Do women think, that men are emotionless robots?

[Unit1]

Like no feelings, no emotions. Although we do bleed.

Yes, of course

In some ways yeah

Not really

Absolutely not

Men do it to themselves. Nobody forces them to be emotionless robots

Other

[janellie1917]

I think that they aren’t robots but misogyny does try to reinforce that idea. Boys are taught not to cry or deal with emotions or trauma. Parents neglect them more often and that is actually not a good thing though I’m sure young guys sometimes appreciate less parental supervision.
I truly think that men simply aren’t taught to be emotional which is terrible. They aren’t taught empathy as much as girls despite biologically having less of that. Women are more in tune with themselves and with others.
A lot of men lash out when they’re hurt because they lack the tools to grow and mature. Think about incels. There is a whole community of men who feel entitled to sex because they do not know how to handle the emotions that arise from rejection. They truly are just self loathing and angry but instead place blame on women that haven’t done anything and men they wish they were.
Think about hook up culture. Men compartmentalize. It’s very hard for them to treat their hook ups right because they put distinctions between people. They categorize. This is what makes it hard for them to say “hey I only want to have a sexual relationship with this girl but I still respect and have affection for her because I like her as a person”. So instead they think “well she is easy and I just sleep with her and I don’t want to get emotionally attached so I’ll act nice but if she does anything I find romantic I will be mean because I do not know how to communicate that I do not know how to treat all women with respect”
Sorry if that didn’t make sense. Look up the Madonna-whore complex. That will help explain.
Anyways men are just innately different than women and in my opinion have to work harder to be empathetic beings because of societal norms. Sometimes even just seeing comments when a woman talks about sexual assault worries me because men truly don’t experience the same kind of thing and can’t empathize with women. This is also why so much rape takes place and victim blaming too. I think men need to work on recognizing their privilege and working through their own emotions. that in itself will help them to empathize with others and be better people.

[Unit1]

Love this. I agree. That makes so much sense to me. I learned a lot from this today 😊😊😊

[Djaay]

Why on Gods green earth would you expect me to treat ALL women with the same respect?

[red324]

@Djaay Sometimes it takes me a minute to process information and I may be so upset that I don't know to be mad or sad, so I'll usually cry by myself later that night once it's all kind of come together if that makes since. Usually I'll be confused at first.

[janellie1917]

@Unit1 thank you so much your comment warmed my heart, love❤️ have a wonderful day

[janellie1917]

@Djaay because everyone deserves to have respect to some level. IE I hate rapists with a passion.
Like to my core. However, I have to respect them as humans. They are living breathing humans, some of which were extremely abused. I respect their rights to due process and other things in the constitution. You gotta respect everyone to some degree even if it’s extremely minute lol

[Djaay]

there's a big difference between respect and forgiveness. And there's a huge difference between constitutional respect (common curtesy) and God given rights. Everyone doesn't deserve automatic respect , although they deserve grace unconditionally and forgiveness. You don't respect rapist , you forgive them from your core. Forgiveness isn't for them , its for you. I agree with that everyone is human and should be treated with dignity until proven otherwise.

[Bean2thousand]

YOU want ME to be a better person? And who are you? What makes you so special? You make generalizations without any evidence to support them whatsoever. "Men do this men do that." Maybe you want to try to read less feminazi propaganda and instead read Plato or Lao Tse or some other philosopher. Or perhaps you could instead read Shakespeare, or Pythagoras, or Euclid, or some other works by these individuals who you label as unempathetic and lacking in morality.

[janellie1917]

@Bean2Thousand When men stop acting primitive and raping so much that 1/5 women are raped, you can get back to me about empathy and morality. Men have done absolutely nothing about the rape epidemic. So I don’t feel bad about generalizing you people. Look up what I’m talking about. Do your research. Everything is backed up. Look it the fuck up.
I’m not a feminazi I don’t think women are better than men. I don’t hate men. I just think men are caught up in patriarchy and simply don’t care about the women in their lives enough to make change. You guys don’t understand the actual terror we women feel because while 1/5 of us are raped 1/71 men are raped and most don’t speak up. So none of you get it. And most just don’t really care or rationalize it somehow. We all know rape is wrong and happens too often. We all know patriarchy exists.
We all know men are worse parents and partners. It’s statistically proven. If you want a better rep, do fucking better.
Talk about things. Listen. Open up and stop victim blaming and for God fucking sake. STOP CONDONING BAD BEHAVIOR. STOP CONDONING RAPE.

[Bean2thousand]

@janellie1917 Actually, you know what, I'm glad you're a sexist with a victim mentality who doesn't know how to construct a logical argument. Because, while you're over there reading your feminazi propaganda, I can continue feeling privileged without any guilt, because you know what the Bible says, 'Do not throw your pearls before swine.'

[Unit1]

@janellie1917
Awww. I'm glad I could warm your heart ☺🤗
Take care kind lady :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

NoI personally do not believe that. I believe men think they have to appear that way either from the way they were raised or by stupid societal standards of how a real man behaves or what is manly. And yes, some women are guilty of acting like men shouldn't show emotion. But there's men that also do that to other men calling them simps, soy boy and other childish insults.
Showing/having emotions makes people human...

[jerdanro]

I fell in deeply love with my first and last friends with benefits. She cared about me, but not in the same way and my heart was broken. I told her how I felt and showed too much emotion. She told me that intellectually she knew it was wrong, but she felt disgusted when men cried or showed sadness. My lifelong belief that men shouldn't share those feelings was confirmed.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@jerdanro bull, my husband cried cuz he knew he was dying and that didn't make me feel less about him, made me feel more... Cuz his fear of dying was about not being there for"his girls" and THAT'S A REAL MAN ANY DAY!!!

[jerdanro]

That just wasn't my experience. Not saying my experience is everyone's.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@jerdanro Exactly!

[KrakenAttackin]

@jerdanro Well said.

[ohshee]

All men are different , I watch men do the most stupidest or crazy things I believe it's just because they haven't found themselves for me personally I know exactly who I am and I'm not afraid to be that person I don't need to pretend that I'm anybody else. I kind of like myself I'm not afraid to take anything on and the best part about it is I don't have to prove it I don't have to prove anything to anybody except for myself. Just because I think something doesn't mean that I'm right and I'm not afraid to say that I was wrong something happens to somebody I love I'm not afraid to show I hurt my pain. If somebody is doing something to hurt somebody I love or even somebody I don't know or even a pet I'll be the first one to stand up make sure it stops. One of the best things about me and one of the worst things about me is on the empath and I feel people's emotions I have felt the worst of the worst and I have felt the best of the best and on any given situation there is a reason to have them to feel them and to understand them respect them and don't lose control of them

[InventorofWarp]

I feel just as much as anyone.
I've had a tough time coming to grips with the reality that it's okay to be emotional sometimes. I grew up with a strict father who didn't show too much emotion. I think men are conditioned not to display emotion or affection from such an early age as boys and we see our role models do it that we take on these traits ourselves.
I never learned to deal with my emotions. I just always watched my dad shove them down and meanwhile my step-dads drank so I ended up with my own coping method doing tons of drugs for years. I had to move past that and realize that in a lot of ways I'm still that boy I was years ago... I'm just kind of bigger. And tattooed.

Women don't really help the matter all the time though. Its a case of good and bad on both sides. No one is an angel and its all not quite black and white.

[Account]

No, although some pretend to be that way or many of them have been raised in a way that doesn't help them develop empathy that much.

[jerdanro]

I was raised to be both. I have empathy for others. I feel a responsibility to protect women and children; and other men who can't defend themselves. But I try not to show weekness. And to be honest, I suppress my pain. Maybe it's not healthy, but it's what I know.

[Djaay]

Empathy to what exactly?

[jerdanro]

Empathy to other people's feeling. That's what empathy is.

[Djaay]

Jsrdanro... wasn't asking you , and I know what it is.

[Djaay]

@ Account

[jerdanro]

Gotcha, and I know you do.

[Djaay]

derdanro... My quest in question here is you can't teach someone how to be emphathetic or to be compassionate towards others. These are emotions.

[Account]

Empathy = The ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

What else could I possibly mean?

[Djaay]

Empathy is an ability to relate to another persons pain as if its your own. Empathy like sympathy is grounded in emotion and feeling , but empathy doesn't have an active component to it which means its not learned from humankind or social constructs .

[coachTanthony]

Men don't have safe spaces to be vulnerable so of course women think this. It's up to the woman to give men a save space to be vulnerable otherwise you will keep getting manly men who keep it all in... good luck with all that.

[Unit1]

"otherwise you will keep getting manly men who keep it all in... good luck with all that."

Sounds like one of those cocky "i am never wrong" bastards, that makes life a living hell for everyone around them. Especially for the kids.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I try my best not to make sweeping and generalizing statements like this. I don't think all men are emotionless robots, nor do I think that other women feel like that. I think men feel like they have to hide emotion and be tough 24/7. It is unhealthy to not show emotion. To not feel like you can have feelings. I do feel like because there is such a stigma on men showing emotion, that there are a lot of damaged men walking around. But I don't feel like it's women who are to blame. Most men will look down on other men that are tune and in touch with their feelings. They see it as feminine and will usually give these other men shit about it. Women are more open and understanding then given credit for.

[Psychosocial]

Not true, it is only not ok to cry basically.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@Psychosocial you don't speak for me, so yeah... it is true

[jerdanro]

There are women who see emotional men as week and undesirable. Of course they feel the same about old fat guys. 😝

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@jerdanro There are some women that do, but I don't think it's the majority

[Browneye57]

No, they actually think we're emotional train-wrecks like they are. It's called projecting - and they're really good at it. They naturally assume if they feel a certain way that everybody else does too. It's part of their solipsism.

The truth is, men do have emotions, but it's not anything like what women have. A man's brain runs on facts and logic, a woman's on feelings and emotion. It's a completley different dynamic of how the brain works. And why you cannot win an argument with a woman, cuz no matter what facts or logic you have to backup your position, she will always turn it around to be about her feelings.

The last thing any woman wants is for her man to break down into tears every time she does. What she really wants is for her man to be her emotional ROCK. A lighthouse in her stormy seas of feelings and emotions swirling around in her little head. :)

[little_rose]

No, not at all... at least I don't think that.
Men have feelings just like everyone else. It's true that society somehow forces them to hide their emotions but women hide feelings as well. That is why we should all be kind to each other. It's not about one gender suffering more than the other. It's not something you can compare anyway.
I think it's high time to start treating people, not just one specific gender, with love and respect.

I'm sorry if I've gone too far with this or if I sound a little too soft. I just hate how harsh we are with each other, not just across gender or race but just as humans.

[RingOfFire]

Whether we like it or not, the human race is still part of the natural world filled with natural animal instincts. And humans are part of the animal kingdom, and like other animals competitive, territorial and combative. Human males are built for doing the fighting and providing protection. Millions of years of evolution designed them that way both physically and mentally. Emotions conflict with that natural role. You don't want emotions when you have to tear the other guy to pieces. That interferes with your mission. I believe that's why men have developed the ability to turn off their emotions. It's a natural consequence of being designed to be the warriors and protectors of their species.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

No matter what comment section says.

There are very less or even rare women who own upto men being emotional and tolerate them.

Lol women are accepted for being emorional on expense of men being emotion variant bc someone has to hold the mantle be the bearer.

For example if a woman is alone and has achieved some success in her life.

She would behave in a way same as men and but they loose the element of feminenity the nurturing and caring part they become cold and stiff.


They become rigid unshakeable personalities same as men


But modt men suck it up even though they are blamed.

Lol if a man is like highly sensitive or emotional he would be rejected and be told that I don't want to be your mom I want a partner honestly I don't see many woman accepting an emotional man

[FlutteringFeelings]

I used to think that before because of my experiences but over the years I learned and seen different things. I understand now that they have emotions but they mask it because they feel as if it’s the right thing to do. I learned that they seemed like emotionless robots because they do not show their emotions.

[Djaay]

Men generally express themselfs through achievements acquired , through actions that are worthy and by generous gestures or overwhelming joy. Words hardly articulate an over whelming sensation for men to adherently cry over. We're generally not in a state of uncertainty to be overwhelmed to a point of distress tearing unless of course a tragedy or etc.. like anyone else. Men are not women and women are not men and never will be. Women should stop with all the wimpy prospect of men being likewise to themselfs. And women should certainly stop with the hard ass pretending they're just like men emotionally.

[Djaay]

Thank you down votes... my point exactly.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Some women believe that nonsense about emotions being unmanly.


That’s unfair and has been the primary cause of many male suicides.


Emotions are part of being human.


Men are human too.

[KrakenAttackin]

True. But women do all sorts of shit testing in effort to elicit emotions from men. Men who lose control of their emotions fail the shit test.

[jerdanro]

Be that as it may, being overly sensitive isn't what attracts most of the women I know. I believe most women want a partner who is strong and makes them feel safe.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Having emotions and being overly emotional are not the same.

That being said, any human is prone to losing control especially when depression gets the upper hand.

If she can’t love you when you’re at your worst, she doesn’t deserve you when you’re at your best.

[jerdanro]

But where is the line between emotional enough and too much? How are men supposed to navigate that?

[NotTacocaT6969]

Expressing your emotions without for instance punching a hole in the wall, throwing things, breaking things, screaming, saying hurtful things, stomping around like a toddler, etc.

In other words, men are supposed to navigate that the way any adult should know how to.

[jerdanro]

I don't do any of that. But for many women I know, sadness, moments of insecurity, doubt or hopelessness are unforgivable.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Those women are toxic and unloving.

[jerdanro]

Guess so. :)

[Anonymous]

As much as men like to bully other men for showing emotion, us women know better. You can try to hide to your feelings to preserve your toxic masculinity, but we know you're just faking it.

When men stop seeing emotions as a sign of "weakness" and "femininity", then they'll be less hesitant to show them. At the end of the day, having to hide your emotions is a problem men have created for themselves. Women see no problem with expressing one's feelings. If anything, we often encourage you to express your feelings with us.

[Steinkopf]

From my experience it were mostly women who made fun of them behind their back

[Jjpayne]

I think men do themselves a disservice by being too sexual, too stereotypical and not being connected in meaningful ways with others. Think, most women like men that do or know poetry, why do you think that is? It's not something to learn simply to get girls but why do girls like that? Being a man for them but also being in touch with your emotional side too

[devilish-cutie]

no, they just rather express it trough anger than any other emotion lol
anyways, dont think men are less emotional than women but I think most are rather to give more value to rationality over emotions

[Eduardoalbacaffe]

Correct i drown my unwanted feelings with alcohol 😀😄🙂🙂

[Eduardoalbacaffe]

happiness and sad feelings oooo my I absolutely hate feeling those I just drink them away mmmmmmmm with the right drink ill forget in 5 minutes yessss🥰🥰🥰🥰😀😊

[cth96190]

If men did not have a different set of emotions and a distinctly male way of processing things, our species would have gone extinct before it got going.
Men have to be able to gut an enemy, then wash the blood off and go home to their children.
That is one of a list of reasons why women do not have a place in combat.

[red324]

I hope not. I've been having a hard time the last month or so after this girl dumped me randomly after saying all the things a woman that likes a guy would say. Normally i'd just find another girl, but i've been in a rut with online dating lately. I haven't gotten many matches since covid started and me being an introvert that doesn't have much of a social circle or go out much uses it as a primary way to meet girls.

[KrakenAttackin]

@red324. Brother, take a break from women. Use that energy to learn a new skill of advance your career. After some time come back to women

[Bellatris]

They're far less likely to show their emotions, less likely to share them. For many it's all about pretending to be "tough", and "self-reliant", a man in need of no one, "independent" and all that other crap that's clearly just for show.

[Djaay]

And you know this to he true , How?

[Bellatris]

@Djaay Simple observation of behaviour.

[Djaay]

Your own perspective?

[Bellatris]

@Djaay Well, yes. It's not something I can "prove" of course, and I'm willing to admit I could be completely wrong about this, but... well, if it's not true, then why is it a subject that is discussed so often among those we know, on social media, and within the mainstream news?

[na2398]

Bella, you've got an exception here. :) :)

[Djaay]

With other women talking together?

[Bellatris]

@Djaay I mean people in general, of both genders. The very expression 'toxic masculinity' came about because of it.

[Djaay]

Well shit , I mean seriously why wouldn't men be this way after such a bashing we all take nowdays from most women. Fortunately I'm not at all affected by any measure , although many others have ditched the whole idea of woman out of they're minds except a worm hole once in a while. As discusting as that even sounds , its actually a thing. The man today that actually thinks women mean so much isn't the real man of yesterday who thought women were so great. Today men are becoming more and more intolerant at the same time women are becoming more and more tolerant. What's wrong with that picture?

[mistixs]

I don't think so. Some radical feminists do but it's really a fringe belief.

[TheLittleInnocent]

I wouldn't say emotionless but rather less expressive? 🤷

[Bored97]

From my own experiences many dudes put on terrible performances

I'm a very apathetic & monotonic type & I've had many guys who would come off as these "silent killas" get flustered real quick when I would go on the offensive literally when they provoked meThey would stutter & trample over their words & their pitch would get higher& a lot of these dudes were over 5'10/200lb by the way

[lovelornlady1207]

No, I certainly don’t. I have seen men have emotions. I saw my last boyfriend cry. Men have emotions, trust me. They often don’t express how they really feel because there’s a whole stigma with men and emotions, that they have to act masculine. I think it’s total BS. Men should feel free to express their emotions when they feel them and not have to hide them. I find it very attractive when a man can express how he truly feels. He doesn’t try to be tough.