Do you ever flirt back out of pity? How do you stop pitying men for reasons like you feel bad theyre desperate for attention?

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

How do I stop letting pity control my life? I feel pity for many males that try to flirt or "befriend" me or date me so I flirt back or give them attention out of pity.

Like this one guy who destroyed my self esteem... He was a coworker and it started out as him attention seeking from me by being goofy and flirting A LOT. I remember I felt sorry for him.

I think I am uncomfortable with feeling sorry for others obvious insecurities so I want to heal and balm it AS SOON AS POSSIBLE by feeding their monster... You know? It just is second hand embarassing and pitiful when whats supposed to be a grown man (adult body) is clearly a child inside.

[molonski2]

You are investing too much sympathy in these dead heads , and at the same time giving them false hope. No reason to feel sympathy , these are not your problems to take on , just play a straight bat , make it clear you have no interest in them , no interest at all.
Just play it dead straight , then when you find one around who is good , really flirt with him right in front of them , make it clearly obvious the position they hold , in your life.. ZERO !

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Thanks i love it
I need to be with a straight bat always. Wishy washiness sso annoying.

[JustinTimberlegs]

You are an empath and you care about others and relate to them, but you have to learn that you can't fix everyone's problems, sometimes you'll just make it worse.

Once you accept that the best way to help them is to set clear boundaries and let them help themselves it should be easier to not be too nice out of pity, because it's actually worse for both of you.

[Kforkfkt]

Thanks Justin tinberlegs

[AdithyaR]

Remind yourself that you owe them nothing. It was their choice to approach you. If you don't feel the same way, you don't need to feel bad, sometimes that's just how it is.

[Protein_mate]

Tell them you're not interested

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

How would you do that?

[REDHOTLINE]

Weird

[888theGreat]

never pity

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

I think I have a serious pity probelm.

[Protein_mate]

You're too good OP ahah

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

@Protein_mate lol I don't know about that