Why don’t men make the first move? (Page 2)

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Why don’t men make the first move?

Dragonpurple · Answer

One could ask, why don't women make the first move?

Likely many of the same reasons.

That and nowadays, it could be considered microaggression if a unattractive guy asks to buy the first drink, but not considered that if a attractive guy offers to buy her a drink.

Best bet is if you want someone to make the first move, do it yourself.

molonski2 · Answer

I have always made the first move , but Im not frightened with regard to consequence , so any for of rejection doesn't bother me , just never has , I just always felt that if you dont ask you dont get.
Plus , I do like being the one initiating things , same when I was younger.

Interstate · Answer

It is a known fact Women are a much more out-spoken and assertive people. They generally jump at the chance of a Guy when she gets the chance, and by the time the equation is worked, they are already sitting in a Coffee shop or Red Lobster getting to know each other.

MCheetah · Answer

This required its own MyTake.

Jlegacy · Answer

Many times, a man is safe if the woman makes the first move. He gives his best when she does because she initiated it and would bare the cost if things go south.

All my previous relationships are exactly like that. The ladies made the first move.

When you find the one from God, there is no fear. Anyone can move first.

boggboss · Answer

They do this conversation comes up a lot yet males are still the primary initiators of interaction for dating the difference is now many guys these days are not as confidant and believe that part of equality is women having to also make the first move

ChiTown33 · Answer

I can't speak for all guys but I've asked enough women out in my lifetime. And I've been rejected enough. That quite frankly I really don't want to waste any more energy on it. Some women will read this and conclude that I hate women. Oh contraire! I have MANY women FRIENDS. And that's where it ends. I like them and want to keep them in my life which is why we are friends.

Johnagain · Answer

It's safer. Men in majority, are less gracious about being embarrassed by that possibility of being shot down if they break the ice. They've learned (well, a lot have) that trick that (most) women have used for years; let the other pursue you and just lead them in; make it easier as you see fit.
I get that from an ex of mine, and I've talked to men who are "players," for lack of better word.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Woman are cold, indifferent and unapproachable. I’ve been glared at for holding the door for a woman.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Some men still do but in my case I had to and that’s a bit tough as an extremely shy girl but it was worth it

Anonymous · Answer

Easy. A man could be arrested or lose their job just for approaching a woman nowadays.

It's a scary world for a single man simply wanting to talk to a woman in that context.

Let alone the age-old nervous butterflies fears. Nuh uh. It's more like, I don't wanna be labelled a potential creeper or potential stalker or potential harasser and so on and so on.

What's a man to do but just sit quietly and ignore said woman. And play video games instead 😋😋😋👏👏👏👏

Anonymous · Answer

Ma'am. It's usually the men who do make the first move. and it doesn't have to always be men to make the first move but making the first move shows confidence and confidence is kinda cute sometimes. but as a shy introverted person, I would probably just never even try tbh.. ima just wait until marriage lol

Anonymous · Answer

99% of the time the women will use your attention for the ego boost. Don’t deny it you know it’s true. There’s that 1% of girls who will actually reciprocate back. But how tf are we supposed to know who is and who isn’t in that 1% pool. So we won’t approach or make a move.

Anonymous · Answer

Nervousness about rejection. Pretty standard.

Frustration with the lack of fairness in that situation.

The risks perceived with it due to cancel culture, feminism, toxic female culture, etc.

Like, why risk it? Especially when women won’t make the first move? I’m not stocking my neck out for someone who expects and demands that I do so.

Celtero · Answer

Because fuck that shit. In this day and age, apparently telling a woman she's pretty or asking her on a date is sexual harassment. No thanks, and maybe women can stick their neck out for once.

knightly92 · Answer

Because most of us don't want rape charges and of course y'all can't just make it known that it's wanted for example a simple kiss from y'all can tell us yes or no but being silent and just staring at us like we were supposed to read your minds bored if you have ulterior motives I ain't catching a case and he'll wtf happened to the real women that aren't afraid to make a move y'all don't wanna be called a hoe then make it known wtf you want

Questyunurazhol · Answer

Because we're not interested in you girls anymore... Back in the days when you was nice friendly people there was a point in trying to persue a girl we like... Now your all jus big bitches, with a guarantee brutal rejection and possible sexual harrassment accusations... It's not worth it anymore... You make the first move... I'm not risking getting kicked in the balls or going to jail for a 1% chance of success in getting a girlfriend...

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Make the 1st move for what? So she says oh sorry i'm taken? So she says, don't harrass me call the police? So she ignores me? So she shows off? 🤣 I'll approach a girl who deserves to be approached!

Lionman95 · Answer

Because I´m normally not getting when a woman is flirting with me until someone tells me.
I´m not always sure if I really love a woman or if I just like her.
I´m generally not good at starting a conversation in generally.

MarkRet · Answer

A lot of men DO make the first move, but then there are a lot of men who are too nervous, figure they don't have a chance, so they don't even try.

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