make them feel valuable
are chivalrous
are providers
Take care of her
Respect her
and many other things
you get my point
But i want to know
What are women responsibilities towards men?
I need logical answers
Everything you say men do. At least good men do is what good women do for them. Its just a little different.
Today we too financially take care of men. But it's more in a way to help work so men don't have to financially take care of us. It's team work instead of a man being the only one contributing.
We also make a point to do special things for them to make sure they understand we appreciate them.
We keep an open ear so they can talk about their day and decrease a bit of stress they are under.
We compliment them, take them out, cook them candle light dinners sometimes.
We make them feel respected and make them feel appreciated for their strength.
We connect with them giving them intimacy and love.
And for men and women it's not that its our responsibility to do these things. It's that we love each other and want to do these things for each other. When you love someone they don't have to expect things. Because it just naturally happens anyway.
We do all that and more, it's just not equal
@Hmmm_how_about_that
Anyone ever complain how much it sucks to type out your whole username to tag you? Lol!
Listen, Every relationship is different. There's some men do more, some women do more, some like I would say my relationship is us doing an equal amount.
It just depends who you pick and if you're truly right for each other so one isn't taking advantage.
In a good relationship things also will never completely be equal. Like when I moved in with my boyfriend he lost his job. So I paid all the finances. Then when he started working and was making more than me he could afford to pay a little more than me.
The point is if you love each other you don't keep score. Keeping score is the fastest way to run everyone off.
And I'm glad to see by the likes from men and women most agree thats how things are.
One more thing. No one forces you to do anything. So if you feel like you are doing more in your relationships, just stop giving so much. Good luck.
@PinkMichae I appreciate your comment and I should say that's the things that I used to say to others and I deep down, I want something like that but as you said, my name is hard to mention and dropping these armours that I wear has costed me dearly so I'll be keeping them on more often as I can't find many trustworthy people these days.
@Hmmm_how_about_that
Well I won't lose hope that you and everyone finds that person they can trust. And if she is special enough she'll even be patient with your wall of armor.😎
Proverbs 3111 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
its there job to keep men on there toes, why do you think we are so frustrated with women? there here to make us be better so we dont slack off if you want proof of that just look at half the men who dont even think of women , there either gay or have a feminine life style so they dont have to work or do anything to challenge there selves.
and they actually hit women more than men who are just ass holes and at least you know where ass holes stand you can never tell with the feminine type guys we have out there today.
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Personally, I don't believe men and women have any "set roles" aside from our biological abilities. Instead, men and women determine their roles for each other based on each other's needs and personal strenghts.
Now I understand the more "traditional" views, such as men are providers, initiators and women are nurturers and often take care of the home. However, personally, this answer has some roots in traditional gender roles which are tossed out the window as we've come into a more modern take with culture. I only see these gender roles in small communities and generally among traditionally minded people, as well as commonly with those whom are religious.
I personally don't confine myself to traditional roles and perhaps it's due to my non traditional upbringing 🤷🏻♀️. It really does depend on individual strengths, conveniences and abilities. A partnership works best if each partner brings their own natural strengths to the table. (Giving a married relationship example) If the man feels very comfortable looking after the children, cooking and cleaning and the woman is a career type person - then why can't they agree to these roles as long as they have a happy relationship?
Given "the biological roles" does that mean that motherhood is a thing no male can comprehend? A woman carries a child for 9 months. A newborn can recognize his mother's voice. There is a mother/child bond that no male can comprehend.
What I am saying is there is more than just the mechanics of reproducing that are incorporated in a woman. However, a woman can compete with men in the world but there is more to being a woman than competing with men. And that "more" is an innate thing.
@TacoBaco a newborn can recognize their father's voice too if the Father is around during the pregnancy and involved... The only things a man can't do for a child that a woman can is give birth and bteast feed... Those aren't the only ways to bond or nurture a baby...
Great great answer here!!!
Sure. A father does need to involved with the easing of their kids. But I still believe there is a bond between a mother and her child which can never be replicated. I am no psychologists but having a child growing inside of you and then giving birth is more than just the biological mechanics. I always use the example of a mama bear and her cubs. If some one messes with her cubs, the results might not be pretty.
@TacoBaco and fathers are the same way with their children. It's called protecting yours... That's not just a maternal thing, that's a parental thing... Because then, how do you explain the mothers who abuse their children? Or abandon their children 🤔 Bonding, love and protection comes from both parents. ... And not all mothers carry their children. What about the couples that adopt? I know adopted kids that are way more closely connected to their parents than those that had a horrible upbringing by their biological parents
Well, I am a firm believer that all those things are not a man's responsibility, but merely something that was instilled in men's heads growing up over the years.
However, even with that said, I appreciate it when a man takes on those responsibilities because it makes me feel protected and cherished.
While I also believe that it is not a womans responsibility to do anything for their partner either, I still do what I can to ensure that my boyfriend feels cherished, loved, has dinner cooked, comes home to a clean house, feels welcomed and appreciated for everything he does for me and the kids. Even if that means that I need to take a step back and give him space after a rough day. These things dont always come easily because I am admittedly a terrible house wife, but I still try and he still appreciates my efforts.
Now, the reason I say that I do not think it is a responsibility, is because I truly do not look at responsibilities the same way most people do. I am responsible for my children. I am responsible for my own happiness, because after all, I am the only one who can alter my own happiness and it's all based off choices I make. I am responsible for going to work on time. I am responsible for paying my bills. Those are responsibilities. Treating your partner with love and respect is not a response in my eyes. Protecting a woman is not your responsibility. Those are things that should go without say IF you love that person.
Thank you!!! Exactly. Well said! Great answer
@Brainsbeforebeauty thank you!
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"Men protect women
make them feel valuable
are chivalrous
are providers
Take care of her
Respect her
and many other things
you
get my point"
"Women protect men
make them feel valuable
are chivalrous
are providers
Take care of him
Respect him
and many other things
you get my point"
Men are not the only providers for their family or protect or take care of..
That is what a partner, SO, spouse does for one another...
Maybe the real reason relationships are failing these days is because people keep thinking men and women keep trying to separate responsibility or actions by gender instead of just something you do as a person who cares, loves, supports the other person in a relationship...
I think men and women divorce or a couple goes their own way is because they have the fantasy that a person can have everything at once. When the kids come along the reality sinks in and they realize that raising kids consumes a lot of time and effort. Some of those fancy dinners or cars might become a thing of the past. Vacations take on a new look. All of a sudden a couple is at Disney land versus on a cruise ship. Time with friends turns into times with kids.
In my family my fathers paycheck paid all the bills. My mother took care of the kids until the youngest (me) were okay alone and needed little supervision. She went back to work not to have money to take us on factions but to send there 3 kids to private schools. My parents wanted their kids to have a better education than they had.
I guess my point is over ones life, priorities change. Having it all at one time is immpossible
@TacoBaco what tho does that have to do with your question about what responsibilities women have towards men? Of course relationship dynamics change. But men and women and what they do for one another what does that have to do with the kind of vacations they take? 🤔
What I'm alluding to is as things change throughout time, those responsibilities change. I used the example of having kids that changes reality and thus both partners responsibilities change accordingly. If they don't, divorce is probably not to far off in the future. Lets skip over the kids example. Don't roles change when the couple ages and have medical issues. At that point one partner will take on the role of caretaker.
I don't think your question can be proposed in a static way. Life's variables change constantly
@TacoBaco But that's exactly the point. Roles and responsibilities can change, but if you love someone you still do those same things you mentioned, provide support take care of... We did have 2 children, when he worked and I didn't cuz my daughter was in hospital 3 months when born, he paid the bills and I did the other stuff, but he still helped take care of kids and cooked cuz those were things he wanted to do when we both worked we still both did those things, when I worked and he couldn't, we both still did the household/kid thing... The only time I was the one doing everything was the last year of his life because he was too sick too, not cuz he didn't think it was his responsibility. Who takes care of the cooking cleaning laundry for a single person who works and lives alone? They do... Why should that change because you're in a relationship? Relationships shouldn't be finding someone to cook clean do laundry, it should be because you want to share your life together... If you treat a man or woman just like a provider, or someone that "owes" you sex that's what will kill a relationship. I didn't take care of my sick husband because they was my Responsibility it's because that's what you DO when someone you love is sick and dying, you give them the love, care, support they need, deserve... I'd do that for anyone I love, whether it be my kids, mother, my friends...
Instead of responsibilities, I see it as showing my love.
I make him feel loved, respect him, take care of him, all of those is not because I’m responsible of him. But because I love him. Enough to make me shower him with all my love by doing those things.
I think this is where the difference between men and women lies. Women usually more invested in feelings. I know I did. I put way too much sometimes and got hurt in the end. Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is you should tweak your way of thinking a little bit. After all, love is what keeps us going.
By loving yourself, you decided to work and earn living.
By loving your partner, you won't think any of that action as responsibilities. Make sure you find out their love language though. Because everyone have their own love language.
Looking after your man and loving him,
Whether it be a long day at work and you let him have alone time or make him a meal, maybe just let him relax instead of pestering him, etc. It's the small things that will make him appreciate you.
He's stressed? can't help you with the chores? That's fine, how about you look after him by completing all those and tomorrow you can spend some time together after everyone's relaxed and the house is clean.
Most of my boyfriends didn't want gifts or money, or even sex as a treat (we already kept up a good sex life, it should never be a 'reward') they just wanted either a little more attention, cuddles and loving, or time to wind down and relax, and for me to take on some issues to unburden them for awhile.
A woman is to be a man's help mate.
She supports him
Inspires him
Nurtures him
Respects him
Should they have children, she is the mother of his child, she nurtures his children.
As a wife, she creates a loving home environment by decorating, cooking, cleaning and organizing the home.
She is a sexual being and assists him in experiencing sexual pleasure
She is giving and uses her intuition to give her man great advice
A woman is the gatekeeper of civilization
As a wife she is loyal to her man and there for him when he is down and there for celebrations
A good wife will motivate her man and always see the good in him
She is his warmth when the world is cold
Respect is huge. Very huge.
Women are the keepers of the home fires. A woman's responsiblit is to give her husband emotional support & understanding. She is also responsible for balancing the home life & work life.
Most people (mainly men} believe that a woman's so responsiblit is to give up her sweet spot when a man wants or demands it. & To cook clean & basically be his personal slave. Men with this type of mentality need to be dragged out in the middle of the street & shot. Why you ask because they are usually narcissistic, sociopath, and psychopath. Get mad if you want but that is my two cents.
Why should i get mad?
It doesn't matter as long as she's contributing something. If she sits on her ass all day doing nothing then it's a problem. She needs to be doing something useful.
If both people put in a reasonable amount of time, and the things that need to get done get done, then all's good.
There is never a lack of things that need done. With a decent relationship, it should just work out. There should not be any need for "You do this, I'll do that."
Too many people think it terms of "I did this for you, so what are you going to do for me?". Wrong. It should never be thought of in those terms. You just do. She just does. If for whatever reason it seems too lopsided, then something needs to give. But it should never come to that point. It should not ever need to be mentioned.
Men also need to be cherished, cared for, meant to feel valuable, supported, protected. These aren't gender roles. These are the basics of being a good partner in general
She doesn't have any. It use to be that she was chast and loyal and nurturing/loving and would take care and maintain that which he provided i. e. cook and clean etc.
Now they have no responsibilities, they have managed to push all of them onto men and men have allowed it. Women have no accountability, not responsibilities and no desire to acquire either of those things. This is the society we have created and I don't see it changing (its not entirely their fault, they have been pampered to the point were they have never had to be responsible, they have never had to think about any one but themselves and they are never punished for wrong doing so how are they going to develop into functional people without all of that? Its just what it is.).
Good question, right? Why aren't people asking themselves that some more and keep being screwed over by the users and low value trash humans? The good looks and heart's desire doesn't compensate or excuse their shitty behavior. Not towards you or anybody else.
If most of what you get in return is crap, then you're with the wrong person and breaking up is recommended. Stay put and my sympathy is gone. And I dare say, that this is more often than not the case.
Yes, dump 9 girls/guys consecutively until you find the 10. th one, who is into YOU and not your money, house, car, vagina/body, whatever and doesn't generate drama out of thin air.
Find a girl like this one
I think the responsibilities of men and women to each other should be as individuals. As in, men should have no responsibilities toward women as a group, and women should have no responsibilities towards men as a group.
As you start to know an individual, either in friendship, or dating, you should start to establish responsibilities to each other. Both men and women should ask what they expect from each other, and agree on those expectations. They will naturally vary from couple to couple, or group to group.
I think that both men and women should stand up for themselves and expect more from each other, but only what others are willing to offer. Relationships can and will form where men and women find common ground with each other.
If he is loyal and dedicate himself to her... than her responsibilities are to love and cherish him till the end of time, to also dedicate herself to him, be always with him in his ups and downs, stand with him in his sweetest days and darkest nights.. and finally understand him more than himself afterall men can be very emotional creatures.😄😄
To make sure you guys wear clean up under wear rather than turning inside out. To be the one to say "shouldn't you leave that to a qualified dentist". To be the one who knows pizzas aren't square meal because they come in a box. To be the one to ask for directions when your lost. It's impossible for a man to tie something down without saying "that's going nowhere" and a woman's to say "are we sure".
And replying...
First responsibility of a man towards women, is to allow them to be who they want to be. And if you’re a father you should teach this to your daughters. A woman was responsible for you... your mother.
Otherwise, no one owes you shit.
Unless you find someone who fully wishes to be your “equal”, then marry the girl, And live in equality.
Are you retarded?
I absolutely agree with you. We don't need to have responsibilities to each other. When you love them you choose to give, protect, respect, etc... Our responsibilities are to our kids because we chose to make them.
Women:
Respect men
Takes care of his health
Protects his heart
Works hard for him and his family
Listens to him vent
Meets his needs
Holds him accountable
Shares intimacy with him
Prays with him
Cares for his parents and other family
Encourages him
When he is sick takes care of him
Cleans, cooks, and cares for the house with him
Gives birth to his children and loves them
Forsakes all others for him
I don't think men protect women.
I don't think they can protect woman from animals either.
Women give birth and give the man future DNA. Women breast feed the child and nurture the DNA. The rest is unnecessary. This is the most important task.
Well you think wrong. Your alive because a man is protecting you right now. You have a house over your head because of men, you have food on the table because men, you have a car because of men, you have the clothes you have because of men, you have your jewelry because of men. Literally every single thing in your life you have because of men. Now by your reasoning the only thing a man has to do is provide sperm just as all a woman does is provide offspring (which she cannot do without). Thats good to know, I expect you to not take a single thing else from a man then (which we all know is utter bullshit because your alive so clearly your mooching off of men (society exists because of men so you cannot mooch off of society without it being really mooching off of men).
It's just the truth. Men in civilization are too domesticated to protect any woman. That is why they play killing games and sports to distract them with trivia. They have lost their purpose.
Soon women will loose their purpose too when biological birth will be taken away from us.
Simple
There is no if in it.
His responsibility toward her does not depends on her
Her responsibility toward him does not depends on him.
Everything you listed are what I also believe are the responsibilities of women toward men too. Women and men should be equal in their responsibilities toward each other.
Traditionally speaking women tended the home, raised the babies, and cooked for their men. Now away women are treated mostly equal. But that being said their are some of us who value the "traditional" and "out dated" roles
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