Do you think it's accurate to say that guys are typically better at staying calm than girls are or is that terribly sexist to say?

[Anonymous]

Accurate

Terribly sexist

Neither

I don't know

[GoldenCage]

Men experience and express emotions in different ways than women do. We are biologically and socially different regardless of what many people would like to believe. And when someone holds expressing their emotions it does not mean they are not emotional. And they might show it in different ways and forms later.

Also, men and women individually are different too. And each person care about different things and have different triggers. In many cases your partner trigger is not the same as your own. One also could have higher tolerance levels. So these factors gets forgotten in an argument and one partner gets accused of being emotionless just because they have different values, triggers, and tolerance levels.

Emotions are very complicated. But remember the same way crying is an emotion anger is too and so is isolation. They all can be different expressions to the same trigger or frustration. And sometimes men hide behind substance abuse to block how they deal with their emotions. Statistics show that they're more likely to do so due to the social construct we live in. And how we raise boys.

All I'm trying to say.. failing to practice empathy even when we don't understand is what breakes relationships. Him being quiet doesn't mean he's not feeling pain. And sometimes we tend to judge others emotional experience based on ours. Even worse sometimes we expect them to express it the same way women do. And that's wrong in my humble opinion.

[Nomina]

In my experience and observation, yes, it's true. I honestly don't care if it's sexist when evidence has shown me that in stressful situations guys are more likely to stay calm than freak out as women are.

Might be an uncomfortable truth (to an extent) but the whole thing about the capacity for women to be hysterical isn't all wrong. But those are things that can be worked on. I used to be hysterical in the past but had to actively work at staying calm and being objective. And I still have to catch myself a lot of the times before saying or doing anything.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

For centuries, what both men and women did in their respectful domains required focus, concentration and will and most important of all, controlling emotions. If emotions could be shown, politics would not be there, criminals and liars would not be there.

Women in earlier societies, were needed to control their emotions. The 21st century is really a good time for women. Women points = +1

But this also must be noted that men were required to prove their worth to the world from the beginning of time and girls/women were valued simply for existing. Now the hardships in the process, changes the mindset, trains oneself at various levels. Men points = +1

But, in today's world, girls are in the same competition as boys were from a long time. Hence slowly and steadily, girls are sure to get equal and better at controlling the emotions and staying calm. Men and Women both = +1

See? On a general level, both are capable of maintaining a calm attitude, with some outliers here and there. The question itself is definitely not sexist, but a really good one, as I have seen patterns of women being able to express themselves freely and openly but for the same, men just sucking it up.

At jobs, both are same.
But, in personal lives, on a general level, men are more calm, that is what my observation is.

I may have gone a little off topic, but the question was really good that I got carried away. Sorry for that.

[MrOracle]

Clearly this is true IN GENERAL, which is what the question asked. Obviously there are always a few exceptions to any generalization, but overall, it's true.

Men have always had to learn to control their emotions. You couldn't be a hunter hunting dangerous game, or climb deep into a mine shaft, or go into battle, or climb up scaffolding to build a building, if you didn't have control of your emotions in stressful situations. We're still human, and we may lose it from time to time, but overall, we tend to maintain control of our emotions the majority of the time.

[Shizunk]

People get all sensitive when you talk about averages. To the point where they deny statistics, saying they don't believe the whole idea, because if that statistic were true, it would go against their worldviews. So it's better to deny reality than to change your mind apparently.
If you talk about averages and stay in that realm, it is absolutely fine. Once you start applying those averages to individuals, that is where you make a mistake. "Hey, you are Asian, so you must be short, so we ordered you a room with a short bed, it was a bit cheaper." "hey, you are a woman, so you must be crazy and emotional. Your hormones own you and you have no self control." Those kinds of statements would be incredibly sexist or other -ist.

[hahahmm]

Guys who had a good male role model in their life are better at staying calm. Since the number of good male role models has fallen in the last 30 years, the number of guys who are drama queens has increased. Guys are biologically wired to not feel as stressed as women do -- but that stress might have negative health affects on him over time.

[NamerOfStars]

Broadly speaking, it's accurate. Of course it's going to vary from person to person and situation to situation, but looking over humanity as a whole, it's accurate. It's also sexist; reality often is. How terrible you see that as depends on whether you place more value on truth or on not hurting feelings.

[DaveJord]

I think it all depends on the situation and thing... I hate spiders, and am terrified of heights, so I kind freak out. My wife would hunt down them spiders, and stand on the edge of 1,000 foot drop with the wind at her back without a peep.

But I served in combat, so you tell me who can stay calm.

[Spookydood]

I don't know how accurate it is overall, but i wouldn't use the term sexist. Mostly because if you walk around worrying what "-ism" you're guilty of, (or more likely at this point, what you're going to accuse someone of,) you're going to find your life really fucking miserable extremely fast.

[MCheetah]

Yes. Because guys face worse and more consequences for NOT staying calm, both involving police and public ridicule & ostracization. That's why most Karens are typically women (and the few male ones there are, are flaming soyboys and effeminate super-homosexuals).

[CinMinRoll]

It depends there are men with anger issues, and women that are mindful and calm. But in my overall experience I see guys staying calm and quiet when I'm all emotional and crying lol and I wonder how y'all just pretend like nothing is happening... So for the most part it's accurate I think.

[Anonymous]

It being sexist depends on the reasons for saying it.
Personally I am not sure it is true.. for one men have higher testosteron which make one more impulsive and daring, not what I would call cool and collected :D. But women also have things that make them less calm, so really not sure what sex is best at staying calm.. probably also depends much on circumstances and environment, some would suit one better than the other.. really too complicated to tell, I think

[t-8900]

hell ya! haven't you noticed our incredible super power of not giving af when our women try to yell at, lecture, and berate us? We have the ability to mentally check out at any give moment! ^^

[EternallyCorrect]

Accurate in some cases. In an emergency situation men usually keep their calm in order to do whatever they need to do to keep the people around them safe, while most women scream and flap about.

[Andres77]

Compare a female nurse to the average guy, she'll be more calm in stressful situations.
But the average guy will usually be more calm than the average woman.

[Anonymous]

It very much can depend on the specific person, regardless of gender, however I would say in general that women worry about a lot more (and think about things) more than guys do. I think women are often more stressed than we are.

[wittymilf]

People of either sex can have poor emotional control.

[normalice]

Guys tend to snap abruptly. Girls are better at moderating their anger by constantly venting it in small doses.

[VanillaSalt]

Women tend to be more emotional as a gender but the individual matters. When men blow they do the dumbest shit but women tend to blow more often and do slightly stupid shit.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Honestly it varies person to person or situation to situation.

[Hangry06]

It's not accurate from my experience. It differs from person to person

[AviatorTom]

It's both sexist and accurate. Female hormones are more volatile and unpredictable, compared to Male hormones.

[feelsbadman]

Then why sexist?

[AviatorTom]

@feelsbadman because it makes what some would consider a negative comment about women

[FunkyMonkee]

I wouldn't say it's the least bit sexist, if anything (and if it were true), it's just the way it is!
Is it sexists to say they girls have tits?

[Custard505]

Some men have moobs.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Custard505 True! That's not sexist to say, either.

[Jackblue]

I think in general men feel more in control of the world around them, but I am an exception. I rarely do.