Me and my boyfriend only see each other twice a week, is it normal that he doesn’t seem to miss me? And is it normal that I tend to miss him?

[Anonymous]

He still texts me everyday. But i think that when i asked him if he ever misses me he said not that much and then changed his response. I’m convinced that I’m just the more emotional one and that’s why I miss him. He used to say I miss you but not anymore :( at least he still says I love you though.

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Does he really love me?

[MrOracle]

Just because he's more stoic about it and doesn't express it out loud as much doesn't mean that he doesn't miss you.

[Asker]

But I think I heard him respond with “not that much” then he changed his response when he saw me staring at him

[MrOracle]

Men are taught to compartmentalize their feelings. It's not safe for us to express feelings other than happiness or anger in front of other people. We learn to never admit to other feelings and downplay them because to do otherwise makes us vulnerable in a number of ways. This causes men to be stoic and keeps us from being open about how we feel in most circumstances. And most women wouldn't want it any other way - EVEN if they think they would.

[Anonymous]

Maby he needs to be more vulnerable with you and connect in a deeper way. I tend not to miss people unless that connection is formed. Even if i like them

[Slayerrrrrrr]

give him a reason to. have you tried putting out?

[Asker]

We have sex every week when I’m not on my period we’ve been having sex over a year now

[Slayerrrrrrr]

that's wassup

[SamFromFL]

Could be an issue here

[Asker]

How?

[SamFromFL]

Because he’s not seeing you more and doesn’t sound very passionate about you. Do you feel like he desires you?

[Asker]

He’s very loving he’s always giving me so many kisses when I’m with him and when he sees me he holds me tight and he sometimes goes all googoo eyes on me so I think that he loves me. He just doesn’t miss me I think and that makes me sad.

[SamFromFL]

What could he do other than saying the words he misses you to make you feel better?

[Asker]

Probably being with me lol

[SamFromFL]

Ya that’s my confusion. One year and he’s only around once or twice a week. Why doesn’t he want you around everyday?

[Asker]

It used to be 3 but since he works now it has become 2. Even before he started working I’ve always had to be the one to ask him if we could hang out more I asked my dad about it and my boyfriend and they both said the same thing that it was just his personality. I don’t understand him either because it literally pains me not to see him when we only saw each other only once a week I would cry because I didn’t want him to leave and even with that I had to ask for more hang out days. That was the past though.

[SamFromFL]

Then figure out how to see him more often. Sure he works but you can meet after work