I established limitations with a guy who was just using me and after that he just vanished, did I make the right thing?

[Lyhra4]

I was hanging out with a guy that showed me initially he was into something serious with me, but after have slpet with me some times I just realized that our plans were always at home with sex included. From the very beginning I told him I was looking for something serious, and lately I had a conversation with him saying precisely that I was feeling used, that we never had proper dates and that I always told him I wanted more. After that conversation in which he said he wasn't looking for a relationship he basically stopped texting and trying to meet me anymore. I won't lie, I honestly miss him but I'm not sure if texting him will be right for me. Any opinions please :'(

[HollyK21]

I wouldn’t reach out in this situation. You were right to tell him your intentions, but it sounds like something you should’ve done from the start, because maybe he was showing you certain efforts that implied he wanted more, but it’s never to assume something until that person says it. Now that he’s told you he doesn’t want anything serious, there’s just no point to continue on. You want something serious, and would be wasting your time by investing it in someone who doesn’t have the same intention. Sorry if you’re feeling bummed about this, it really sucks when situations don’t work out, especially since you’ve hooked up that makes it a lot more personal. But this could be a good lesson for how you deal with the next guy, and that’s to be upfront from the start, so you can make knowledgeable decisions.

[HollyK21]

**never wise

[Lyhra4]

thank you so much I'll follow your advices

[spartan55]

He told you what he wants and it isn't in line with what you want. So what is the debate? You know what he wants, he told you! If you stay you will just get hurt, and would have no one to blame but yourself

[Lyhra4]

you're right

[Avt9560]

I'm sorry I'm too lazy to read the whole thing but I read the title and looks like the best thing you could've done

[Lyhra4]

Thank you

[Avt9560]

You're welcome 🙂