You usually hear that from an older male figure talking to a younger male figure and it's wrong they think that they're building the kid up when in reality the truth of the matter is the man telling this to the kid is really grew up with all those great qualities he's going on to the kid it makes no sense to me if you want to build the kid up build anybody up you don't care I'm down you teach then how to run how to throw a ball and just because they don't do it to this guy standards who gives a fuck he can't probably feel about either I hate people like that you do not teach anybody by belittling them I'm making them feel bad or making them feel guilty that destroys them basically when somebody older cause somebody younger all those names what are you trying to do is turning more feminine because that's what will happen the complete opposite of what he's trying to do it's actually really sad I got in trouble with time my son was on a pee wee football league football team and he had a coach that would yell and scream and call these kids pussies tell these kids did they run like girls they hit like girls and I could just watch their body drain their shoulders would go down it would feel something very deep I would go over to the kids I hit him on the shoulder pads I said hey how you doing you know what your coach just said he needs glasses let me tell you something you are the baddest ass out there you run faster than anybody out there you hit harder than anybody out there okay let me try to show you something when this guy's getting past you it's because the way you have your feet you're allowing the kid to push you back set yourself up like this and this stance you can't do anything you could have bounced out for you try it this time try it next time you go out there try to stand like this use your body use your weight and be that bad ass that you are you're not no girl your football player bro you're a good football player and I would do this kid after kid after kid and they always want to hang out with my kid because they wanted knowledge for me or understanding or something I'm not sure and they took second place I honestly think that they would have taken first place if they would have had a different coach but anyway if any man is doing this to any of their football team on their kids go fuck yourself. I wish your wife would talk to you that way LOL or have somebody talk to you like that all day yes somebody is supposed to be a mentor so many things in this world makes no sense to me
"Don't be a pussy!" - eventhough pussies endure extreme pain when giving birth? "Grow some balls!" - eventhough balls are hypersensitive and even the toughest guy will be on the ground in extreme pain after a blow to the nuts?
It's all backwards. We should start saying "Don't be a ballsack!" and "Grow some pussy!"
You know, I never understood that either. They use it as an insult, but spend their whole life chasing down pussy. The vagina has power over them and if it didn't, we wouldn't have so many posts from guys complaining about not getting sex, we wouldn't have politicians trying to legislate it, and we wouldn't have religious groups trying to shame women into never using it.
Now, a better insult would be calling them weak like a testicle cause like one little tap there and a guy is basically rolling on the ground dying like he just got shot.
It is sexist but everyone is politically incorrect when insulting someone because this the point of insults. However, i dont understand why feminity is seen as bad or used as insult by the same guys who complain when so called feminists act like a man. I mean if you see feminity as insult what do you expect when incesure girls dont want to be feminine anymore. I see that a lot on mgtow videos on youtube. For example some of them see women as parasites, stupid, etc. Furthermore, i also dont like it how feminity get defined.
@subarugirl saw your other post pertaining to history so just had to chime in to set the record straight
Studies suggest the percentage or romans who were gay were hovering around 11%. So lets not act like all of them were gay. If the Roman Armies were made up of Homosexuals they wouldn't have procreated and spread their seed from Britannia to Egypt and everywhere in between. Yes women who died in childbirth were honored, as they should always be. But that's a selfless act, to give birth to children, is it not? So it had nothing to do with gender but with their act and sacrifice. Yes here were strong women throughout history and some were good and some were bad like men. Many of these strong women also led their people to ruin.
Such was the case with Boudica and Cleopatra. Cleopatra got power hungry and she ended up losing her war, her life, her children, her whole bloodline, wiped out. Boudica on the other hand had herself and two daughters killed and her who army and village wiped out. Then you have Empress Licinia Eudoxia lol let the Vandals right in to pillage and rape her city just to get away from the guy pursuing her, nice. ALSO why not bring up "Bloody Mary"? Or Marie Queen Of Scots? You can make a case for Elizabeth 1 and Joan Of Arc. But really the vast majority of women as leaders has been an utter disaster. Heck look at the Rapefugee problem in Germany, France, Sweden, largely thanks to Merkel and a bunch of nutjob, bleeding heart leftists (mostly women). THIS is why women need me, we save you from yourselves.
anyways dont compare women of old who sacrificed a lot and went through serious hardships to girls in 21st century who have the world served on a silver platter to them and their whims. Let's NOT even go there. Women back then who had those babes, well they had them. Today women are cool with killing their own babies in the womb. They're cool with sleeping with countless dudes, they're good with hitting up clubs, getting passed around, why would we honor such women? Okay granted YOU say you have only been with one guy and you have kids. I will give you credit where it is due. I know that still doesn't make you happy because I need to "respect all women" but NO. Respect is EARNED and its about damn time people start realizing that fact. I will respect who I do, which comes natural from upstanding folks. I suppose some women want an award today for not killing their own babies. *hands you trophy*
I personally have a disdain for that type of language. It’s outdated and demeaning. On top of that, it implies that women are weak, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Child birth. Societal measurements on a woman’s worth. Building relationships and getting screwed over. The constant thinking. Constant belittle by men and other women. All that (and more) on a daily basis, and they still wake up and get dressed every day? That’s crazy tough.
Plus, a pussy? Does anyone understand how crazy strong and resilient literally and figuratively a vagina is? You can bend a penis wrong and break it. As Trevor Noah said, “Human beings come out, and it still functions as it was intended!” Maybe we should say “don’t be a dick” 🤣 Also, I’m 5’11” and 230, former college football player. Yet there are plenty of women in my own state who could obliterate me with their bare hands, and most of them are probably a lot smaller than me. I’m especially respectful of judo and jiu jitsu women; they’ll take anyone out! That kind of language was meant to oppress women and make them feel weak. It’s unfortunate, but it’s our history. The narrative must be changed.
They're only negative when applied to a man, who is supposed to be masculine.
Ever tried to hammer in a screw, or use a screwdriver to drive in a nail? In both cases, those tools do a shitty job at achieving the objective - but it's not because the tools are flawed, it's because you're using the wrong tool for the job.
If you are raising children, decorating a home, providing calm and peace, etc., then being feminine is the right tool for the job, and you're going to get the best results. If you are going to BUD/S (Navy Seal school), playing tackle football, working on off-shore oil rigs, or driving large earth-moving equipment, then being masculine is the right tool for the job.
Can you imagine someone trying out to be a SEAL being feminine? Or the person driving the big-rig who has to pour out hot asphalt and shovel out all the extra? You can't do those jobs and be dainty, fussed about your hair and nails, or be "sensitive", because there's simply no room for any of that. That's why there are no or nearly no women doing those jobs - and that's perfectly okay.
On the other hand, how many would take their children to a day care run by a single man? Very few of you would - but why not? It's because that's a job where femininity is a huge benefit.
It used to be widely understood that BOTH of these qualities have an important place in the world and in your life, but they were not necessarily the SAME place. Feminism has been pushing the idea that all places are the same and that masculinity and femininity have equal value in all situations - and that's a bullshit lie, just the same as it would be to say that a screwdriver is just as good as a hammer for driving nails, or a hammer is just as good as a screwdriver for driving screws.
Hello Subarugirl, This is a question I have often pondered myself. I too, have noticed that female genitalia related terms like ‘pussy’ are often used as derogatory slang for weakness or cowardice. Adversely, male genital related terms like ‘dick’ are are often used in a negative context to describe a person who behaves badly. The word ‘cocky’ is a negative expression of arrogance or swagger. And the male related term, ‘balls’, is used to describe courage or strength. I think all these terms and their slang expressions are rooted in very old, deep seated gender stereotypes that go way back in human history. We need to come to terms with the fact that these subtle lessons have been taught subliminally to us all by a societal system that historically believed women to be weak, timid and incapable, and men to be strong, courageous and aggressive. It always pains me to hear a woman say that someone needs to “grow some balls“ when referring to someone who needs to find courage. Why doesn’t she say, they need to “grow a pussy“? Because society has quietly taught her that having balls means having courage. That, of course, is a fallacy. There are plenty of people with vaginas that are bold and fearless, and people with testicles who are timid and afraid! We all need to re-think our use of all these stereotypical slang gender biased terms, and adjust our language and thoughts accordingly. Just my thoughts on it!
I think when men say this it comes from our point of view as a man. Women are handled with special gloves in society, they are shielded from a lot of consequences of their actions.
Don't be a pussy or sissy, stop acting like a girl. This is a man's way of telling another man that we live by different rules, which we do, whether you like it or not. If you fuck up, no one is going to save you. The streets are waiting for you. You need to produce. Women have a lot more support than men and a lot more excuses for why they can fail and it's ok. We don't have that option. Stop being a pussy = Stop making excuses. Just do it.
Now you fight / play / hit like a girl. Self-explanatory. Men are stronger and more athletic. If you are weaker, than you hit like a girl. Not sure if that's negative, just true.
Men are also referred to as "dicks", we have "toxic masculinity", women are constantly warned about how men are bad and only want sex. Both sides do it basically.
“Don’t be a pussy” has NOTHING to do with females. It is short for pusillanimous, which means cowardly. Showing lack of courage or timid. (Look it up).
In regards to “stop acting like a girl”... or “you run/fight like a girl” have you seen how most females act? Society has to water everything down for women. We take away all obstacles just so they can feel “equal”. Society kid gloves girls so they feel “strong and independent” but in crisis, they are the first to break. They can not handle negatives like men can. (Studies show this) They are over all physically and mentally weaker, which is why society does not hold them accountable for their actions or choices. Over all... When it comes to endurance, women are weaker. Strength, women are weaker. Speed, women are slower. Which is why 14 year old boys can kick professional women’s athletes ass in various sports.
Right at this very moment, the truth of my statements are making you want to shame and attack me as a person. Right? Because hearing negatives make females want to silence the speaker.
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-"Pussy" comes from the Latin word pusillanimous meaning "lacking courage and resolution; marked by contemptible timidity" according to Webster. Nothing to do with girls.
- What does that mean exactly? Being all overly emotional over the weirdest shit? If so then yes, because that exactly what happens with girls going through hormonal changes and most problems can't be solved with emotions.
- "sissy" is often uses on men who act like children because, as a society, we often treat women like children. Always bending over backwards to make life so comfortable for then that we often find women thinking it is their "constitutional right" to be outside and not expect to be targeted by dangerous people just like anyone else.
- Sorry to tell you this love but the average woman has less upper body strength than the average man. When you play sports it isn't helpful for your team to remain on the ground after being knocked down. That's why "there's no crying in baseball".
What do you want? I know grown women that are creepers out by unfinished basements, girls get scared easy aka don't be a pussy. Women get upset over the littlest things, like just saying something truthful may make feel judged while us guy call he other the worst things we can think of and are still friends and laught so that's the don't be such a girl. Men are physicly superior 9 times out of 10, just look at how yrans athletes are running women's sports, men are faster and stronger so that's the you fight like a girl thing.
Yeah they are all kind of at your expense but they aren't false and it's suppose to be an insult to the guy, I see how it is insulting to women but that's not the intent.
I think us men must be sincere too. Most of us blame feminists (including me) and say "you don't want to equality, all you want is female superiority" but when I look at opinions on this question, I understood that. Most of men don't want to equality too. They want male superiority over women. This question's answer is clear for a person who is sincere and honest about equality. yeah it is sexist because being a female or being a male isn't a shame so noone shouldn't that kind of words as an insult.
Being called a Dick is an insult just like being called a Pussy is an insult
Calling someone a "Bro" is a modern insult for men
"Mansplaining" is a term exclusively for marginalizing men for a behavior that both sexes do
That's off the top of my head. I could think of others but seriously this is just another one-sided topic where it's only a problem if it doesn't benefit the side complaining.
Doesn't make sense. If a girl genuinely cares about this subject I won't begin to even respect her opinion unless she addresses the other side with the same passion.
If a girl wants to complain about pussy as an insult, complain about dick as in insult in the same breath, that way you're making this an issue we should all care about and can get behind rather than a selfish issue that most won't give af about.
And the ones who might won't because you're not acknowledging it effects them too
In primary school all the girls watched us play from afar in gym class and in high school girl had their periods every week but only during gym class. So it's kinda natural for things like that to turn into stereotypes over time but I personally always hated people who used these. I feel like some people just want to exclude others from a group so they can be more of a part of it themselves that's kinda what this is all about. But I feel like some of the comments are taking the victim playing a bit too far. You can say to someone you empathize like a guy or you decorate your room like a guy and I won't care. XD Or you can say you look like a guy to a girl and see what she thinks about that.
Women should accept they aren’t as physically strong as men. Just like I accept that women are smarter than men. That’s just fact. Facts have no feelings.
I prefer being in a relationship with a woman who can accept that. Hence why my current girlfriend works out with me and we both drive each other to be smarter. We sit next to one another and read. Look for ways to improve our business. Decision making. My girlfriend has helped me become more responsible and we learn to laugh at each other. She knows she is weaker physically and I know I make boneheaded decisions at times.
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Stop trying to make this into some sort of mysoginistic view of women. It's not.
Those terms are only used in a negative context when insulting a heterosexual man, and that's because both men and women look down on men who are feminine (we all know that's true so please don't try to deny it). When describing a heterosexual woman, those same terms are not negative. Ever men a healthy heterosexual man who didn't like pussy and view it in a positive light?
The flip side of this coin is that both men and women view women who behave in masculine ways or dress in masculine clothes in a MUCH more positive light than they do men who behave in feminine ways or wear women's clothes.
People don't see femininity as a joke. YOU see femininity as a joke. You are projecting your own insecurities and feelings of inferiority onto others. You are a great example of what people refer to internalized misogyny. I've seen it many times in what you write here at GAG. You wanted to cut off your own boobs for fuck sake. Your problem is you, not the subject matter of this question.
Men appreciate and crave femininity. We want more of it, not less. We wish women were more feminine, like they used to be. We hate the fact that so many women like you no longer embrace their femininity and instead try to be more like men. Men don't like women who are like men.
And likewise, neither women nor men like men who act like women. That's why feminine characteristics are used as insults for men, and why masculine characteristics are used as insults for women.
You really need to pull your head out of your ass. Women like you are fucking things up for everyone. Seek counseling, please!
If that were true and men did appreciate and value femininity, it wouldn't be used as an insult. My mammary glands do not define my femininity but they do cause me a lot of pain..
It's not used as an insult to women, dumbass. It's a positive for women. Not sure why you're struggling so badly with that concept. Were you dropped on your head as a child?
Either way, women like you will always see themselves as "victims" no matter what the facts show. I'm not wasting any more time on you.
There is simply nothing wrong with that. Women would usually be more intimidated by the idea of a confrontation... So calling them a pussy is just the right way to phrase it.
Also, you fight like a girl is completely fine too, girls can't fight as good as guys can after all.
What are you trying to achieve by changing this? It's completely okay the way it is
They're both valuable in their own different ways. Men are obviously stronger and less likely to avoid confrontations than women.
Saying "he has 'balls'' or "that guy is a 'pussy'" is just fine because having balls is associated with masculinity (strength and bravery) and while females have many different qualities themselves, they don't really have as much strength and bravery as males do...
How are vaginas more resilient than testicles? And no, men OBVIOUSLY have more strength than females and females are much more likely to avoid confrontations.
You tell me, who is more likely to fight with people, a man or a woman?
I don’t really think that aggression is a bragging right…. You flick a man in the balls and he goes down like a 2cent hooker, a woman can push a 10lb baby out of her vagina and bounce right back…
I'm not talking about being aggressive without a reason. Having the ability to be aggressive when needed is bravery. Women usually step back when it comes to a confrontation.
And yes, a hit to a man's groin hurts but so does a female's. I've seen females who needed 5 minute rests after a groin shot and I do mixed martial arts and I've seen all this multiple times
No, I'm saying both are equally fragile but testicles are outside of the body and unprotected and therefore hurts more while a woman's privates are inside her body and are protected.
Women are brave in many aspects too, but getting into a confrontation? No!
In fact, balls are a sign of bravery too, balls are not protected and it's brave to stand in a fight knowing you could get'em kicked to kansas anytime
Yes I have. Do you think that because women on average are physically weaker than men they are less valuable? Do you think that men are less valuable because the have a lower pain tolerance than women? do you think that because one quality of a certain sex is held to a lesser degree makes it okay to use that gender as an insult?
"Pussy" in that context has nothing to do with women. It is a slang term for pusillanimous, which means to show a lack of courage or determination. How many people actually know that is another matter, but that's what it is.
The rest are pretty much exclusively insults given by men towards other men for failing to act like a man.
Because they are men. Are you going to try and argue that women don't make derogatory statements towards each other for acting like or doing things traditionally associated with men/masculinity?
It is used/seen as an insult when directed at men, because they are not women, and vice versa. People also get called pigs, chickens, (scaredy) cats, and dogs in a derogatory manner, because they physically are not any of those things, and are behaving in an unbecoming way likened to them.
Because they never chose to learn, they just followed what they heard, and that will tell you just about everything you need to know about a personality
Because the male is not allowed to behave naturally as the female is allowed. Many women think this is misogyny, but it's actually the exact opposite. Boys are forbidden to be who they are. This prohibition occurs systematically from childhood, even by the mother. This leads males to develop behaviors different from those of females. Males cannot show sadness or fear in public, females can, without being stigmatized as with males. Male behavior is imposed from an early age, whether they like it or not, shame is imposed if they are not up to a certain standard. De facto they are taught to males that they are expendable from childhood. Which women are never taught.
Women are recognized for being the neutral; the non violent. Since the beginning of time, Man has been the hunter, the survivor and the provider. Man was given the energy to see to it his family survived. Women who chosen to be the "keeper". Keep the house, the kids and everything necessary for her family to survive and live healthily. So since Women weren't provided with the virtues Man was given, Women are looked at more weakly.
Cus simple physics make sense. Females are physically weaker for most part, so thats the context its being used to say you are weaker than avarage guy. Its creative way to express to other guy that his weaker. Wow you throw like weaker avarage male, that doesn't sound that cool, so to be cool they come up with those lines. Hope that helps to understand
It’s just what men have said to one another for as long as I can remember, to denote another man for being more submissive, less manly, less courageous, less brave, etc. These are all traditionally known by the general public to be more in line with feminine/womanly qualities. Now, is it still the case today? I think so, but maybe that is quickly changing.
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