I feel like I turned a guy off because I was into fitness a lot what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[FoxnEagle]

Going to need a bit more information.

If I went on a date with you and you show up "ripped" and in a sports bra, I'm gonna feel a little uncomfortable (for reference, I'm a 6' bean pole). If we start talking and you seem to be focused on fitness, and not much other conversation happens, now the conversation is dead. If, on top of that, your attitude is the "no pain, no gains. rest is for the weak" well now the date is over.

Either find a different guy or find some other way to relate to the guy you want. I look for common ground to start a relationship.

[Asker]

But yet he will keeps watching my instagram stories

[FoxnEagle]

I can read about someone else's progress and be happy for them/interested in the story; if you have cute pictures to go along with them it makes it even more pleasant.
The difference is between following a story and being expected to partake in conversation. It's kind of stupid, I can be excited about you being able to do the same amount of reps with heavier dumbbells and see/hear about your progress, but if you try and talk to me about it I have no basis of information except what's in your stories, I have no comparisons of my own, I'm not dumb enough to compare you to other women's progress, and commenting on those cute pictures can be a landmine. So the most I can do is maybe ask about your fitness goals (which again, I probably won't understand), ask about what some of your workouts do (and if you go into muscle groups you lose me), and/or ask what feats you can do (and if I lack a frame of reference for your response, it puts me in an awkward position of either having to ask you to explain further or expressing joy to something I don't understand).

[Shiver]

Didn't think that was a thing that happens. Where the fuck do you live where guys don't like fitness girls? That's so much better than party girls and land whales. Lmao
I recommend just leaving him be and trying your luck with literally any other guy.

[Asker]

I know right! what's up with him.. honestly way better than carrying some drunk burd back to the car at night.

[LuminousMind]

It’s a great thing you’re into fitness! Honestly if he doesn’t like that he most likely felt intimidated. However, find another guy who likes girls that are into fitness! Keep going 💪

also, I’m having trouble posting a question bc I can’t seem to find the option that says choose a topic ://

[Asker]

Do you really think he is intimated? I guess he had a slight beer belly going

[Chrissydamusicgirl]

Leave his ass and get a new man. He’s replaceable you’re not remember that

[TommyMountainFigure]

Find a guy who shares your fitness regime. I'm into fitness too and I found a woman who enjoys working out as much as me..

[Asker]

Yes I'm probably better off seems like he was a big social drinker and smoked that odd cigar.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Drinking and smoking cigars don't make him a bad person, just a bad match for someone who is into fitness and wants to be healthy.

[Asker]

Yeah that's why he probably didn't bother with me anymore. i normally send him snapchats and I would normally send him gym stuff he probably realised I was way different

[Gray-Wisp]

That's super weird. Having a fit woman is a lot better than a land whale or something.

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣 that's what I'd thought

[Asker]

But I guess not 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Don't let it bother you and find a guy that doesn't mind it. Don't change who you are for a guy.

[Asker]

Yeah he probably likes a girl who's into sitting inside the pubs and clubs

[anylolone]

Unlikely you turned him off because of that.
But define "into fitness a lot".

[Asker]

We haven't met up tho but doesn't really text now

[anylolone]

Yeah, but what do you define as "too much into fitness"?

[Asker]

Like going to the gym at nights and not going out to the pub for a social drink

[Asker]

Just our lifestyles seemed so different

[anylolone]

Hum... That stuff isn't a "turn off", it's more of an incompatibility.

[boggboss]

Not much u can do if he has been turned off its kinda over

[Asker]

He wasn't into fitness as he liked going to the restaurants or pubs to have the odd drink

[boggboss]

U understand that by what u are saying u was a miss match

[Asker]

I know it sucks :( I guess it was a huge miss match because he also smoked cigars

[boggboss]

Then there u go lol how could it have worked if your life styles didn't match up

[Asker]

Very true probably wouldn't last a year

[supercutebutt]

Clean out your sweaty sniz and try again? That's all I can think of. :)

[Still-alive]

*trying to figure out what a 'sniz' is hmmm

[Interstate]

Fitness is your "thing". If his head is turned by this... move on.

[DWornock]

That wasn't the reason. Most likely, your age is the reason and you cannot do anything about that. When you were 20, you could sell it. Now you have to give it away and at 40 you will have to buy it.

[AmeerX]

İf he liked you back he wouldn't mind it. I started to exercise a lot because of someone too. It is alright to be healthy

[Asker]

I think he liked to sit back at a restaurant or a pub with the odd drink. He probably thought he would prefer someone else

[AmeerX]

That's stupid

[exitseven]

If he does not like the fact that you are into fitness than maybe you should reconsider.

[jasco]

More than likely you didn't. but if you did than find someone else.

[Luckycharms12]

His loss

[Asker]

I guess he's not interested in me or to take up fitness himself

[Luckycharms12]

Well he doesn't have get in to fitness. Both can have your own ideas

[Asker]

Dont think he is keen 🤣🤣

[Jmmmfi4]

Man I'd love a girl like that

[MotorcycleMan]

Find another guy.

[SantiagoRomero]

Forget about him

[Anonymous]

Find another guy.