"hard it was to date because she gets a lot of male attention" - Translation:
1. I don't take my current boyfriend seriously so I easily get distracted by other dudes.
2. These other dudes can see how distracted I am and they try to get with me over & over again.
3. I think I can find a better guy than my boyfriend & one of these dudes could be the one.
4. I like having fun & these other dudes excite me.
5. Don't call me a whore just because I'm disloyal & open to sleeping with/dating the first guy who turns me on more than my boyfriend. I'm just the victim of "male attention".
One day your boyfriend will really understand you a lot better than he does now.
Well, do you want to solve the problem or just say him that you two have a problem? Men want to hear a solution or make themselves a solution. So give him advice how he can react in the situation and be friendly. As Jesus said: Go the second mile with him.
It’s probably because he isn’t insecure, but also you shouldn’t be trying to make your boyfriend feel like he’s hard to date because you take other guys flirting personally. That is definitely going to create insecurities in your relationship.
If he feels insecure that you're getting male attention it's probably because you're attractive and a lot of men find you attractive. Don't flirt with them and don't do anything that will make your boyfriend jealous.
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First of all it was wrong of you to send him such a message. It was like you were testing him to see his reaction.
It is never right to test a man by trying to see if he gets insecure/jealous or not. Mostly it backfires.
About his reply. It seems he knows that even though you may make him jealous but you will eventually not leave him.
Honest question (not rhetorical and not sarcastic. Just serious and honest. Because I'm genuinely curious and I want to know.) :
If you're a woman in a relationship and you get a lot of attention from other guys, what should your boyfriend's response be? What would you like him to do? What is appropriate in that situation?
You got your own answer. You attacked him with this video , knowing its a problem he has. He is insecure and probably still don’t know how to change yet
It means that he isn't really insecure about the relationship. He wants to say that no matter how many guys like you, you are going to stay with him only. Not sure but it is my guess.
u If you frequently attract unsolicited male attention, don't you expect your partner to feel some insecurity?
Oh my God I missed a couple days and I missed it what has been going on that's the thing I knew you guys were broke up now you guys got back together come on fill me in on all the details
Maybe when you sent the vid he realized he was being silly for acting like that.
I think he’s response is appropriate? I don't know what else he’d say.
There's a lot of possibilities so I don't know the entire context of maybe if the two of you talked outside of just sending videos
It was a passive aggressive video so of course he responded like that.
He's worried that not all the attention is unwanted, so he's asking you to verify that his is the only attention that matters.
He’s saying he’s insecure and you come back to him and still date him he’s making fun of himself
some guys are Amazed and don't believe how lucky they are to have such a Great woman in his life... so it's just him, re-affirming that he is still you #1 guy...
He just meant "yea... I might act that way, but at the end of the day you always come back to me"
"My boyfriend and i send each other tik tok videos all the time." <- Full stop. There's your problem.
You wouldn't like it if he sent you a negative video on tik tok describing what you do would you.
What did you expect his reaction to be?
Evidently, if you break up, you come back to him and re-engage the relationship. Or when you get mad, you forgive him easily. Just my guess.
Because you were trying to attack his ego in a passive aggressive manner..
it's all about how you take it quit diesecting it so much
Wait… is this the SAME guy from last week?
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