Male friends being pervy?

[curiosi_tea]

I have a few guy friends and they're all pretty respectful and kind but sometimes a few of them glance at my body, even in mind convo. It creeps me out. I'm kind of curvy for my age so I'm ready to dismiss it as just them blatantly being pervs and utilizing my body for whatever without even giving a crap about actual me. It really creeps me out when they initially do it and that feeling lingers when we are 1 on 1. People who were once/are teen boys... what tf is going on here and how can I react in the best way in the future that won't embarrasse them or me?

[loveslongnails]

I had a friend back when I was younger who was also quite developed for her age. She got tired of the stolen glances and consistent gawking. One day, she walked up to a bunch of guys who were staring at her. She lifted up her sweater, showed them her boobs and said "Now you can get a good view for free so you can stop staring all the time, wondering what they look like. This is the one and only time you'll ever see them". It embarrassed the hell out of them and everyone applauded her. Kinda radical approach, ya think, but it worked.

[Anonymous]

I hope it only creeps you out if they're doing it in a creepy way? Because we are visual and is why we look at you. Honestly it's "automatic" sometimes and we don't even realize. There are some that purposely do it though, and that's different, especially if that's what creeps you out. But it's not meant usually to be "pervy" or creep you out. Think about it, we're visual and literally bombarded with images of women daily, everywhere, advertising, media, tv, internet, to just everyday women on the street. They use women and their looks for everything in our society, so when you're objectified like that literally everywhere all the time, how can it not be "normal" for us to? So depending on the circumstances and situation, you might just have to "shake it off" (think of it not as "pervy", but as a compliment that you're hot/attractive!), or if he is really creeping you out, just say nicely "please stop staring at me, you're making me feel very uncomfortable".

[Greedier]

I'm 16 too and yeah, stuff like this can be pretty uncomfortable.
Sometimes seems like they're all pervs and that u just can't have a genuine friendship with them.
Tho, I guess it's puberty.¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Maybe they just can't help that?
I don't really understand it too but I just ignore and try to shake it off my mind. I feel uncomfortable but can't do nothing about.

Guys can be pretty complicated.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Yeah, that’s pretty standard behavior. Especially at that age.

[Guardian45]

Yes, this is common behavior at that age, but that DOESN'T mean you should condone it. It's simple really, if a guy is disrespectful and creeps you out; cut him out! If he asks you why, then tell him. Guys need to learn this is NOT acceptable behavior! Trust your gut!

[JohnK123]

It’s not that they r pervs lmao unless u saying girls who glance down r too

[curiosi_tea]

I mean anyone who does and does it a lot kind of is

[doopayo]

Puberty doesn’t justify your male friends treating you that way. I would personally distance myself from them

[TallAnon]

Better to accept that at the very least we will check to see whether you are attractive and if so, we will look at you. Nothing will change that.

[josephinelcajon]

I grew up nudist that maybe why I do not understand it and further think it is disgusting!

[Somegirl678]

Lol i dont know, personally that type of stuff doesn't make me uncomfortable so not sure what to say

[Wise4myage]

Come on now, teen boys are walking hormones, and say something to them if their actions bother you in any way.

[LegendaryIcon]

no such thing as "just friends"

and you know it

you just don't want to admit it

[jamesgoldman]

It's puberty stuff, quite normal really