Why do guys avoid conflict at all cost?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't avoid conflict, but I do avoid long arguments with certain types of women. I'm not saying that all women do this, but if a guy is avoiding conflict with you he probably thinks you're this kind of girl.

It's kind of a "give them an inch and they'll take a mile" thing.

When you argue with a woman too much they begin to love arguing, and I think that's because the one thing they love from their guy is attention. I'm not interested in rewarding bad behaviour, and that's what you're doing when you argue with a woman.

When this happens she's not interested in solving the problem, and even if you come up with a way to solve whatever it is you're arguing about she's only interested in being right. It's like if you admit fault anywhere they jump on it and they don't let it go. They want you to keep saying sorry forever while they continue to berate you.

It's a lot easier to simply tell her to piss off and ignore her until she calms down and actually wants a calm two-way conversation.

jdonhere77 · Accepted Answer

Romans 12:18, if possible , so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Psalms 37: 37, Mark the blameless man and behold the upright; for the man of peace will have a posterity. The King James version of the Holy Bible. The best guide I know of 4 healthy living, Godly living, and very importantly, peaceful living. In Psalms 37: 37 it talks about posterity. Posterity has to do with the family name being carried out grandchildren are an example of posterity. A synonym for posterity would be a rising generation. So the Bible says a man of Peace will have posterity. To me that's saying that the more peace you have the healthier you will be the more you will be able to carry on and have kids and grandkids and great-grandkids. Peace equals health. So why do guys avoid conflict. A majority are these guys may not be reading the Bible, but there was enough to know conflict just basically will mess up a good day. Why have conflict when you can have peace. It's a no-brainer to me.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

They don't. Females avoid direct conflict in general... except with their man.

Men avoid emotionally-heavily-weighted conversations when they know they will have to face the feelings of their woman, if they think they won't be able to fix it or make her happy.

mindNsoul · Accepted Answer

If a person avoids all sorts of conflicts than the relationship is not worth it. Be it a man or a woman. Same goes for those who seek conflict for no good reason.

Relationships are all about communicating.

hahahmm · Answer

A lot of guys have self-control and know how to control their mouth and their physical power. Not engaging with you or limiting it is just exercising that control. Just like if you ever go to the gym and hit that treadmill for a minute you're exercising.

When a man runs his mouth too much to another man it could result in him being punched in the mouth or even somebody getting killed depending on the words used. Women are used to running their mouths and not getting punched in it or getting knifed so you probably don't think before you speak. You just let every thought and emotion in your head flood out like a broken fire hydrant.

guesswhoseback · Answer

? Well we don’t like drama for the sake of drama. I know that makes some women feel more “alive” and peace/calm is too boring for them. It’s also done to shit test guys to see how they react. Most women do this without even realizing (more or less).

But the stupid and fickle issues some women wig out over really shows how enabled, entitled and spoiled some women are. Call me sexist but men are generally better on focusing on logic and practical problems that are worth spending mental energy on.

spartan55 · Answer

Ha! I think this applies to girls just as much, if not more. Aren't girls the ones that can rarely be direct and just say what you want? You do that hinting crap instead.
Guys typically avoid conflict with women because we are tired of listening to them bitch at us.

DrunkAss · Answer

I love conflict where I can resolve it with a good brawl. We resolve conflict. And I trust if I go down, the guy helps me up (and ideally invite him to beers). And if he goes down, I help him up and invite him to beers.

What I don't like is a conflict with children and women because they go crying for help. And the help shows up with guns. They don't even wanna fistfight.

HikerDude · Answer

Because we're usually blamed when things go wrong in a relationship. Women make a hobby of complaining about and blaming their boyfriends and husbands for all the problems that occur in their relationships. It's a no-win for us, so we try hard to avoid it.

FatherJack · Answer

Not the case , many women , seem to enjoy creating it , I binned my former wife mainly as she was a needless conflict causing pain in the arse ( as well as many other reasons , she is a negative in every way ) ... what sane person wants to deal negativity & BS constantly? Ex British Army , so dealt with enough friggin conflict as it is. One of the main reasons I have zero interest in even dating , is because peace is far more important to me now , plus have little need for people.

Wowboi · Answer

Because men either avoid conflicts as much as possible or use their knuckles to settle it. And knowing that is not possible when dral with women, men avoid it because women don't play fair. She has to tell all social media and family and friends one sided story that is favourable to her or how she feels rather wtf actually happened to win a conflict.

JackSmy · Answer

Why do so many women post in TOTAL ABSOLUTES, on here? Who the FUCK ARE YOU to assume ALL GUYS are this same way!!  I AM VERY OFFENDED that you just ASSUME that all guys are like this!!

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the type of conflict. If relationship conflict you're referring to, we don't tend to "give into" drama. So sometimes to avoid it, that's what we do. Personally no matter the type of conflict, I'm not a confrontational person and don't want any (does anyone really?), so I'll avoid it whenever possible. Especially if it's something that really not important.

Vetis · Answer

I do not. But I do sometimes when there is either a female in leadership or there is a simp in leadership.

There's honestly no hope for you, everyone will hate you if you engage in conflict with a woman. She will even keep blackmail on you to report you to the authorities when you do beat her in an argument.

strawberrylipstick · Answer

i mean it depends on the situation. if its someone who is close to me like a best friend or a significant other then a conflict sucks and i dont like fighting with people i love. but if its someone who isn't close to me, you can bet i won't care XD

Synikal · Answer

Conflict for an issue that may pop up more than once? Yes, let's settle it. Conflict just to have drama/ no reason? Please leave my life. There's only two roles to this, either a storm or my peace. Guess which one I'm picking?

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Because conflict can escalate, and men almost always are blamed when things get out of control, regardless that it's often the female who is in some way fanning the flames.

winterfox10 · Answer

the same reason women do; conflict isn't a nice experience. Guys also know that things they say during the conflict are often used against them later by women.

ryanrhino · Answer

Not sure what you mean, as I don't avoid most conflicts. I just delay them. Great advice from my mom, "If it bothers you after 3 days, talk about it."

grega239 · Answer

Because arguing with a woman is a pointless exercise

Unit1 · Answer

We hate drama. At least most of us. Why have drama? It's just added stress and we get nothing in return.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we didn't have a good role model (most of them are destroyed or diminished by feminists), so we don't know how to take responsibility or how to handle conflicts. And the society still hasn't understood the bad impact it is having on men so there is no awareness...

Anpu23 · Answer

Because the guy loses. If they divorce he loses, they fight he loses, easier to just capitulate and keep the piece.  No situation where the guys win.

msc545 · Answer

Verbal conflicts are OK. Physical conflicts between men get very serious very fast and can often result in major injuries for death. Fights between men are no joke.

Guanfei · Answer

Because there's no winning with women. No matter if they're wrong or right, they'll still say we're at fault and act accordingly. It's pointless.

RingOfFire · Answer

The 4 worst words in the English language are when she says: "We need to talk." I think that's the scariest thing that ever happens to a guy. 😬

YHL6965 · Answer

Why would you want conflict at all? Conflict is only trouble so why would we not avoid it exactly? I see it as a hassle and I don't like it. Furthermore, I really hate drama.

RawIronhide · Answer

We don't, it's just not worth the breath most of the time.

psychoticanimaIIover · Answer

Ask that kingifrit guy. He loves avoiding conflict.

blondfrog · Answer

Cause that shit is fuckign stupid. I have better things to do then talking about others and stupid gossip.

Juxtapose · Answer

I actually don't mind an argument, it just better be rooted in logic & good faith. Don't yell at me or act like a petulant child. Don't play mind games with me.

Gosceewual · Answer

Because life is what u make it, and I don’t see the point in making it an annoying naggy pain in the ass... arguments are not fun, jus an annoyance, so why not avoid them? I like a nice easy life

shalt · Answer

Even if we show facts ypur wrong. Or just the fact WE CAN SEE the conversation is getting nowhere, that's why ita called being the bigger man. Not the bigger woman

Luckycharms12 · Answer

I don't know what type of guys you hang around with or know. But come conflicts you walk away others you stand and fight

Anonymous · Answer

because some women will blame men for everything, including if she had a dream about him cheating. and other will women ( some loser men) will back her up and say she's in the right.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Because its literally not worth all the trouble that comes with it afterwards.

Lunatic1 · Answer

For me, I only avoid conflict if it is a pointless fight. Otherwise I will stand up for my beliefs, even if it results in conflict.

AmeerX · Answer

No point in arguments with most girls. They just have stupid rationals that don't even fit. I know a few girls who liked picking fights with me

kingofthellamas · Answer

Hahahah. There's like a stack of guys here in conflict to you post and two girls in reply. Oh the irony.

BareTruth · Answer

If you are referring to conflict with women it’s because they use emotional attacks on men and that’s not how we process things in an argument. We have feelings to but we use logic and reading more in conflicts

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's an acquired life skill for those who want to be normal members of society.

Mr_longLegz · Answer

Because nobody likes conflict. People need to learn to talk.

DWornock · Answer

It depends on the person. A few love conflict, a few hate and avoid it, most are somewhere in between.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

If you enjoy conflict that’s not a good thing. But that’s a sweeping generalization. Most people avoid it, males and females.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys that have options do. Soy betas will bend over for you.

Trooper205 · Answer

Not ALL Men, but many, yes. Conflict means disagreement. Mental War. People don't want that.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

First girl I see to say that we avoid it. Most say we love it.

Anonymous · Answer

Because its annoying. I get tired of dealing with people who have nothing better to do than start problems because their own lives is boring without drama.

EaterPeter · Answer

Its lose lose for us it cost us more. Why the fuck to even try just to be right or for sake of an argument or what ever stupid reason we have.

Anonymous · Answer

If that was true then I wouldn't have a long arrest record for fighting, disturbing the peace and assault But with women I do notice that I have an avoidant personality

misanthropistkev · Answer

I just feel like women over argue over nonsense and petty shit and refuse to take part in it

Gedaria · Answer

They know they are in the wrong but will not talk about it..

Anonymous · Answer

I think what you are referring to here is drama, not conflict. Men actually avoid conflict a lot less than women do.

killerboots · Answer

Because we hit our breaking point and that's when all bets are off

Davidstarboy · Answer

Because it's like a hardest part for men to argue with bitchy women.

admles · Answer

Why do women like to stir up drama so much? Why do women always like to pick fights?

JessieBellll · Answer

It's on the opposite.  Guys are very conflicting

Asianguy123 · Answer

because they want the control. They fool around but they want the women wash the dishes and cook for dinner and take care of their baby.

ftewolde · Answer

Women are difficult to deal with.

TommyYbone · Answer

Because it is added, un needed stress. Usually the subject of the conflict is petty.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't avoid conflict, they avoid your bullshit nagging.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why do women seek CONFLICT at every opportunity?

sheikalana · Answer

Because they hate conflict and confrontation.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Because no one taught them how to deal with it

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