A guy I was getting to know for 2 months told me his name and down the road I figured out from someone else that’s not his name. I would call him by that name all the time and he responded to it as if it was his. We spoke daily, spent time with one another, and he hinted wanting to be in a relationship at some point.. which he asked during as month 3 approached.
What’s the point of putting in so much time just to continue dragging out a lie for so long? It’s so odd to me.
Was this someone you met in person? Or online only? Because the reasons could be different for each Online only- he maybe don't want you to be able to find him if he's not serious or be able to find him on other social media... In person-may be hiding real identity because of a record or other private info he doesn't want you to know or find out about...
Yeah that's definitely a read flag, even if it's an innocent reason why; a lie is still a lie and if he lied about his name, what else has he or would he like about... 🤷🏼♀️
He either: 1. Hates his first name and hates being addressed as such. That or he has two names. 2. Is trying to hide something from you. 3. He was not serious about you in the beginning of the connection and he decided to give you a fake name, then he played along. 4. Is a pathological liar.
Maybe he likes to go by a nickname? We don’t choose our names at birth and some people just hate the names that their parents picked m. Now if it was me, I’d tell people, “Hey, my name is Marco but I go by (blank), please refer to me as (blank)”
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Right, a heads up would be cool just as I did I said this is my name but call me this for short. Just to throw in a name that and be called it as if it’s your identity is just off.
If someone gets pulled over by a cop and they ask for a name and an ID it has to be a genuine answer. There wouldn’t be no reason to lie about a name anyway. Unless an individual is hiding something or criminal records.
I wouldn’t go that far. If it was for legal issues, they should provide their legal name for sure, but If it was a social gathering, it would be fine to introduce yourself with your preferred name. I knew a guy from Somali whose name was Ismail but introduced himself as Albert because of some traumatic incident he faced with racism or something I’m not sure. I don’t think it’s necessarily out of malice, but that’s just my opinion. It could definitely be more I don't know.
Unless the info you were given was wrong, or he happened to be one of many people who go by their middle name or a nickname (possible) it seems like a pretty shady move. You said he asked you to be in a relationship? Did you say no? Are you still in touch? Ever try asking him about it?
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He asked but I would just laugh and change the conversation. I ended up ending things with him for a reason of him going off for not picking up his call and questioning where was I and who am I with. I figured this out after.
He would call and call and try to message me on my laptop but I blocked. The thought in my mind but I was talking to a stranger scares me. Definitely a shady move which I can’t understand the reason
Yeah, his possessive behavior & unwarranted anger are pretty scary, too. Seems like you definitely made the right call. How long after you split up did you find out he'd lied about his name? Are you sure the source of that info was credible?
His reasons are not that hard to imagine. He probably had a bad reputation in his own name for acting like he owned people or having temper tantrums. Or else he wasn't exactly single and wanted to make sure that nobody caught him being a sleazebag
Could be maybe his middle name or nickname? Ask for his ID and see what he says, maybe he changed his name, I introduce myself to people I just met as Jay since it is the first letter of my name.
If he can lie about his name what other stuff has he got hidden from you? Yes, I don't trust people at all I had girls contact me by phone and lied about their age's like stop leading me on and tell me the truth?
Cuz he probably had a girlfriend and was looking to bang you on the side , bottom line he is a liar and do yourself a favor and move on from him
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Because he wants to remain anonymous. For example; I am not telling all the men I correspond with my real name, but a fake name for each of them. Maria, analia, margot, samantha, barbara, ines, milagros and more 😋
That’s odd though. I’ve met a lot of guys who aren’t serious about something but they will give a real name. If it’s temporary to him and a game that he wants to play then he can leave one way or the other but to give a fake name? That’s extreme.
That’s weird. I even asked my Dad about it and he was saying how if a man have to go to the lengths of changing his identity then it’s someone deeper that he don’t want the woman to find out.
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