Does a Man Purposely Mention his Wife?

Question

Sometimes I’ll be having a work-related conversation or completely friendly one with my colleagues and I realise some of them mention their wives.

For example, we were talking about Morocco and my colleague said “yes I went there with my wife”. Or another responded to my question about his time off from work “yes I had a great time with my fiancée”.

Am I overthinking it or would they purposely mention their wives?

Also FYI it’s during a completely friendly conversation :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm also 23 and noticed this first from my dad growing up when talking about mum its weird but I understood it as him being fond of her like dad would make jokes as he buys something to cashere if the 'my wife would like it jokes' and laugh. Honestly it used to make me gag my dad doesn't show much emotion just works especially these days because they're almost done building there retirement home in another country when dad comes home to my mums cooking anytime my dad did show small affection to my mum it would make me gag and swear id never get married a mindset i had since 11. I even for a period looked down on marriage and theirs and wished divorce because of modern feminism. I don't think its an on purpose thing I just think when a man really loves a women he mentions her on an off because she's on his mind even if they seem very masculine and unemotional. Also haha my mums real pretty while dad is quite average looking. I think personality plays into why men mention their wife, my mums personality is a kind where everyone just likes her. Of course my feminazi views have changed i can think for myself now although it makes me gag still to see parents affection lol id want to get married and have kids also one day... something like my parents as much as id not like to admit

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sometimes it's hard to differentiate flirting and simply being friendly. So this could be one of two things..

1. They dont trust your motive and feel they need to mention their wife because you are getting too friendly and making them uncomfortable. Or..

2. They might just have so many memories and relatable stories that happen to be with their wife that pertain to the conversation at hand.

I do want to point out though that my boyfriend refers to me as his fiance whenever a woman gets friendly with him because generally speaking, women dont seem to give a shit if that man is taken or not and have gone to great lengths to simply get what they want from a man they think they can't have. Many women love competition when it comes to men. Sluts are everywhere. So if you aren't doing anything wrong (truly), then dont pay any attention to it. If what you are saying can easily be misinterpreted, reevaluate your conversations and approach. Not accusing you of anything. Just know that it's pretty common for skanky women to come off as "friendly" when their intentions are much more than that.

Smoothing · Accepted Answer

It is very normal for you to question that. I don't know about other men but I have experienced the same with women.

It makes it seem like they are doing it on purpose especially when the conversation you are having is a plutonic friendly one.

I used to find it a sign of insecurity about themselves but it has happened too many times I am used to it.

Personally when ever I am in a relationship I don't mention my girlfriend that often unless I sense that the conversation is getting to an awkward moment. I find mention my girlfriend this and my girlfriend that all the time takes away a certain sense of freedom in a conversation. It becomes a robotic interaction.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Women are very competitive - it's called 'pre-selection'. The logic is, if he's good enough to be hooked up, then she would be even better for him. Also called 'mate-poaching'.
Some guys run interference for these bitches.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Yes - men talk about their wives to show other woman they are not willing to cheat on them and are off the market for good - I even had a guy who was single talk about his female love interest with me just cause he did not want to deceive me about his uncertain relationship goals even though he also seemed interested in me

DizzyDesii · Answer

They mention their wife not to warn us, but to remind themselves to stop flirting... in vegas, i tipped this hot bartender $20 after he flirted the whole time. After he got yhe tip, he brought up something about “my wife...” lmao i almost snatched the tip back

belle_kai · Answer

Haha, no i think its because they were spending time with their wife. Or if it was friends you would say "I had a great time with friends" or family or whatever. Plus people gush about their significant others. I used to gush about my ex and all our trips together etc. Most things I spoke to co workers about etc I related it to my ex somehow.

yucel_eden · Answer

I’ve only noticed your you for 2 days on here and I can already tell your over thinker.

It is correct that we mention details of ourselves to make it seem like we are unavailable when we do feel like your approaching us.

I’m single but if someone I’m not interested in tries approaching me and persists I’ll just lie and be like yeah i can’t wait to see my girlfriend tomorrow.

From what you have said it’s just overthinking

Shellyworld · Answer

It is a sign that those men are nothing without their partners. It’s a sign of insecurity if they do it too often. A female friend did mention her boyfriend so often it bothered me. I know she is insecure. Same with men. They know they are nothing without their wives because all they got is “I got married” title. Marriage is not a talent. Tell them about that. People me, such men who feel less worthy may cheat on their partners but on the otherside they act “I love my wife sooo much” - dont buy that nonsense.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

I think you just notice the words wife and fiance easily and emphasize it in your mind because it's something you think about a lot yourself, wanting to also find a husband. It doesn't sound like they mention their spouses with ulterior motives.

007kingifrit · Answer

usually if a girl gives me too many blowjobs in a day i tell her about my wife so she stops blowing me so often. in general try to keep it beneath 2 a day or your co workers will feel like you might be jeapordizing their relationships and need a reminder that their wives also require blowjobs or they'll get jealous. and nobody wants a jealous wife she won't put opinions on my burger, yes that is a euphamism.

its important to tell corny jokes during office sex so your co workers know that you know its casual. its generally good etiquette to do this before the point of climax

... no of course your co workers are not bringing up their wives an undue amount its his wife he spends all day with her you're reading too much into this

Anonymous · Answer

Probably. It might not have anything to do with you giving them any kind of vibe, or them presuming that you're interested/hitting on them or whatever. If I mention it it's because I'm trying to not only let the girl know I'm taken but also to let her know I'm not gonna try anything with her either.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

People mention their significant others all the time. They’re the most important person in their world, so naturally it comes up. I wouldn’t read too much into it.

Newhead · Answer

Why not, a man should never be afraid to mention his wife, what's it to you?

Angelo75 · Answer

Yep. It's a protection mechanism. Just don't try to make long conversations with married men. You're looking for trouble.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

Yeah, they do it all the time. Usually if someone has a partner they mention them a lot. I find it weird when guys DON'T bring up their partner. That's when you should be worried.

TeeBar · Answer

Perfectly normal to include mention of your wife in such discussions. It would be quite odd for someone to describe a pleasant trip to anywhere without mentioning who went with them. I am assuming that you are both young and single.

pepperhicks · Answer

Yes. It is a friendly thing to ask colleagues about their time off from work. But if they took a trip with their SO, the SO is likely to be part of the answer.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I figure it's the same as when women mention their partners in an off-hand manner. It just signals that they're taken, just in case there's doubt.

MrCommodore · Answer

Not purposely, usually just out of habit maybe, but its not to intentionally let you know thry are taken.

worldscolide · Answer

Oh i talk about my wife all the time, especially with my colleagues who are friends. i dont think they are trying to hurt you or anything like that, its just part of conversation that i have. Heck i mention my wife on here all the time too.

Andres77 · Answer

Maybe they're tempted but if they try to make sure you know they're not available then you won't beguile them with all your charms...

Don't overthink it. Just be the best you and keep your distance from them if you can help it.

KingDio · Answer

Just habbit so bit of over thinking though if when generally chatting with someone and then blurt out the ol "i have a girl/boy relationship " that's gets annoying

JakeS00 · Answer

I think it's because they want to announce they're taken. Or they want to honor them by mentioning them when something relates to something they both did. :)

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