Some men have a hard time handling rejection because they're insecure and/or had already gotten emotionally invested in the chick before taking the leap and asking her out.
No different than how most women would react in similar circumstances.
I always take no or any kind of excuse as a no, now look where I am no relationship and dumped once although I look athletic and many women called me handsome, now look at all my same age males, no looks but their tongue seem to have worked, I honestly don't care anymore, I will rather be alone than to deal with all of these narcissistic attitudes I think they have fun disrespecting men because deep inside they feel unloved
well, there are always kind people out there they are just rare I have a female bestie she has a boyfriend but I check in with her from time to time she knows I really like her but doesn't let the friendship fade don't give up!
I’m guarded and reserved like I keep saying in my post; being too kind and nice can set you up for people to take advantage and use you- I don’t give everyone the benefit of the doubt because I see how thing are ohh there. Not everyone has a big and kind heat that’s considerate. Good people get hurt all the time ; I limit my interaction with people to less that risk
Yeah, dating is a straight up minefield for men. It wouldn't be so bad, if not for the fact that screwing up with one woman hurts your chances with all the other women around her (because word spreads). When every woman has her own set of rules that the guy needs to figure out how to play by; it kind of feels like we are being set up for failure.
Yes.. he was a stalker also. Like if I had a party at my house, he would immediately call me and ask me why I didn't invite him. Remember I was shocked he knew about my party. Somehow he was trying to make feel bad so when I said: ok, come.. he would knock on my door after a second.
Probably because we don't communicate it well. Women tend to soften the blow, which makes men think they have a chance.
When women say, "I like guys with (xx features)" guys hear "if I get that feature, she will like me" when we say, "I don't feel anything for you. It's not you", men hear "I will get her eventually if I keep doing romantic gestures"
We need to be more blunt and maybe a bit mean when we reject men.
Why don't the vast majority of women not even try and make the first move? When you are young, it takes a lot of guts to just walk up to a woman and ask her out. Women don't seem to have those guts. So I don't think women should be criticizing how a man acts until they are equally taking those same risks.
Why can't women handle rejection? If a guy is persistent, he's in the minority. Most men want you to be straight up with them so if you tell them straight up that you have no interest in them then they will move on. Find yourself better men.
I found being super blunt about it helps a lot. I don’t try to be easy with rejection anymore because they keep trying if I do. Straight up not interested and ignoring them completely after that.
Because approaching as a guy takes balls knowing 9/10 times you'll be rejected if you are a regular guy and haven't learnt how to attract women through years of practice. Most guys will only have the guts to approach a few girls per year so there's a heck of a lot riding on that approach.
Some men are confident and don’t have this problem. But that’s part of what makes them not get rejected so much. Some are conceited and need the rejection. He just can’t handle that fragile ego.
Yes... Some men just get the point where we need to tell them f off. And some are like, "let me buy you a drink" like, no.. I already said no and I got my own money, thank you. I'm out with friends, not out to pull.
Ikr I have stories for that - I lost a friend girl 15 years ago getting in cars for psychopaths ; her bound hasn’t been found, but she was seen in a surveillance camera in a hotel. Scary world and men don’t believe in courting anyways ; taking a woman to a nice restaurant or public place. I was offered that one time and brought to a guys house where he wanted sex and I was drunk
And I'm glad you're safe. Always be careful. Can't really trust anyone 100%. Not even family as someone's husband of 20 years murdered his wife and kids just so he could shack up with his mistress.
You're very welcome. And yup.. Puts me off wanting to be with anyone lol. I know not everyone's like that, but... you just never know and its not right/fair for us women living in constant fear since we are the weaker sex by default.
And you don't have to date. You can be happy by being single too, and celebrate. I've not lay with a man for 10 years or more. I'm happy. Sometimes I feel lonely etc, only natural, but I'm happy.
Because women are not clear about their position. Their word tracks simply reflect their feelings at that time, subject to change an any given moment. No, you really can't believe anything a woman says, they're just as likely to contradict themselves in the next moment, and often do.
And please, don't broadbrush. It just makes you look silly and illinformed.
Some women' can't either. They say "oh you must be gay" or "oh you like to suck dick".
However the numbers of the blues not being able to handle rejection is higher from what I saw. Guess they're not boyfriend material or that they are narcissists and are best left single.
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I think (if true), because a lot of women do play hard to get, how do we know the difference? She's not going to say "I'm just playing hard to get, keep pursuing me"
But the fact is, nobody likes or handles rejection well. Neither do women! They don't handle it so well that they don't even ask guys out because of the fear of it!
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Hollywood taught them many lies when they were teenagers and now they refuse to grow up.
Because they're too entitled and think that they OWN that girl who they proposed. When she rejects, they feel 'less masculine' so they degrade her personality by calling her egoistic or slutty. I have this ugly guy friend who was constantly behind me but he is such a hypocrite he will insult other ugly guys or girls. Such an entitled asshole he is. He himself is ugly but expects to be with a gorgeous girl.
Because women do play hard to get. How is he suppose to know? One woman is playing hard to get and one isn't, doesn't mean he is going to automatically know which one is playing and which one isn't.
Not in my experience. In my experience the women who tell you they are interested are the ones that play games. But again, their are women who do play hard to get, they want to be chased so a lot of guys have learned to keep pursueing, other guys have been told this is the case and do so as well. Obviously some are probably on an ego trip and can't handle rejection, but most guys have been rejected so many times (men have to cast a broad net to get a woman so rejection is the norm not the exception) that they are perfectly fine with rejection (as long as she is very clear but polite about it).
@ct1243 tell that to 18-30 years old women. I haven’t met one that didn’t play mind games with me even when they were blinded in love with me they still played mind games.
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Some men have a hard time handling rejection because they're insecure and/or had already gotten emotionally invested in the chick before taking the leap and asking her out.
No different than how most women would react in similar circumstances.
I always take no or any kind of excuse as a no, now look where I am no relationship and dumped once although I look athletic and many women called me handsome, now look at all my same age males, no looks but their tongue seem to have worked, I honestly don't care anymore, I will rather be alone than to deal with all of these narcissistic attitudes I think they have fun disrespecting men because deep inside they feel unloved
I don’t care either as it’s too many games and bs with men nowadays
I’ve been alone 4 years and love it less drama and bs / been in the circus 🎪 of dating
well, there are always kind people out there they are just rare I have a female bestie she has a boyfriend but I check in with her from time to time she knows I really like her but doesn't let the friendship fade don't give up!
Their rare and I’m tired of looking and dating / it’s not worth it these days to expect that
Don't look for it I didn't either just keep on being kind
I’m guarded and reserved like I keep saying in my post; being too kind and nice can set you up for people to take advantage and use you- I don’t give everyone the benefit of the doubt because I see how thing are ohh there. Not everyone has a big and kind heat that’s considerate. Good people get hurt all the time ; I limit my interaction with people to less that risk
You seem like a lovely and smart guy, so you won't have a problem finding someone eventually.
@PaganWarrior God I really appreciate what you said :( thank you
You're very welcome. X
I think what you're really saying is "why haven't some of the men I heard of" or "why are all the men I'm meeting" taking rejection too hard.
I cold approach women and remain indifferent to the result. It's nice to just have a conversation, make friends, see what's out there.
Men have to realize women have just as much to miss out on.
There are a lot of people who settle, or have bad relationship skills, have bad ideas about other people, or never bothered growing up, etc.
And I think the key is just not being one of the people who settle for sub par relationships
Meaning if they're missing out on a good guy that's their fault just don't save them when you're both older.
It's because guys know that every woman has a different way of dating, that's why. Your "no" is another woman's "try harder."
Ok interesting
Yeah, dating is a straight up minefield for men. It wouldn't be so bad, if not for the fact that screwing up with one woman hurts your chances with all the other women around her (because word spreads). When every woman has her own set of rules that the guy needs to figure out how to play by; it kind of feels like we are being set up for failure.
Well last time I rejected a guy he tried to hit on my bestfriend so he could be around me. That's ridiculuos.
That’s crazy
Yes.. he was a stalker also. Like if I had a party at my house, he would immediately call me and ask me why I didn't invite him. Remember I was shocked he knew about my party. Somehow he was trying to make feel bad so when I said: ok, come.. he would knock on my door after a second.
Yes there’s a bunch of weirdos who can’t handle rejection it’s sad
Probably because we don't communicate it well. Women tend to soften the blow, which makes men think they have a chance.
When women say, "I like guys with (xx features)" guys hear "if I get that feature, she will like me" when we say, "I don't feel anything for you. It's not you", men hear "I will get her eventually if I keep doing romantic gestures"
We need to be more blunt and maybe a bit mean when we reject men.
Why don't the vast majority of women not even try and make the first move? When you are young, it takes a lot of guts to just walk up to a woman and ask her out. Women don't seem to have those guts. So I don't think women should be criticizing how a man acts until they are equally taking those same risks.
Why can't women handle rejection?
If a guy is persistent, he's in the minority. Most men want you to be straight up with them so if you tell them straight up that you have no interest in them then they will move on. Find yourself better men.
I found being super blunt about it helps a lot. I don’t try to be easy with rejection anymore because they keep trying if I do. Straight up not interested and ignoring them completely after that.
Because approaching as a guy takes balls knowing 9/10 times you'll be rejected if you are a regular guy and haven't learnt how to attract women through years of practice. Most guys will only have the guts to approach a few girls per year so there's a heck of a lot riding on that approach.
Some men are confident and don’t have this problem. But that’s part of what makes them not get rejected so much.
Some are conceited and need the rejection. He just can’t handle that fragile ego.
I’m conceited and I can handle rejection. I just don’t like for people to waste my precious and beautiful time.
I have no idea, the amount of times men have been so persistent towards me, I couldn’t count on my hands and feet combined.
I agree I feel the same way dating had changed and I’m tired of it
Yes... Some men just get the point where we need to tell them f off. And some are like, "let me buy you a drink" like, no.. I already said no and I got my own money, thank you. I'm out with friends, not out to pull.
Yes they going crazy - I don’t get drinks offers to date ; just sexual advances
That too for me. Drinks and, "want to come back to mine?" first of all, he could be a murderer for all I know 👀
Ikr I have stories for that - I lost a friend girl 15 years ago getting in cars for psychopaths ; her bound hasn’t been found, but she was seen in a surveillance camera in a hotel. Scary world and men don’t believe in courting anyways ; taking a woman to a nice restaurant or public place. I was offered that one time and brought to a guys house where he wanted sex and I was drunk
I'm so sorry about your friend :(
And I'm glad you're safe. Always be careful. Can't really trust anyone 100%. Not even family as someone's husband of 20 years murdered his wife and kids just so he could shack up with his mistress.
Thanks @PaganWarrior and yes that’s crazy what people will do for love
You're very welcome. And yup.. Puts me off wanting to be with anyone lol. I know not everyone's like that, but... you just never know and its not right/fair for us women living in constant fear since we are the weaker sex by default.
I’m scared to date and I don't know anymore - I’ve been too much
And you don't have to date. You can be happy by being single too, and celebrate. I've not lay with a man for 10 years or more. I'm happy. Sometimes I feel lonely etc, only natural, but I'm happy.
Yes defined will work on things that make me happy - one day we will have a man
Celabate***
Yeah, maybe :)
Yes cheers 🥂
Cheers 🥂
If you have no idea then here's a hint. It's the same reason why women gets butthurt when rejected and why they don't approach often.
Bonus: Same reason why they get butthurt when no men approaches them.
Because women are not clear about their position. Their word tracks simply reflect their feelings at that time, subject to change an any given moment.
No, you really can't believe anything a woman says, they're just as likely to contradict themselves in the next moment, and often do.
And please, don't broadbrush. It just makes you look silly and illinformed.
Some women' can't either. They say "oh you must be gay" or "oh you like to suck dick".
However the numbers of the blues not being able to handle rejection is higher from what I saw.
Guess they're not boyfriend material or that they are narcissists and are best left single.
I think (if true), because a lot of women do play hard to get, how do we know the difference? She's not going to say "I'm just playing hard to get, keep pursuing me"
But the fact is, nobody likes or handles rejection well. Neither do women! They don't handle it so well that they don't even ask guys out because of the fear of it!
Hollywood taught them many lies when they were teenagers and now they refuse to grow up.
Yep lol 😂..
Because they're too entitled and think that they OWN that girl who they proposed.
When she rejects, they feel 'less masculine' so they degrade her personality by calling her egoistic or slutty.
I have this ugly guy friend who was constantly behind me but he is such a hypocrite he will insult other ugly guys or girls.
Such an entitled asshole he is. He himself is ugly but expects to be with a gorgeous girl.
Men handle rejection. You must still be messing around with boys.
Their pride is hurt. They just need to accept the situation and move on.
Because women do play hard to get. How is he suppose to know? One woman is playing hard to get and one isn't, doesn't mean he is going to automatically know which one is playing and which one isn't.
Lol usually a woman whose interested will tell you ; she won’t play games
Not in my experience. In my experience the women who tell you they are interested are the ones that play games. But again, their are women who do play hard to get, they want to be chased so a lot of guys have learned to keep pursueing, other guys have been told this is the case and do so as well. Obviously some are probably on an ego trip and can't handle rejection, but most guys have been rejected so many times (men have to cast a broad net to get a woman so rejection is the norm not the exception) that they are perfectly fine with rejection (as long as she is very clear but polite about it).
@ct1243 tell that to 18-30 years old women. I haven’t met one that didn’t play mind games with me even when they were blinded in love with me they still played mind games.