If I don’t see a guy who seemed interested at the gym a lot, does that mean he’s probably not into me?

[Karlie_Flowers]

So I’m a gym rat. And there was a guy who id see pretty regularly. He’d smile and stare when he saw me. And complimented me twice so I know he’s attracted to me. But I’m shy so not a lot came of the interactions. Still he’d glance when he saw me. However I only see him like a few times a month :/ and I don't know what to do about it because I wanted to somehow return my interest back. If I don’t see him a lot does that mean he might not be trying to be around me? I feel like if a guy likes a girl at the gym he’d try to run into her more. No?

[broccolislaw1985]

You can blame other girls for your predicament, lol. The internet is plastered with, "don't hit on girls at the gym!!" I'm fairly socially retarded, so I never really knew how to start up a conversation at the gym anyway. Complimenting their bodies is considered creepy. Giving them guidance or showing them "proper form" during an exercise is a huge no-no. WTF am I supposed to strike up a conversation on? The goddamn weather?

That being said, if he complimented you twice and you didn't reciprocate, it's very likely he's moved on and took it as a rejection. I know I would.

But, perhaps all hope is not lost. I know myself, personally, I'll switch up the times I go to the gym due to outside factors like work schedule change or just other obligations. It could just be that.

When a guy approaches you at the gym, so long as he's not being a complete douchebag or creep, it's very likely it took a lot for him to muster up the courage to go talk to you (largely due to my initial point on this post). If you try to play coy or don't seem particularly interested, he may have "taken the hint" and buggered off. If you see him again, perhaps muster up the courage and approach him. It'll be easy for you. "Hey, long time no see! Where have you been? I missed you!" If he doesn't get the hint after that... well, the guy you're trying to court is likely me, and again, I'm socially retarded...

[Reese_Rap]

I’m going to talk to him next time I see him. He still stares at me even after the “rejection”
Yeah ikr! How are women supposed to meet men anymore? They hate dating apps and hating being “harassed” aka talked to at the gym. Like our species is going to go extinct.

[Reese_Rap]

Another thing. I’ve seen him check out other girls. Usually ones with big asses, which I don’t have LOL. But other than that I never see him interacting with or coming to the gym with a woman.

[broccolislaw1985]

@Reese_Rap... guys have varying tastes. Small butts, big butts, medium butts... we may have certain preferences, but that doesn't mean we'll only be attracted to girls with only one type of attribute. I'll check out girls with all different body types.

[Julyus01]

I’m a gym rat my self and I’ve been that guy that you’re explaining in your situation and what I can tell you from what you’ve explained is he is unsure if you’re interested. If guy has gone out of his way to give you the hints and even approach you it’d really make him unsure especially if you’re reaction is very neutral. And on the last thing men don’t go to the gym to find a potential partner even if they’re interested in someone there, they’re there to better them selves and focus on their own goals.

[Karlie_Flowers]

Yeah I wasn’t really showing I was interested back so makes some sense. I’m extremely shy and introverted so I don’t have great social skills/can’t read situations correctly at times.
I see where you’re coming from. Okay if guys aren’t interested in finding someone there then why do some guys hit on me then?

[Julyus01]

Every now and then we’ll take shots when we feel like we should but that’s optional it’s something that’d be last on our list like when we’re passing time on our set. But I like to compliment woman on their progression or hard work as i love to see the heathy change in them which might come off as flirtation

[Karlie_Flowers]

This guy has complimented my appearance twice. Once was actually right outside the gym. Another was when I took a water break.

[Julyus01]

If it’s on your appearance and has engaged you himself I’d say approach him next and be subtle something like asking for a spot on a lift or even asking if he needs a spot on a heavy lift himself and then complimenting him on his strength that’ll go a long way. Then after just chop it up a nice subject would be dietary or supplements or even asking how long he’s been lifting for

[PrettyPriya]

Maybe his schedule outside the gym (think work) might be the reason he doesn't bump into you more often.

[Karlie_Flowers]

Well I seriously like him so I want to try to catch him 😂 without looking like a stalker of course. LOL

[PrettyPriya]

Does he do the same equipment you do at all?

[Karlie_Flowers]

Not really. I just see him a lot in the cafe or when we’re just like chilling in the same lounge/sitting area.

[PrettyPriya]

I'd say that is the time maybe strike up a conversation. Maybe start with something about working out, see where it goes. Kind of feel out the situation and hint you are interested.

[Кураж]

I don't think a gym is a good place to chat up people, so I wouldn't bother a woman even if I was attracted to her.
Most people hate it because they have to put themselves in their workout clothes and grunt and get sweaty and they know that people are going to ogle them, so usually the last thing they appreciate is someone validating that fear.

I'd assume I'd automatically go on her shit list.

[Karlie_Flowers]

It’s a really big gym. And there’s a cafe where people chill. No one interrupts anyone in the middle of workouts. It’s usually when I’m just sitting around somewhere that someone comes up to me.

[Кураж]

Oh, if there is a common lounge area that does change things.
In any case, since he tried to compliment you before I think it's a given that he is interested.
I'm afraid your interaction with him probably made him think you aren't interested lol.

[Karlie_Flowers]

Yeah but I’m worried if he has a girlfriend. I don’t think he does, but I feel like a lot of people at the gym have a significant other.

[spartan55]

Really? So he gets nothing from you and he is supposed to go out of his way to run into you? Yeah right.

[Karlie_Flowers]

I’ve smiled back and said thank you when he talks to me. I don't know we all have to wear masks so I don’t know if someone knows I’m even smiling though sometimes.

[jahaims]

Ask him out