Why do men cheat?

Question

What exactly is the female lacking from past experiences

Unknown_Swan_ · Accepted Answer

There's an endless list of reasons why men cheat.
Most are probably the same as why some women cheat.

Some reasons are easy to point out, others are far more complex and psychologically confusing to the person asking the question.
These reasons I'm going to list are but just a few.

It could be the case that the man is not 'satisfied' with the one woman he has, therefore he feels the 'urge' to go out of his way and romantically/sexually be with other women at the same time.
This can be a sign of a personality disorder, ranging from psychopathy and sociopathy to toxic-narcissism in a guy.

Next, it could be that the guy feels like his needs aren't being fulfilled romantically/sexually. It could be both.
Guys trapped in a loveless or one-sided relationship with a girl may often try to look for the qualities they desire in a partner, in another woman.
It's always best though if this is the case to just break the relationship off.

Lastly, the guy is trapped in a toxic, verbally or physically abusive relationship and can't get out of it.
This for men can be more common with marriage, but I've heard of cases where it was in the boyfriend-girlfriend category.
As reiterated before, guys that feel trapped in a perpetual cycle of misery are not going to find peace in the arms of their abuser. In some cases they will find it in the arms of a woman who doesn't abuse them.
It's a biological and psychological need for a human to feel and be loved by someone, so in this case you cannot fault the guy for doing that.

There are probably many more reasons that I haven't listed, but these are the ones that come to mind.

Men and women when it comes to cheating aren't so different in a lot of ways.

Dexter_Morgan42 · Accepted Answer

Some men and women cheat because they allowed themselves to be in situations where high temptations are present, for example - Out drinking at the club, or working closely with someone of the opposite sex who's flirting, or hanging out on Social media, private messaging people of the opposite sex, getting closer to them than their spouses. They're people who want the excitement of meeting someone new, they love attention, having options and they may want sex with different people.
Other cheaters are just rotten people who will go straight to Tinder looking for sex, or they'll seduce anyone who even seems remotely interested (They want sex, they're addicted to hookup culture).
The 3rd kind of cheaters in my opinion are men and women in long relationships who feel trapped in their situation, they feel neglected by their partner, and they're looking for an escape and sex, and something new. They also want to push their partners away because they don't have the courage to break it off.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd say the main reason why is because of EGOS, sad things are possible when your an egomaniac and by far I've yet to meet a man that at the least dosen't even sneak around can't trust on the phones nowadays CHEATING IS LIKE THE NEW game to some,
It's a totalitarian society in fact its a waste of time anymore in my opinion that dating someone who just can't stop opening the doors for other people figure of speech by the way, when in fact they are not going to change or even try to love the way you may love them. To me its sad and good men are so hard to find. Once a cheat always
It's a game that once they get that ego filled it never stops. 😔

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think the number one reason they cheat is that they do not respect their wife or girlfriend, which is why girls who are too submissive are more likely to get abused or cheated on. it’s also why girls who defend themselves against disrespect and demand equitable treatment are more likely to get loyalty from their guys. A guy might forget to respect his girl if she doesn’t remind him that she is angry about being disrespected.

OpenClose · Answer

I mean the woman usually isn't lacking anything. Except perhaps variety.

I think it was in our nature, both men and women, to sleep around back in the early days. I've discussed some stuff like this with some of my poly friends. One comment I got kinda framed it differently for me. "It is selfish to expect one person to be all things you could want or need. Being dependent on them to be able to fill this desire and that desire that it would make more sense for multiple people to fill. You might like bad boys, or cute boys, or girls. To expect all this from one person is to either be unsatisfied, or to impose a standard they couldn't possibly meet."

I thought that was an interesting take.

I mean, it doesn't make cheating any less shitting. But the "having sex with other people" isn't what makes it shitty. It's the "we didn't agree to this" part.

MrKinktastic · Answer

It’s not to do with the female lacking anything, it’s partly got to do with the male lacking self control and giving in to his urge to continue to play the field to boost his ego and his sex drive.

It also has to do with the relationship shifting from the new relationship energy lust phase into a long term partnership as sex drives tend to simmer down as the relationship transitions into something long term. It also brings up all his issues around intimacy and being vulnerable that he developed as a child which is hard for most men to deal with. Cheating is certainly an ineffective way to deal with this problem but it does, in the short term, deal with the feelings of vulnerability if he believes he can replace his partner if she abandons him.

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

This is a difficult question but the short answer is: it could be that the woman is not fulfilling some need of his. It could be that he just simply wants the feeling of sex with some other woman just because she's beautiful. He might not be getting the feeling of peace of mind with the woman he's with. Or worst of all, he has some kind of emotional need or feeling with another woman that he doesn't have with the one he's currently with. There's a long list of possibilities really, if I try to list them all it could take a while.

rabbitzzz · Answer

I think its a bit different from women in that man can be in love with their woman but still cheat because curiosity, novelty got better off him. Sometimes guy don't have many body count while his so had tons. So he might be tempted to even the counts. It may simply be some kink that his woman not willing to do. Or maybe his woman is cheating to so he tries to even.

JasM0 · Answer

It’s the individual, not the gender. I understand that you or someone important to you may have been hurt, but dwelling on the irrational nature of humanity only d growth and finding your state of happiness. Take the time to reflect on bettering yourself. Seek a disinterested third party to work through it and believe me you’ll be better on the other side.

Best!

DaveJord · Answer

Men and women cheat for a variety of reasons. In most cases it probably has nothing to do with a female lacking anything. If a person is unhappy in a relationship or insecure about their role in a relationship they are more likely to cheat in general. Each relationship has it own specific circumstances... so they should be judge individually and not in terms of man vs. women.

MTC29 · Answer

The wife of one of my friend's went through menopause and lost all interest in sex. My friend has not lost interest.

Another friend's wife gained 150 pounds and now tips the scale at 300#. I'm sure that there are guys interested in sex with fat ladies. My friend is not one of those men.

It is not like these women can be divorced; they'd get half of everything. I'm not saying that the wives don't deserve their 50% (they do), but why go to all of that trouble of divorce?

Carolus · Answer

Because:

1. Some are sociopaths and narcissists. Selfish characters who just don’t care about others and never content on what they have. It’s all about the body count.

2. Others are looking for a way out. In most cases in this category, women are to blame. What a better medicine for a woman who is disrespectful, arrogant, proud, selfish, feministic, controlling or economical with her pussy?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Personal insecurity, lack of emotional intimacy, the list goes on. I've never cheated, but the cheaters I've spoken with all have unique reasons. They pretty much always boil down to some personal defect that they can't reconcile and don't have the self awareness to recgonize the problems within themselves.

FreyaRed · Answer

They cheat because most of them think they can go away with it. That's why you should never be emotionally or financially dependent on your partner, because this encourages cheating.

HighValue · Answer

Bad morals is why anyone would cheat in my opinion.  I don't know for sure since I have never been that way.

KingofCups · Answer

I'll be super real with you on this one:  1.) She's physically more attractive 2.) She's more fit, athletic, active  3.) She's more fun and exciting

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

My ex cheated on me with her ex boyfriend. Although she denies it. She actually admitted to it by denying it without ever being accused. I found out that she cheated on everyone with the same person andxeven cheated on him when she was dating him.

Buntyp · Answer

I think that everyone that cheats does it for the same reason, that the act of cheating adds an excitement and urgency that is lacking in the relationship that they're betraying.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

Women cheat too... and I think it's subjective it's not a gender issue. I would say the main reason is that the person who cheats is insecure.

genericname85 · Answer

For the same reason women cheat. Cause they either have problems with loyalty or are really unsatisfied with their current partner.

Leonharted · Answer

Men cheat the same reason women cheat. Most people suck.

Киттйлинк · Answer

cause they're horny and don't want to fight the feeling.  Cheaters are pathetic. then they come crying 😭 lol

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Don't ask like it's the girl's fault. The cheater is always to blame.

InYourHead · Answer

My dad says to me "Show me the hottest girl in the world and I'll show you a guy that's tired of fucking her." It's just nature.

donnny2367764 · Answer

Because we have selfish needs... we can't commit, and we can't stay true.  However, the same goes for women if not worse. Some women have stronger sexual urges than men in general

Somoneelse · Answer

There an be a lot of reasons to cheat on someone. Both men and woman can cheat on the other. There is never 1 main reason for it.

Anonymous · Answer

Men cheat because what they really want is a porn star or stripper, but most men aren’t able to get that. So they’re never truly satisfied with the woman they have and that’s why they get a wandering eye and go elsewhere.

kenz000 · Answer

I think if they feel they are not respected as an equal to the girl.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

The same reason women cheat hun TO GET AWAY WITH IT the only LEGITIMATE EXCUSE TO CHEAT, IS TO GET AWAY WITH IT JUST LOOK AT TRUMP

John_Doesnt · Answer

Because it's so easy to get away with and most women get turned on by alpha males who cheat on them all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

At some point they give themselves permission to. That was emotional.. the hardest choice. It’s much easier the consecutive occasions.

Anonymous · Answer

The people who are bastard will cheat. This is not about gender. There are no ‘’valid’’ reason to cheat.

awkward_author · Answer

There's something lacking in their relationship that they feel they can get somewhere else.

kimjauu01 · Answer

because they like to experiment with different women (being experienced in sex) im sorry my English so bad ;-;

Anonymous · Answer

I cheat because I like variety. Can’t keep having the sam ice cream flavor over and over without getting bored of it.

Anonymous · Answer

For the millionth time. For the exact same reasons that women cheat, when one seeks an answer like that, one need only look at their own gender.

VikingWarLord · Answer

If she's average in looks, and I have hotter female options, I'm definitely gonna cheat.

jasco · Answer

Why do people cheat? Sometimes they do it because they can

Jintendo18 · Answer

She doesn’t have to “lack” anything. People cheat “down” all the time.

McKellar · Answer

That does go both ways my dear. Women do the same as well.

Anonymous · Answer

I dunno why SOME MEN cheat. Why do some women cheat?

jahaims · Answer

It's not lacking. Any cheater is just a trash human

Anonymous · Answer

Men cheat because they have less self control and more sense of entitlement.

Anonymous · Answer

because they are insatiable. they want to inseminate almost all females. a little calm down men.

BeachLuvR97 · Answer

She's not lacking anything at all. In a guy's mind, he's thinking "variety."

WhatMeow · Answer

Of the men who cheat, a lot do it out of feeling unworthy of their partner on a subconscious level.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

Would you eat key lime pie for dessert everyday for the rest of your life?

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

That is an individual flaw not a gender flaw. Now behave lol

Effie2004 · Answer

Same reason why women do. Cause they want their cake and eat it to.

anonbrunette99 · Answer

they don’t love their partner enough

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reasons women do

AndrésC64 · Answer

The same reason girls cheat.

Juxtapose · Answer

I don't know, I'm not a scumbag cheater.

bgreek · Answer

The same reason babes cheat on guys

Staximus · Answer

Same reason women cheat. Lack of common courtesy.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

To try something different and new.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women cheat

watercolor_lions · Answer

Both sexes cheat.

lycanthrope3 · Answer

pretty much the same reasons women do

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Nothing.. its just variety...

_no_one_ · Answer

shrek

Anonymous · Answer

The lack of sex from the partner

Anonymous · Answer

Because of stupid feminism

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