My boyfriend constantly gets jealous when I text other guys, but why can’t I get jealous when he texts other girls?

[Joysfulloflove]

My boyfriend constantly looks at my phone and asks who I am texting what we’re talking about and why, but when Im not allowed to ask what he’s talking about to other girls, he has this cousin (who isn’t blood related at all and her name is Michelle) that he texts and I never look and ask what is going on I let it be. He does it to me all the time and automatically assumes I’m planning days to hang out with my guy friends when they are my coworkers and I ask how they are doing with their kids. Is that even okay?

[Anonymous]

You have to trust him even if he is actually banging tht Michelle. Guys know the best. He will never let you knwo if he cheated cause he doesn't want to hurt you. That's how much a man loves you

[Joysfulloflove]

Sooo what you’re saying is... I should trust him and let him cheat cuz that’s love? :/ yeahhh okay.

[Opinion Owner]

Men know the best. Trust him. Anything he does even cheating is for your own good

[Joysfulloflove]

See im sorry, but men don’t always know the best, if he is cheating I would never agree it’s for my own good. That’s not healthy nor acceptable. I don’t know what world you live in but in my reality love doesn’t consist of loving multiple people while loving one person, this isn’t a get together. This is a relationship consisting of two people who care for each other. Including other into that only messes it up unless you CHOOSE to live that way. Other than that I would never allow my boyfriend to cheat under any circumstance

[1stranger]

! Can't find?
Cause he doesn't send messages to other girls that make you jealous.

[Joysfulloflove]

Its not even that I can't find it, it’s a matter of trust. And he is the one with trust issues im not.

[Joysfulloflove]

I trust that he wouldn’t hurt me but he doesn’t trust me

[1stranger]

Well, make him trust you.

[Joysfulloflove]

Dont you think I’ve tried that. I wouldn’t be posting this if that wasn’t the case

[sas2023]

Well i dont have a good answer to this. My girl always get jelous when I talk to other girls even though she know I do it because I got bullied by all the boys from 2-8 grade

[Joysfulloflove]

It’s just, people always have to recognize the shoe on the other foot if you both don’t like doing it to each other than don’t do it but if you feel it’s right for you to do it but your spouse can’t then it’s very controlling so it seems.

[Avicenna]

Why dont each of you communicate better and meet these other people in person?

[Joysfulloflove]

We communicate all the time and he always says “it’s us vs the problem” but the truth is it’s him vs me. He doesn’t know how to communicate without yelling at me or cursing or saying that he’s right and stuff so. Our communication together isn’t always equal it’s always gonna be one sided

[Eric027]

He's probably jealous or insecure its either he's cheating and probably afraid you're doing the same...

[OddBeMe]

You’re relationship has no trust in it.

[Joysfulloflove]

Yeah no it really doesn’t

[OddBeMe]

So what’s the point? Really doesn’t matter if he’s cheating does it?

[Joysfulloflove]

Well see the thing is he hasn’t cheated and I just know that personally cuz we’re together everyday. He doesn’t go anywhere and lives with his mom so. I would know if he left or had someone over

[OddBeMe]

Still there’s no trust. I’d say you’re just hanging on to a dissolved relationship. Not saying you have to break up immediately. Keep him for a slap and tickle ever now and then.

[jimmy2]

Good point girl high five

[Firerubies]

Who says you can’t?

[Joysfulloflove]

Im saying.