Confessed to shy guy and he confessed back. But he's still not initiating anything. Why? (Page 2)
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Are you sure he thinks you aren't dating already? I mean you both confessed
He knows I'm single and that I am not dating.
Even after the confession? My girlfriend made out with me before we were actually dating, but she thought that qualified as us agreeing to date without having an official label
He may be scared, or worried, or maybe waiting for you to initiate it, a lot of guys including me would love a girl who made the first move
Went up to him today. Can see he wasn't to keen on speaking to me. Asked why he hadn't called. Saod he was not in a good financial situation. I saod just be straight up, if you don't like me it's no big deal. Just say I don't want you. He said I don't want you. So there you have it.
Could be shy enough to need at least another push
I think he's in shock.
Could be
Your better off just asking him.
Maybe he doesn't want initiate too
But I did initiate. Now he's just gazing at me inquisitively. He can't get past staying near me all the time.
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You haven't thought of that he have problems with the whole thing how to do, or that he have been emotional wounded in a way that you must do most thing's until you two are a couple.
I have been. This is a smidgen of the story.
But I get you.
So do you think he will appreciate me going up to him everyday and talking since it defies logic from a social norm/convention standpoint that I would be interested in him? Since he is now comfortable with me.
I would recommend that.
Try to do deep rapport.
Ask about thing's and ask questions on his answers and keep on asking on thing's you want to know about his answers...
an example.
You: What are your interests/hobbies?
Him: Making wooden animals.
You: How many have you done?
You: 15
Him: . What did make you start making wooden animals?
Him: When I was a child did My father take me to the mall and we did pass a seller that did make wooden figures that I liked and my father did buy me one. later on did I want to have some more ones but my father couldn't get me any more. I gotten little sad. after a while did my father give me some tools to make my own.
I found out that I was good at it and I liked to do them.
You: It was nice of your father to give you the tools.
You: How long does it take to make one?
Him: It can take all from 1 hour to a month.
You: Can you show one of them?
Him: Sure. we can go and do it now if you want.
You: I would love to.
You: What did your father think of your work?
Something like that.
Not that deep. still to show you are interested and are interested in what he does.
Triggering childhood memories with feelings attached.
That one happens to have both sad and positive feelings.
That is very good.
The more different kind of feelings you are able to trigger the better. especially with memories.
With feelings attached in the presence. don't trigger sadness like being mean that you have created. It's not good.
Can brake the whole thing if it doesn't create a messed up base foundation for your relationship.
Yes, I do do that. I always ask him about himself.
If I go to him he's overjoyed to see me.
Before he would stutter and not make eye contact. Now he's way more relaxed.
Just take his hand and hold it like you two are a couple and see what happens.
If he doesn't do anything about it. keep on being more physical with torching him as much as possible like it was natural and something you do with someone you love.
You could even say to him when you come up to him ( There are my boyfriend ) and take his hand.
You say it in a way that can be interpreted both as serious and joke.
Soner or later one of you gonna need to initiate a first kiss.
If it isn't okay to do when others kan see you kiss. do it at a place no one wouldn't notice or see.
Doesn't need to be a French kiss the first time.
on the cheek or the mouth to show physical affection and open up the physical part.
The eye thing is a normal thing for some that has feelings. sometimes could it continue even after everything is opened.
That can be because of some autistic traits, just as much that it is something underlying due to his past. he might be little submissive/unsecure with the whole thing.
Hard to tell if you aren't good enough to read him.
Doesn't really matter.
As long it works for you both.
If his worth it for you be the one leading it and make thing's happen.
I can read him like the back of my hand already. Just feel so awks approaching him for convos All. The. Time. There is 100% something going on. I always like the faulty ones. My mom says I have a pattern. But in the past I dated a really sweet boy. He witnessed his abusive stepdads suicide attempt. We were young and would argue a lot but he was seriously a decent guy. So that's why I don't mind the difficult ones. He's a bit like catching a street cat.
Because he's shy.
Grab his dong... he will get your point then.
I can guarantee you that wpuld not be well received and probably ruin my chances. Not every man is an oversexed mouth breather.
Also, it's well-established that this isn't a sex-only thing.
That will explain why he is not interested then.