My friend and I have a theory that men know their intentions with you instantly, what do you think?

[Anonymous]

In my experience, it was easy to tell right from the first date when a man saw you with serious intentions and nothing I did would scare them off. My friend and I have a theory that men know instantly what they want with a woman and that the majority of women take longer to decide on a man. I just think all this shenanigans about trying to act a certain way or wait to have sex for a certain period of time will change the outcome. People are never black and white, but I have noticed a theme. What is your opinion?

[btbc92]

Of course, these guys know. They wouldn't bother if they didn't. And this is coming from somebody who is a virgin and believes in waiting for marriage to have sex. The moment you say that most disappear. Your theory is NOT a theory. They are not being honest. Read those books, look at these "dating" gurus, etc. THEY KNOW what they are doing. That is why I study the blogs, I watch the videos. In fact, look up the guy trending now called Kevin Samuels. And other few guys on there. They know exactly what they are doing. And after all of my experiences with guys on that level, I now question and suspect every one of them and I find it sad, I wished that I didn't have to do that as a person. I never thought I would become this way. However, there is a black and white expectation. It is just that people have made it more complex than it needs to be. Back then, you were expected to court a person or be courted by a man, if you liked the guy, you had certain courting and societal rules follow and everything was a bit more simpler back then. Now they are telling you something else because the belief system has changed dramatically and more and more people became quote on quote "less religious" and this si why we have so many problems. Even science and statistics have proven this. So this is a trend that has dangerous consequences.

[Siren777]

Yes and no... yes as when he knows what he wants and has a criteria list that you fit he will and no because he might take things slower and get to know you first as he may be afraid of getting hurt again or previous experiences. For example it may be the age or time of his life where he is at and he decides exactly what he wants and needs. He may be going through a crisis of some kind, problems be it financial, emotional, addictions, family etc things you won't know about. You and your friend may be on to something here... but it is different for all guys as they're all different and you get different types.

[loveslongnails]

Hate to break it to you, but this is not a new theory by any means. The same has been said about women - that they know in the first 20 seconds if they're ever going to sleep with you. My gues is it's more than likely true more than half the time, but I've never done a study or gathered data on it. :)

[Woke51]

It's not the intentions with YOU, but the intentions period.

If a guy wants a relationship, he is looking for a relationship. If a guy wants sex, he is looking for sex. (Do they realize sex is included in a relationship?)

[kyleelyn199723]

I agree with this. I think even though my ex asked me out and we dated I think essentially he was just using me. It got to the point where he tried to make a joint bank account with me so he could spend all my savings. Thank god I was too young to open a joint account with him. Me and my current boyfriend I felt like knew we were meant to be together. We even went to this bar with one of his female friends and this old drunk guy pointed to me and told me and my boyfriend “I know you aren’t trying to date that ugly girl (his female friend) you are trying to date this girl (me) and then walked away lol

[Soremain]

Yeah we tend to have clear intentions from the get go but to say "Nothing can scare them off" is just false. You can say and do a lot off stuff that makes any self respecting man run away in a heartbeat. Like try talking about marriage and babies on a first date.

[jeremy_09]

I agree with this, marriage and babies can scare us off, but much less can scare us off also, and you never know what it might be. I once changed my mind because a girl wore jeans all the time, and I like girls who wear dresses a lot. A stupid thing. This probably changes somewhat as guys get older, but I wouldn't think a whole lot.

Also whether she has sex on the first date or 6 months later won't change my mind about her, in fact, I probably won't be there 6 months later if she makes me wait that long.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no.
Some of it is decided instantly depending on how attractive you are and what kind of attractive you are, but much of it is very much up in the air. It’s opportunistic and isn’t decided until it’s apparent what is on the table.


e. g if you’re attractive I might have a general interest for you, but if she’s not interested in a relationship then sex remains.

[Anonymous]

Men know what they want it’s so true
They are even dangerous too meaning they have a plan in their mind already even how long is it going to take them.. that’s why I don’t trust men and women are having a hard time.

[btbc92]

If this site doesn't already show anybody that, then people are still sleeping. Again, not all men do that. But a lot of them do.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think your theory is true.

But why don't you believe us?
You girls be like "oh, he doesn't REALLY love me. He doesn't know me well enough. He can't possibly already know that I'm what he wants."
Oh, yes the fuck I do!!

[noohair]

I will agree, but the male ego and fear of rejection is very powerful. The male instinct to hunt is still very strong after many thousands of years. Though we wear cloths and brush out teeth, not a lot has changed.

[spartan55]

I don't ever know my intentions until I get to know her. Kind of obvious I thought.

[GlovewithLove]

Well, according to science, it takes only about 10 seconds for a person to judge whether they like you are not.

[es20490446e]

No. I really need to see how the girl behaves for a while to know if we will be happy together.

[Anonymous]

unless she believes what I believe I do not want her

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not all guys decide right away

[chris_987]

Yeah she could look like a catch but she can easily talk herself out of a committed relationship, but never sex

[Gwenhwyfar]

@chris_987 most guys will jump at sex. There are exceptions though.

[chris_987]

Why wouldn’t we where the ones doing the fucking, remember we don’t need to trust a girls or get to know her to put our penis inside of her. But you guys do because your the ones in the vulnerable position getting fuked. For some girls keep forgetting that sex is experienced differently between the sexes.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@chris_987 trust is important

[chris_987]

Why is trust Important for a guy during a random hookup? We don’t need to fear that a girl is gonna kill us. So we aren’t like you

[Gwenhwyfar]

@chris_987 got it. That actually does make sense.

[chris_987]

Hey guys make a lot of sense but most girls don’t want to listen to us. They just want us to listen to them

[jasco]

Most people do

[In_Trance]

100% Correct