends would do so either. It really depends.
THAT'S JUST PURE BULLSHIT MEN DONT CHEAT MORE THAN WOMAN... Are Men are preprogrammed to cheat ... consider this historical throughout all civilizations people have always taken on multiple sexual mates Its only fairly recently in our modern western Christian culture that its no longer the acceptable normal... except now its done secretly/Discreetly
I don't know about another men but for the majority of my adult sexual life I would estimate that over 95% of all my sexual partners were with non-single woman they were either married and/or otherwise already had a serious boyfriend
So NO men are not preprogrammed to cheat.. technically!!! People (Human beings) are simply not ment to be be in Monogamous relationships indefinitely
Why are men “caught” cheating so much more than women... that should read.
Women are far better at concealing their improprieties than men are is why. They’ll carry identical changes of clothes along with toiletries, burner phones with ‘his’ name entered as a woman’s in case discovered, and have faux email accounts to even including their friends to cover for them If called or approached.
Women entering a man’s phone number into their phone under a woman’s name is even common on their regular phone.
Nearly an equal segment of both sexes cheat. Women are simply significantly better at not getting caught Is all. Ironically this is likely the one area where women are most united and cover for one another and claim naivety and where men more often than not will throw the cheating man under the bus if confronted.
Men, if you ‘feel’ or think your woman is cheating, she is. Women have this same intuition and they are equally always right about it. Men, don’t dismiss it. If you want proof, hire a private investigator. Better yet, if you have friends with certain accesses in government, they can really give you some details you probably would never dream of.
I realize stating that women who cheat is near equal proportions as men who cheat (actually they were found to cheat slightly more than men but for arguments sake, roughly equal), is not popular as it goes against portrayal/image as the noble righteous creatures betwixt the sexes, but that is pure bullshit. Between university studies and having been in a field were having to deal with these “perfect little angels” ... I will forever know women are not the innocent individuals they portray themselves to be and men overwhelmingly naively believe them to be. Especially after being exposed to just how violent women can be.
The image is pure myth. What gets me is how these little darlings will leverage their femininity as just cause for cheating, violence, child neglect/abuse/abandonment, embezzlement at work... saying that if men treating them better or gave them more attention then they would not have done the aforementioned. Frankly I have to appreciate the duality of women where on one hand women are featured as strong and fearless and not to be viewed as the “weaker sex”. Then when it serves to their advantage they are the weaker sex. Then holy hell on earth if it doesn’t go their way, either tears and pleading occurs or a tantrum and violent outburst. Furthermore, the more attractive the women who gets special treatment as a child into adulthood tends to push the limits furthest even when the penal system gets involved. I mean, look how many attractive women are in prison for murdering their husbands/boyfriends, statutory rape upon a minor, embezzlement, and for murder of their own child or children.
What is more disturbing are how many who are acquitted or given significantly reduced sentences because they are well versed at manipulating their audience to feel pity for their excuses for their awful behavior. All these pretty teachers screwing their 12 through 14 year old students serving just months in jail and all those pretty moms who get acquitted for murdering their child/children.
Women like men are just as capable of wrong doing and pure dark behavior. Lousy behavior in its various forms is not remotely exclusive to men.
Both men and women should pay attention to the behavior of their significant other. Especially when their behavior suddenly deviates.
I didn’t cheat and I know I could have. The two married women that in know who cheated were both in their 40s, below average looking for their age and destroyed their family. In at least one case, the grown children (Females) won’t speak to her for destroying the family. The other one I was just talking about yesterday with my wife as we passed her old house. Her best friend lived next door. The cheaters house was having construction work done. She took a construction guy next door to her BFFs family home and screwed the guy there. The BFF walked in and found them, got mad and through them out. Then it made the rumor mill. The husband left and she had to sell the house when the last child graduated high school which was a few years later. The BFF and family moved too, they moved first actually.
It's actually not the case. I know a guy who is a private investigator and he told me it used to be in unmarried couples, men cheat more but it married couples women cheat more. However, now with the rise of online dating apps, there has been a huge increase in female cheating because it is so easy for them but no real increase in male cheating. Also that there is only a limited range of men who even get the opportunity to cheat but with women, that opportunity is basically across the board. When he is investigating a man, it usually turns out that he is doing some other activity like drinking alone, or going to football games with his friends or fishing or fast food bingeing or something but when he investigates women, they are cheating almost 100% of the time. So to say men cheat more than women isn't the case in today's society.
They don't cheat more no one can prove this you can show all the studies you want but that person might be lying anyway
I read a study that said a person with higher testosterone (males are higher) are more impulsive which could lead to cheating but to me that's just an excuse Also the only way that they was able to get this information about that person cheating is either from them or their girlfriend which both parties could lie why would someone lie about cheating if they didn't simply because they can people lie about little stuff all the time
Lots of guys are for sure and they won't ever change... personally im not just because i can only handle 1 girl at a time... that and im not a liar and cheating takes a whole ton of lies to keep going. . that being said I've been the side piece for many girls which i dont mind because its out in the open... I've just never really had the need to cheat because I've never had a problem getting hot girls... and I'm nothing special... personally i think girls are far bigger cheaters they just lie better
To be honest, this is MY opinion only, attractive guys are more likely to cheat then average looking men, just because they have huge selection of women who'd love to them. I'm not saying average looking men or people who are really unattractive don't cheat, they do but not as often. Also, i think feelings are a major part of cheating. You can always tell when a guy only wants to date around vs a guy who actually loves you and sees a future with you (marriage)
The easiest way to figure out if men cheat more often than women is to look at current infidelity statistics, courtesy of the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy:
57% of men overall admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives
54% of women overall admit to committing infidelity in one or more of their relationships
22% of married men admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
14% of married women admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
As you can see, the percentages of men and women who have cheated in a relationship are very similar. However, when you look into the lives of married couples, men do have a higher rate of infidelity than women. These numbers may be skewed based on the amount of people who were willing to tell the truth about their infidelity, but it is safe to say that as a whole, both genders have the ability to cheat on one another.
Most of the sperm isn't there to fertilize the egg, it's there to tangle up other men's sperm and is known as kamikaze sperm. Even the shape of the penis and thrusting action is designed to scoop out the last man's sticky donation. Add to this behavioural aspects such as mate guarding any it's clear that men are programmed to cheat.
I think it's a myth unless they are cheating with the same woman? Or cheating with themselves or other men 😂
I think it's normal though because of my factors, I think the consequences of the cheating behaviour are not nice and no one deserves them. So I really people should not do such things.
I think the fact that men, on average, cheat more than women, is the product of cultural norms. If it were a biological response, then cheating rates across the globe would be pretty level.
Seeing as how there is as much as a 40% difference between the number of men who cheat in the country with highest rates of infidelity and country with lowest rates, I think it’d be safe to assume that blaming it on simply having a dick would be hugely oversimplifying things.
what survey did you conduct to arrive at this conclusion that men cheat more than women or vice versa?
cheating is not a gender trait and is not a thing determined by gender but by morals and ethics of the person. Being a man or woman has nothing to do with it. Being an asshole person has everything to do with it
If they are it's not by genetics It's by society, the "boys will be boys"mindset. Or that men have a higher sex drive. What though does "higher sex drive" have to do with cheating? That's just a poor excuse for lack of character... And it's not just men cheating. Women cheat too... Maybe it seems like more men cheat, because more women put up with cheaters, then a man will...
The classic line.. I didn't think we were exclusive because we didn't talk about it.. Her: you said you loved me..
This is just a guy looking for the perfect woman. Most guys will talk to 3 or more women at a time and play the numbers games. When you date these men after a month or so you'll find these women in his phone. Probably even after a relationship has started as you can't change the man, the man has to change for you. It's a respect thing..
According to my father, they have a different nature than women. Being a sexist, he would always say the same story: men need sex and even if he's married and has a fling outside the marriage, it wouldn't count as cheating. If the wife did that, it would. Because men cheat for sex and fun and women for feelings.
No i dont agree i believe that u would cheat if u wasn't a loyal kind of person i really dont matter your back ground its about who u are as a individual
Nah, we cheat because we feel a stronger connection with someone else that matters to us, but you're so codependent on us and the sex is good. So why not!!
@bamesjond0069 Yeah women cheat all the time lmao. They are only loyal to the dude who takes their virginity, after that women really dont care about anything Women almost always cheat up. All it takes is some wealthy dude to give them a little attention. and its a game over.
Nope. I've never cheated and never will. I don't see any use for cheating at all. Don't know why others do but if I can take a guess. A small number happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time while they were weak at that moment. The rest of the group are just stupid
i dont cheat and wouldn't so the ones who do are corrupted by sex. It dominates their life, they only see each other as objects and completely ignore their partner's values. It's also a fact that women conceal their cheating better than men, which gives the illusion they are innocent. I decided to be the guy who a married woman would cheat with to find out how.
No, we're not pre-programmed to cheat as if it's our fate to do so. Anyone can cheat, but whether you will or not depend on how much you value your relationship. People who cheat, girl or guy, mainly cheat because they just don't value the relationship they're in enough for whatever reason.
I used to believe men were more likely to cheat and be promiscuous but given the evidence and experience I've come across over my lifetime if argue it's women who are more likely to be cheaters. Or at the very least more likely to be promiscuous. Which seems to be due to a change in culture that resulted from contraceptives being introduced. Women have evolved. Sadly, to the detriment of men.
As a reproductive strategy from our earliest beginnings, young men were programmed to impregnate as many females as they could. And back then, there were few old men. That appetite has never been bred out of us but we have the free will to resist it.
I suppose it comes down to sex drive. Women don't have the same sex drive that a man has therefore we find it easier to stay loyal and can go for long periods without sex whereas men don't.
Men cheat I suppose when he settled down with someone he doesn't love and he feel that the woman isn't right for him. Whereas if he was crazy about the woman then he wouldn't cheat.
Men are more hardwired to be promiscuous and spread their seeds as it was the norm back in the olden times.
Could also have a love or sex addiction and being using sex workers to fill the void and excitement he needs in his life.. knowing if they ever found out it would be over.. but persist regardless because he loves doing it.. but will regret all the pain he causes you later..
This is a good answer, but I hate that it's true. Makes me feel like my programming is faulty and that I have to work harder to be a good person. My first girlfriend spent a month overseas, and she seemed happy as a clam. I was in hell
It really comes down to beliefs. When asked, both male and female cheaters believe it is wrong for their partner to cheat. If men and women held that same rule for themselves, no one would cheat. Then it comes down to your source of right and wrong. Women are just as prone, but men promote it more.
We are pre programmed to spread our seed yes. But we are no more programmed to cheat as women are
Each instance needs to be looked at individually to see where the issue lies, could be thee guy is just a prick. But could also be due to lack of sexual communication
Statistics show men and wemon cheat at about the same rate. Most women will only go for top 20%, generally speaking, they have plenty options. Options make for opportunities.
No, I would not put it as "preprogrammed to cheat". We may assume or consider it as cheating. Men are designed or programmed to attract the female attention or be drawn to females we might find attractive. Finding a better woman than we already have compels a man, to strive to win her heart. It's a compelling feeling that's not easy for most to overcome. Takes plenty willpower. But that's the gist of it I believe. And the same can be pretty much said for the opposite gender.
No. I see one of the main reasons to drive a person to cheat is lack of communication. Before I go any further, cheating is not male specific, females do it just as much. Both parties seem to be lacking something in the relationship and instead of talking it out between each other, they find comfort in another person’s arms or bed.
first of all men don’t cheat more than women. Women just have a way of blaming men for it because they never takes responsibility for what they do or say. “He made me feel special, and you haven’t been giving me enough attention” blah blah
Men cheat when new vagina is offered and they are simply taking the experience while they can.
@AmourHoney I never said it was I just simply said women do it equally and therefore it’s not a male pre-programming. and if anything when women cheat it’s more destructive because it’s emotionally bounded and they’re doing it to test the waters on how they feel about the current relationship.
No, no one is preprogrammed for anything. Cheating happens when you lose interest in a relationship and want to find something to enjoy that makes you happy.
Honestly though, I couldn't tell you the amount of females that cheat on their simp husband's after a few shots and some suggestive body language cues later... We're in the alleyway.. You crave it as much as we do when its lacking.. lmaoo
i don't know why anyone would ever cheat on you? maybe it's the women we have to rewire. they see a pretty girl and want what she has. if men weren't weak and bitches weren't jealous people would be a little more happy
@WowwGirl Oh I am aware you do. A larger portion of my responses are less for the one posting the initial question/my take and more for the responding audience as I read through the responses... but a part of me is thinking you have caught this of my responses.
Sure, elements of my comments may begin with the poster but more often than not the targets tends to be the respondents at large.
Guys just don’t tell their friends when they’re cheated on as often because they’re embarrassed.. it’s a difference due to “guy culture.” I know more men who’ve been cheated on than women. They just don’t broadcast it like women do. Not quite sure why..
Women cheat way more on average, it's just that the most desirable men have so many options that they can cheat very easily. Those are the only men women actually notice.
Research has shown that women and men cheat at roughly the same rate. Women are better at concealing it, which creates the impression that men are the dogs.
That may have been the case a couple decades ago but definitely not anymore. It's definitely unfortunate. I don't know why males and females can't figure that shit out right away.
No it is a guy thing that fathers tell their sons To do in a subtle way when they become a teenager. Fathers say to explore the field before you settle down. Also it is in music entertainment and many men seen their step fathers dads brothers etc cheat on their wives sisters etc and think it is acceptable
No, not really. Nobody is really "pre-programmed" to do anything. We're all born blank slates, and people get taught things throughout their whole life.
True those might be the numbers that men cheat more, but women can hide it better. So I wouldn't trust some statistics on this matter. Women are always better at hiding things.
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