Do guys reach out to a girl they almost had a thing with?

[countrywoman]

We met through Tinder but didn't really talk much on that app aside from him telling me he wants to delete the app. He saw me at the gym and approached me (I had no idea it was him). We went out and we really hit it off pretty well. He was making plans for us and asking me questions about relationships and the future. He even asked me to help him decorate his Christmas tree. We slept together about three times. The first night we slept together was when I told him that I'm more into consistency (i. e., texting since he's not much of a texter) than materials. I also told him that without consistency, I pull back. He told me he likes me before I left. We texted more often and began seeing each other more often. I made him lunch for work and we made food together. He told me he mentioned me to his friends and family. He also talks to me about his family and siblings about how they are like once I meet them. Everything was going well. The week after, he left me hanging on our convo for two nights. I pulled away and canceled on our plans. He has never reached out since then.

It has been almost a week and I still can't stop blaming myself for making it too easy for him. That he didn't have to work hard for me. I even asked him before if we could do friends with benefits's instead, as to which he said no. So I thought we had something going on. Now, I can't help but ask if he ever thinks about me too as gross as that sounds. Do guys think about girls they almost had a thing with? Or do they just leave it at that? If so, will the guy reach out and initiate contact? He's a Scorpio if that would help lol

In need of advice. Thank you very much.

[spartan55]

Why would you have wanted friends with benefits with him? That likely would have turned out worse.
I'm not sure what you meant be he 'kept you hanging' on two conversations, but apparently that was a big enough deal to basically end it... wow.

[countrywoman]

I was not sure if he was really into me or just wants to sleep with me so asking if he wants to be friends with benefits's was testing the water. Kept me hanging as in we were texting back and forth, he stops and then doesn't reply til the following day. I told him that gets to me.

[spartan55]

Wow, really? To the point where you end it? Seems pretty ridiculous to me. This is texting we are talking about.
You said everything was going fine up until then, but then you had to shit test him because you weren't sure about him.
I don't know what you mean by "testing the waters" asking about an friends with benefits, could you explain please?

[countrywoman]

I couldn't tell at the time if he was serious with me since he didn't text me that much. Plus the fact that we met on a dating app so I asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits instead. But isn't it when you're interested in someone/likes someone's company, you will text and check up on them often? You don't leave them hanging halfway on a convo just because you were "making apple cider" that night? Lol

[countrywoman]

Now I feel like as if though I confirmed my thoughts since he has not reached out to me since then

[spartan55]

That's it? Don't take this the wrong way, but you place entirely too much importance on texting.

[countrywoman]

You're right though. Will he contact me again?

[spartan55]

I don't know, I doubt it. You feel like your thoughts were confirmed?
If it were me, I would be pretty pissed you ended it because of texting. Maybe that's how he feels. Tbh, most

[spartan55]

Guys don't like texting, at all. You seem to have set up some pretty rigid parameters regarding texting and you will have a hard time finding a guy who text the way you want. You may want to consider compromising or coming off your stance on it. Just my two cents though.

[countrywoman]

I appreciate your responses. Thank you! :)

[Anonymous]

Shit no