He said he loves you, but it doesn't show. He never cheats but gives you his bare minimum. Is it still right to stay?

[cozymarie24]

[ohshee]

When a boy is growing up he didn't really get to see or experience love not unless he watches his parents it's now days don't have parents kids nowadays all they see is their parents arguing one always has to be right why no ecologists backs down doesn't say much doing that boy turns into a man and he starts today the only thing he knows about love our passion are giving or carrying is what he learned from his parents

Can you get a new boyfriend the first thing you need to do is find out who his parents were were the haters were they lovers did they care who are they because that's who the boy is he only knows what he has experienced what he has seen
So there is a way to fix that and that is the way that you bought with him the way that you show your affection in your that in the way that you care you can teach him you can trade him teach him to be that person because deep down inside he scared to death that he's going to mess up because he doesn't know what he's doing

So if he acts like he doesn't care and he's not doing much and he gets frustrated but he's not going to talk about it because that would embarrass him you have to look deeper I'm sure he doesn't mean to be the way that he is but the only way that he's going to understand it is if he sees it or if he feels it or if he does it and the only way he's going to do it and learn it is if somebody doesn't for him and he'll go o that's what we're supposed to be doing and in time he will change on his own

[De_La_BakedBeans]

Maybe he just doesn't know how to show it. That's a common thing with guys, myself included. We often subconsciously suppress our feelings, even the ones we feel for those who are closest to us. We often don't know how to show how we really feel, and which sometimes leads to bad things happening, like our loved ones leaving us.
I think the best way to go about things is tell him how you feel. If he really loves you, he'll do the best he can after that to show it, even it it's cheesy and kind of awkward. He's just got to get used to being able to show it.

[Curmudgeon]

What do you mean exactly by his bare minimum? He is a good guy, right?

Do you do *your* bare minimum?

A clip from an adult cartoon comes to mind. being Hollywood Left, of course they make it same sex, but the words of Bojack Horseman still are true:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/3OLjTWwaPro

[Lonewulf57]

Still water runs deep.

Some guys (girls too?) believe it's better to keep quiet and be thought a fool, rather than open your mouth and confirm it.
Similar point.

As someone who resembles what you asked, sometimes I feel like I make mistakes no matter what I say and do. I care about her, but don't want to screw it up so bad that it's over.

[snatchhound]

He might not love you an no its not right to stay. Unless you are happy with what he's doing. But for a man not to show the love and just do the minimum. I think he's not much of a man cause if a man loves you an wants you he should bend over backwards to make sure you are happy an loved.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

It depends on how he shows it, does he listen to you when you vent or express your thoughts / feelings? Is he there with you in a consistent basis? There’s multiple ways to express love and that’s the beauty of love and relationships. People have different perspectives on the topic of being a lover, just pick someone who shares similar ways to love that you do.

[Browneye57]

It is difficult to understand the motives for someone to stay with someone they're not completely enamored with. If he doesn't rock your world, if he isn't the greatest thing that's ever happened to you, then cut him loose and find one that is.
What are we missing here?

[loveslongnails]

I often wonder why girls post questions like this asking "is it RIGHT to stay"? Right for who? You're the one who feels like you get the bare minimum. You're the one hearing the words "I love you" but not getting anything in action that backs it up. Why are you asking strangers if it's "right" to stay? You already know the answer.

[Massageman]

The two oof you really have to have a looooonnnnng face-to-face sit-down. Discuss your goals and needs for the future, and have him share his with you. Right now, it doesn't sound like much of a match. You can call 1--800-A-FAMILY for some help if you like.

[Nigjt]

To someone like me you sound very needy someone who is always wanting more the bare minimum is what you said that is a total setup a never-ending Road.
Won't you just go and find another guy please please please.
Because like a few others who have said the same thing about you my opinion is you're needs are just to deep an to Broad.
God Bless

[JasM0]

You need to level set your expectations and goals with him. Often don’t date with purpose and this is the result. If you don’t ask what his best looks like, how can you determine his bare minimum.


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[Dexter_Morgan42]

It's completely up to you.
I show love by being passionate, affectionate and caring. Some other types of men are more about showing love by making lots of money, buying a new house etc.
It just depends what you want.