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Guys love it when you approach them first. But only if they seem interested. Otherwise you come off as stalkerish
That is.. if you keep pursuing
It's not.
In all of western society it's a good thing.
I'm not even convinced that guys from other cultures actually object, I feel like it would more likely be some idiot cultural trend they're parroting or something they just never really thought about -- not something they genuinely personally believe.
You want to know why?
Because it is NOT a turnoff.
If a girl is pursuing me I get super horny for them. It gives me a sense of security to really relax and be vulnerable.
In my past experience, I was rarely pursued by women. But, whenever I was pursued by one, it was usually a woman who I wasn't attracted to, thus turning me off.
Firstly you're stating your believes as facts.
These is not true at all, there are guys who are mean and they are girls too who are mean.
Common between two is both are human.
Till now you might've approached mean guys and they rejected you.
Because in nature it is the male who does the pursuing.
This is just an opinion of author. It doesn't make it universal truth.
So I just spent five minutes cross checking that quote and I can't find it's original creator. For all we know that could have been a woman who created that quote, thinking they understand male nature better than men know themselves.
Come to think of it, I think it might be. Look at that last quote:
"When a man really wants you, you won't have to chase after him like he's some celebrity who barely has time for a fan."
That sounds oddly cynical, like someone speaking from a point of having received a bad personal experience at one point. I could take a month to explain how many things from a mechanical level is wrong with that quote and I still wouldn't have enough time.
@kambo_trick3y Do you know any any mammal on earth where the male is not the pursuer? Let's be honest, if a male didn't get horny he would care less.
@daniela1982
Do you know any other mammal that can do Advanced Calculus? Look, we can go in circles all day about what humans should or should not do based on their species or natures. How about we actually do the fair thing and accept that people have an amazing capacity for self awareness and intelligence and with that intelligence comes very different personalities. Some men are brave or shy, some women are brave or shy. It makes sense to take every situation differently.
@kambo_trick3y Then why do men complain about dating sites that they can't get a date? Are women pursuing them? No, they don't have to because all the guys come to them, nor vice versa.
@daniela1982
Plenty of girls approach first. You can find a million questions on not just this website but many others showing girls stating they were the one who approached first. Is it as OFTEN as guys? Of course not, it's societal norm that dictates that guys should approach first.
But the fact that both genders have on quite a few occasions subverted expectations (i. e women being aggressive and men being shy and passive) shows that there's no genetic wall magically stopping either of them from pursuing the other. Putting both genders into a pigeon hole and just going like "Oooo eeee unga bunga, you man, me woman, man must approach because they are men" does nothing but limit your chances with someone you like.
That quote you posted is so BEYOND egocentric and "the world revolves around me" type of mentality that I don't even know where to begin. Has it ever occurred to the creator of that quote that guys suffer from lack of self confidence too? What if they asked out a girl once and they didn't just get rejected, they got HORRIBLY made fun of? It happens all the time.
I'm just saying, if women and men are to understand each other better, quotes like the one you posted is very much NOT the way.
She needs to show him her value to his purpose. What does he need to fulfill his purpose, if she can support him she has value. You have to have qualities he wants for him to be attracted to you
All men enjoy being chased; The feeling of being wanted. Even if it’s from someone they aren’t attracted to.
It is not a turn off - it's a turn on - but I'm sure it's also a lie that women tell themselves, to justify not pursuing the guy.
"I would, I am brave enough, but what's the point if pursuing him would just turn him off of me?"
Depends on your strategy or pursuing. Bad strategy where female comes off pathetic is turn off. Good strategy where she flirts with you is turn on.
Story of our lives lol we gotta approach girls all day and unless you a model type dude getting shut down most times unless you got game. It would be refreshing if girl approached me not a turn off
if i don't like her then i don't respond to her come ons. if she's forward and i like her then it doesn't bother me that she is aggressive. i'm aggressive too so it usually works out in the short term
Men be nature are chasers. It takes the fun out if it for them and if he really wanted to be with you nothing and I mean NOTHING would stop him.
As a Russian living in UK, it would be turn on to me, if I like her.
And in case I do not like her, but she persistent I would F**k her, but nothing past that.
Yes, I would tell her that I do not like her and that nothing will be after that, before F**king...
Nothing she can do. If a man doesn't like you he will not change his mind. If he rejects you with obvious advances, you aren't attractive to him. Unless he is taken. That can change his answer if he becomes free. But you can not..
According to my personal experience it's not a turn off..
Who's spreading lies like this. It's more than welcoming, however some women can be obsessive and stalker-ish. THAT is not pursuing, that's just creepy.
Who says it is, and what is this person's malfunction?
When it isn't a turn-on, it's usually not her pursuing him that is the turn-off, it's usually the woman herself, i. e., that it's an unwanted pursuit.
I would not see it as a turn off. I wouldn't mind if a girl pursued me a little. Sometimes I can be shy and could use a little push.