Should men also learn household chores and cooking?

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NyceGuyFinishingLast · Accepted Answer

A woman finds a man incredible sexy knowing he can clean up, cook, and do repairs around the house. House hold chores and cooking don't make a guy any less of a man. That is a guy's macho attitude getting in the way.

Even in a relationship I still do most of the cleaning and some of the cooking. Now that I am single it all falls on me to have clean draws, feed myself and kids, and maintain the house. I find it much more efficient to maintain than clean. Instead of letting the dishes pile up in the sink, clean, dry, and put them away. Don't wait until you have a load to wash. Clothes are washed once a week. Sweeping and vacuuming are done every other day. I wipe down the bathroom every day to keep things clean and tidy.

I am still man enough to walk into a biker bar and open palm slap the biggest fucker looking at me wrong.

If you keep things maintained you have a lot more free time on your hands to hang out with friends, read, binge watch a show, or indulge in a guilty pleasure with the gloom feeling of knowing you have to clean. I like how my house will be in tip top shape when I get home from work or coming from on the weekends from fishing.

Cooking is easy if you plan it and don't kill yourself making something every night. Make something that last 2 or 3 days. Cooking every night is a chore.

blank_expression · Accepted Answer

It sounds so perfect and idealistic but the reality is; women and men have different mess, disorder, what-is-considered-clean, tolerance levels. I can cook a steak on my indoor grill, vegetables etc. in <12min, wash the grill, spatula, before I even sit down to eat. I can live off three dishes, three forks and two knives and I drink coffee out of a mason jar. I wash everything as I go. I do the laundry after I have recycled dirty clothes a few times and my tolerance is reached. That is the way it is going to be with me forever as single. When a woman moves in, she starts to do things her way and fine, I love that, but most know better than to start laying down her way on me. The difference I see is she is fussy about the toilet bowl, but when it backs up, I am the one with the backhoe outside in the shit fixing it. She can keep her car clean and spotless, but I am the one in grease and blood keeping it running. My vehicle is always full of crap, mostly tools. I have seen some men fall to that feminist ideology; they are always divorced in a few years. I am well trained already to my eating and cleaning requirements; just don’t impose yours on me I say.

elisa_0 · Accepted Answer

Why not? It's something an adult should do... Especially if you want to be independent... I mean, if you don't learn how to wash your own clothes, cook your own food, and wash your own dishes, etc., you'll be a child your entire life depending on somebody else to do everything for you. What will you do when that person leaves?

I hate cooking, and I will have to get a partner who loves to cook because I seriously hate it for some reason. BUT I still do it for myself and I know how to cook if there's no one to cook for me.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

That would imply men already don't know how or don't already do chores and cooking. Yet aren't a lot of chefs male 🤔 And who do you think cooks and cleans for a single man that lives alone? I've seen single men with way cleaner places than some female friends I know... No man I've known didn't know how or didn't clean/cook..

GoodManDave · Answer

Yeah, I think it's important for any capable adult to know how to do well on their own, and at least be fairly self-sufficient, even if they don't end up having to do all of it. They should know how to keep a clean house or apartment. Be able to do basic laundry. Cook some simple, fairly healthy meals a few times a week. Keep groceries stocked. Clean out the fridge/freezer and not have mold or rancid food. Flies and maggots around the trash can all the time.

Hygiene, too. Keeping up some sort of decent appearance. Deodorant. Showers/baths. Clip the toenails /fingernails. Shave. All that.

MrOracle · Answer

Virtually  every adult , male or female, should know how to cook and clean and do basic household chores (essentially, if you don't have a disability, then you should be able to do these things. You should also know how to check the fluid levels and tire pressure in your car, and other basic life-stuff.

nolabels · Answer

I'm very good at doing household chores.
As far as cooking goes, I've tried to learn how, but never got good at it. It's always been extremely painful to my back to stand for long periods of time doing food prep work. I've tried sitting on stools at the counter, but never found a way to make it work.
I can make a hell of a good grilled cheese sandwich, though. I'd put them up against anyone else's in a contest, but that's about it.
I love watching cooking shows, and shows about foods around the world.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

ideally both sides if they of able body and mind. should have a decent understanding of cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, etc. if nothing else at least for basic life skills and to be self-sufficient to some degree. but whomever makes less money ideally should be. the one who does them more often in a relationship. but the other should still chip in and help when possible. if their pay is roughly the same then they. ideally should share the load of household responsible.

BeMuse · Answer

All men know how to clean, it’s not rocket science. Women just tend to be more of clean freaks then men, so they want something to be clean right now rather than 8 hours from now so they have to take responsibility for that to keep their own sanity. All men also learn how to cook some things they like. It’s part of normal survival in life. All the best chefs in the world are men. Women can’t even come close to being on the same level. The real question is why don’t women take time to learn everything else it takes to maintain a house, cars, appliances, computers, and other “handyman” work that actually takes learned skill that men are always responsible for?

Chiefbenttwig · Answer

First of all I believe that if your a grown ass man you should know to pick up after yourself. Momma doesn't live with you & unless you're rich you probably don't have a maid or butler to clean up after you.
Secondly when did it become the women job to do all of the house work? Especially if she works too.
Third she's not the only one living there, you (the man) can help pick up the house, your not special. If you love your woman & want to show your woman that you love her get your ass up & help.
Fourth my grandmother said men need to learn to cook, clean & sew because women most women now a days don't know how or don't care to do house work.
That's my two cents.

hahahmm · Answer

Yes but not to help women... so he never has to think that he needs a woman for anything.

It’s laughable when a woman thinks the man needs to help cook/clean, totally ignoring the fact that he’s doing 100% of car maintenance, 100% of home security, 100% of essential household maintenance, acting as her body guard in public, 100% of emergency planning. And so on.

BreadNbutter · Answer

I just want to be clear... anyone who doesn’t know how to cook or clean for themselves basically can’t carry their own weight. I understand not being a great chef but ew... lack of cleaning abilities is just gross and says a lot about a person. No one... even maids wants to clean up after you. Children understand the concept of cleaning up after themselves. Gender roles are FINALLY being diminished in most scenarios.. if you’re a male that thinks it’s a woman’s job to cook and clean for you... do us all a favor and stay with your mother. Women who do this do it out of the kindness of their hearts not because they think you’re too stupid to do it for yourself.

Suziedicostah · Answer

Men should surely learn household chores and cooking... I am saying this thinking about my baby boy... my son... as an overprotective mother I wish that my son should be independent by all means... especially in case of cooking and household chores. I wish, he must not feel any obstacles in his life just beacause he is dependent on someone. So...

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

You should write "boys" instead of men, because they should not be called men if they can't take care of them selves including cleaning and cooking.

Bananaman177 · Answer

These days, most guys are better at cooking and cleaning than the average woman.

Only the most attractive guys can rely on always having a woman to do it for them, and they're also the only ones who can afford to be picky about dating girls who know how.

Most guys have no choice but to be self-sufficient.

Women are the opposite. They know they don't need anything besides what's between their legs to get them through life, and most of them not only can't cook and clean, they really aren't good for anything at all besides being a living blow-up doll.

xENIGMAx · Answer

Lmao, I outcook and clean 99.9 percent of all women. Always been independent
since I was seven, so it’s always been a part of my upbringing. Cooking, baking,
laundry. Why should anybody have to depend upon someone else when they can
do it for themselves?

Mystery_World · Answer

Yeah absolutely. Couple of years ago I realized that women get tired of house chores as I saw my mom's struggles. My dad often helps her. He washes dishes and cleans balcony lawn. I keep the bedrooms tidy and clean. now, my mom only cooks. So, sharing works would relieves stress and also we would spend quality time with our family.

TheCuriousDude · Answer

No woman are meant for the kitchen

Just kidding, if a man doesn’t know how to do chores then that man is an idiot 😂 it goes both ways. It’s not the 1950s anymore men and woman are pretty much exactly the same nowadays

FatherJack · Answer

When married , before getting rid of her lazy fat constantly complaining backside , I was doing all the chores , so becoming a single dad was business as usual , so this stereotype of men sat on their arse watching TV when returning from work is dated and BS. A big YES is my answer , been doing so since I was a kid anyway.

Erobos412 · Answer

Naturally they should know how to do them and be independent and able to live and take care of them self.

The household state is a reflection of the person living in it. And I realize I will never be the highest version of my self unless they are my bare minimum hygiene standards.

That way I have goals and mile stones to pursue. When it comes to anything I do.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Yes and many men do know how to cook and clean. I’ve even met a few who could give my 1950’s housewife grandmother a few pointers. Honestly though, things like cooking and cleaning are basic skills that apply to both genders, not one specifically. My mom didn’t teach me how to cook, I learned when I joined the Navy, so my cooking skills were self taught and if I had kids, I would have taught them to cook.

thehorriblesheikh · Answer

I think it would be a collection of good skills and men could help their partner as well, take the load off of her, if she is the one who usually does the chores and the cooking. It would feel like progress towards a more feminist future, if you ask feminists.

I am not one to eat home cooked meals though, I have always felt like they are over rated. Restaurant made food is tastier, and even though it costs a bit more, I'd rather work harder to earn a bit more than start cooking myself to save money.

Now if I was married for some reason (which is not going to happen, I've already turned down 4 marriage arrangements), I may help with the chores because I already prefer to do chores myself, I don't like an unclean and unorganized house. But I cannot see myself cooking daily, it would be a waste of time to have to cook daily.

hassan9873 · Answer

If you asking "should"
Than ofcourse we should.
Lets say our wife got sick, we can do stuff so that she can take rest.
Cook, cleaning, and everything..

And same for women, we both should learn basic things in our daily life.. so that we both can help each other in need..

Puls - If you know how to do basic things, your chances of servival in zombie apocalypse will increase (after covid19 its definitely gonna happen. Be prepared.. lol)

watrewks · Answer

Yeah, I mean if my wife were a stay at home wife I’d expect her to keep the house clean, take care of the kids, and cook. However, I always keep my apartment clean, and I love to cook and guys should know these things to be self-reliant. Guys should also learn survival skills :3

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Of course!
If I am a single guy, unless I live with my mother I have to pay a maid because I can't cook and always eat out because I can't cook? What kind of man am I if I can't do basic stuff alone? Am I 5 years old?

Besides is my partner my mother, my maid or both? She is neither, she is my partner! And as partners we both coock and clean.

Beisdes... Girls love a man that can cook. Already got lucky many times thanks to it.

bluetoblack99 · Answer

I do household work because I‘m a bachelor and I OWN my place. But it looks like women spread their legs much less for guys who do chores. Check out this study ladies:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.livescience.com/amp/26696-housework-makes-men-less-sexy.html

So what’s wrong with this picture? Don’t ask guys to do things that will make him less attractive ladies.

guynextodoor · Answer

i hate how household chores are seen as something inferior. Everyone learns it at this point of time though. Learning to cook is a necessity, looking down on such activities doesn't speak very brightly of the person.

Anonymous · Answer

I can pay sb to clean now. But when I did not yet have the funds, cleaning was essential. What to say if the girl insists it's "your place" and your flat is a mess... well? Any excuses? I am listening!!!
Also I want to have control over what I am to eat. My body is my temple and meals are quality time! I will not settle for some overboiled spaghetti carbonara just because she has only ever practised low-budged student meals...

wankiam · Answer

ofcourse they should but i am 53 now and learned them as a kid so is this really a thing and if so isn't it more the case that noone learns how to look after themselves nowadays

JPrez · Answer

I do dishes, vacuum, laundry and clean bathrooms so I think any guy is capable. Some will do it without asking, others you may need to mention it without nagging and I bet the guy would learn it and do it.

apollo3000 · Answer

If he doesn't know them already he isn't a man but a child.

In the 4 years in a (top) military school - there were two things you had to learn - how to be sane with limited sleep, and how to keep the toilettes clean - hose it, brush it, don't make a mess if you like it clean - whatever the method, you have to live with it, go there whenever you need it.

It was a mess until... I'm not sure what happened, I took it seriously and then we maintained it clean

Ifriqyan · Answer

Honestly, I'm planning to do most of the cooking cleaning in my future relationship provided that the man will do most of the bread-winning.

But cleaning and cooking is a basic human skill so yes.

My father is the sole bread winner in my family, my mom cooks and cleans, but he's not a messy person. He knows how to cook and how to clean up after him. This makes it easier for my mom to do the core of the house chores (Eg he doesn't throw things around).

Khumalo_goux · Answer

Where I'm from you're taught all those things when you're a kid. It's some of the most valuable life coaching you can get. It's also necessary to pass it on to your son. I was taught to take care of myself, feed myself, clean after myself.. A lesson no one can ever take from me.
So yes it's necessary. Many people believe a man will become weak if he does, it actually makes him stronger and better.

Hunter7754 · Answer

Most women expect men to adhere to their gender roles. They expect men to be protectors, to be masculine, to be never be insecure, etc. Yet its only men that are chastised when they expect women to adhere to their gender roles and expect them to cook and clean?

scousejohn90 · Answer

Thank god the fellow men who have commented on here are modern.. I think the question should be why are we even asking this in the 21st century. Of course men should be able to look after themselves

SomeBlondeChick · Answer

Most men who've lived away from the childhood household know how to clean & cook. They sort of had to learn or they'd be living in their own filth & wasting all their money on takeout/fast foods/junk food to keep from starving to death.

kaylaS91 · Answer

yes, of course. Being able to do chores/cook (i. e. live on your own) is a skill-set everyone should acquire, regardless of gender.

con19th · Answer

The fuck kinda question is this? I know how to do all chores, I can do it then 90% of the women that "learn" it. Men already know how to do the household chores it just we don't cos nobody asks. It's not a fucking skill to clean it common knowledge you learn growing up fml 😂😂

humanearth · Answer

Should be taught from a young age. What if the man never gets married and ends up being single.

He needs to learn to take of his needs. Unless he is rich and can afford a maid and butler. Then he can be a lazy ass and say screw the world

Massageman · Answer

Of course, just the same as gals should learn how to prep and paint a wall, and change a car tire. These are ALL needed skills in life, and life has a funny way of ignoring your sex most of the time when things need doing!

magiusX26 · Answer

gender should not matter. its everyone's responsiblity to do such things. so everyone should learn how to do them. same applies to the thinking on yard work like mowing the lawn.

someginger · Answer

Yeah bc unless your going from your parents stright into your wifes house, your going to starve and not know how a washing machine works.

Admittedly am a terrible cook, but i can use a microwave and make a curry.

Aliceinwonderland22 · Answer

Everyone should have basic domestic skills in my opinion (many dont these days) Cooking, cleaning, basic first aid and basic sewing

rachel776 · Answer

yes of course, we all should. if he has a very demanding job and you don't, it's ok not to, and vice-versa

PrudentGuy · Answer

Of course! A very good and proven way to get into a girl's head is through her mouth! And that how I got into my SO head... Chinese style chick rice! 😜😜😜

Anonymous · Answer

Literally every human should learn how to take care of a house and how to cook for themselves. There’s no excuse for someone to not know, it’s just pure laziness.

Thatismyanswersowhat · Answer

I do help my wife clean , I do not love her at all but that is no excuse for me to make her do all of the work. I do not want to loose her my parents did a dowry and paid a good amount of money for my wife. by the way my matrimony was arranged I was not happy at all at first now I thank my parents and understand why. She makes a good wife. I come from a wealthy family and we only get arranged plan marry with people within our own social statues.

jshm2 · Answer

Erm... we do. What simp idiot cannot cook and clean for himself?  I've known some real murican's, but even they could manage some basic human functions like cook and clean.

jgokgotit · Answer

Everyone should learn how to cook and do household chores. That being said, how the chores get distributed should be based on who works more and who stays home more.

Apple1996 · Answer

They should know how to do these things if needed. In my home I don't let my husband cook or clean but he's not a idiot and still knows how to do all those things

worldscolide · Answer

why not. We have to live a lone.. Let me put it a different way. By the time i was 15 i was doing all of my own cooking and cleaning.. And most women these days.. and sadly most men, dont know how to do basic life skills like cooking and cleaning.

burlen · Answer

The question implies men don’t cook and do household chores, which is utterly incorrect.

Creamernick1 · Answer

Men should be doing approximately half of the hous hold chores if both the In the relationship work full time. Given one person working part time or not at all the chore load should shift towards then just given the additional time they have

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, of course. All adults should be able to do basic cooking and cleaning.

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I think they should and I also think that guys today are spending more time in the kitchen and helping with the other household chores.

GlitterFairy16 · Answer

Yes, it's extremely important for men to learn how to take of themselves as well as women. All humans should be independent in basic house keeping skills

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes for practical reasons, just like women should know how to change a tire and change a plug. Everyone should learn a few generic life skills growing up.

DressedtoKill · Answer

Who says they don't? In my experience dating women half of them at least don't know how to cook as well as I do and as much as I enjoy cooking new things I mainly cook pretty basic stuff where a meal can be made in 30-40 mins tops.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

It is vital that a man knows house chores so he can be a good partner with his wife.

AppleManzana · Answer

I mean think about it, how can I guy ask for unconditional love and support and not give it back. Learning how to cook and putting in a part in cleaning is essential.

MountAverage · Answer

Should men learn how to be functioning adults? Umm, yes. Imagine being a grown ass man who doesn't know how to do laundry or clean the toilette.

walt0462 · Answer

I learned and been cooking since I was 10 household chores should be a given... at least be able to to keep your place clean and organized and able to do your own laundry without any assistance

destrosio · Answer

All my male friends have learned to cook. They have learned that if they want to eat well, they have to cook for themselves. Some have become very good, one even went to be a personal chef at home.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

Yes, those are basic survival skills. Keeping your area clean and feeding yourself is something you should want to do. Not rely on others for.

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