My boyfriend doesn't apologize when he hurts my feelings?

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I should start off by saying that he's not a bad person who says horrible, unforgivable things to me. I'm just really sensitive and get my feelings hurt easily. When I tell him I feel hurt, I always expect him to respond with compassion, to saying something like, "I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt your feelings," or even if I'm misunderstanding what he was trying to say, I don't see why he can't just gently explain what he meant. Instead, when I tell him I feel hurt, he gets frustrated with me and tells me that I'm always hurt and always making him feel bad about it, which then makes me feel worse. When he doesn't respond with compassion and empathy, it makes me think he doesn't care about how I feel. I think we have communication problems on both ends, so I'm trying to take responsibility for my share of the problem, but it's hard because we just can't seem to understand each other's perspectives. I can't figure out if he just doesn't care about my feelings, or if I'm just doing an awful job expressing my feelings to him. He keeps telling me that I make him feel attacked when I express my hurt feelings, but even when I try my hardest to be gentle about it, he still feels this way. I know you guys can't provide accurate feedback with the limited information provided, but I would like to hear some other perspectives from people who have experienced this kind of thing. Have you ever been with someone who rarely apologized or showed little concern for feelings? How did you handle it? Have you ever been with someone who was getting their feelings hurt often? How did you respond to their hurt feelings, and how did it make you feel?
My boyfriend doesn't apologize when he hurts my feelings?
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