Guys, why would a man have a restraining order against a woman he claims to be attracted to, yet said man doesn’t like it when she’s with another man?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Obviously the guy is a mess. He has boundary issues and probably lacks self-control, and is certainly emotionally immature. And those are issues that HE needs to work on himself (with a therapist), before he's going to be ready and qualified to be in a relationship with anyone else.

Here's a metaphor: he's like a guy who went skiing and shattered his leg. It doesn't mean he'll never walk again, but it DOES mean that he's going to need professional help - and lots of it - to repair his leg initially, but he's ALSO going to need lots of physical therapy - which will be difficult and painful and time-consuming - before he's going to get back to something close to "normal" mobility again. And if he refuses any part of that process, then he's going to be stuck in a wheelchair and completely out of the game until he gets with the program. And there's nothing you or anyone else can do to get him healed back up - HE has to participate directly, or nothing is going to get fixed.

I recommend you don't get yourself involved with this guy. He's not in any position to be any good to anyone else right now - he needs to get himself together before he's ready to be involved with anyone else, and that's a long and painful process that needs to be completed FIRST.

[boggboss]

He wouldn't sounds like manipulation and mind games