Without personality, you're just sex buddies, friends with benefits. It's 50-50 to me
If I realize that a guy sees me as a sex object, I'm gone faster than light. We have different priorities and values in life
Obviously the answer is yes. Looks are definitely nice to have in a partner, and sex is important too, but it's far from being enough to build a relationship on. We all would prefer our partner to be good-looking, but most of us aren't going to end up with someone with "Hollywood" good looks.
The thing is: there are a good number of guys who aren't really looking for a relationship at all - they just want casual sex relationships and nothing more - and the more attractive/popular a guy is, the more he's likely to only want casual relationships - it's an exponential curve.
If a woman is dealing with a man who most women would rate as a 9 or higher in overall attractiveness - especially if she herself isn't a woman that most men would rate as a 9 or higher *as a potential relationship partner* (not just in looks) - then she is putting herself into a no-win situation: the chances of getting a guy like that to commit to her are the same kind of odds as winning a Lotto jackpot.
Yes, women much farther down the scale can attract those men for no-strings-attached casual sex, but that's a COMPLETELY different situation and has almost nothing to do with his standards for a relationship. Most 9+ guys don't want a committed relationship with ANY girl, but in the rare chance that he'd consider it, he's only going to consider it for a girl who is high in looks but also high in the characteristics for a long-term relationship/wife.
We all understand that a man with average looks and an average job with average income, with no notable status in the community, isn't likely to be able to attract a former teen beauty queen who wants to be a wife and mom, and knows how to cook and care for children - that kind of woman can attract much better, and almost certainly will - she's going to have a lot of options.
It's just the same that a woman who is, say, a 6 in looks, who knows how to be a good wife - or a woman who is an 8.5 in looks but who only has career training and no "wife" training - isn't going to be able to attract a man that most women are attracted to and assign a high value to, and get a relationship from him. Might he bang her a couple of times? Sure, if it's convenient. But offer her a relationship? Not a chance in hell.
The vast majority of men understand their value on the dating market - not many men are delusional and think they're a 9+ when they are a 4. The world is VERY good at reminding men of their value, or lack thereof. The same is NOT true for a lot of women - there are a LOT of women who are a 4 as a potential relationship partner who believe they are a 9, and think they deserve a man who is a 9, and will not consider, or even look at, anything less. Those women may DATE men who are 9s (as long as they are willing to give them no-strings-attached sex), but they don't get relationships from them. The problem is that they seem to think that if such a man gives her SEXUAL attention, that's the same as relationship value, when the two things couldn't be any more different than if you were comparing a lion and a squirrel.
Agreed...
FYI Jack the Ripper was never caught, so how can you find him charming?
I think you might be mixing up your serial killers :)
I think I've read somewhere he was good-looking, not sure lol. And I don't find them charming, it was just sarcasm I just used them as an example that looks isn't everything in life, because they were both psychopaths
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For a short-term relationship, I only care about physical appearance, for a long-term relationship, beauty and personality matter. There are women who are only good for sex, others are good for a serious relationship.
Ted Bundy was a psychopath, all psychopaths are charming, because they are very good at deceiving and pretending.
If a guy or girl only cares about looks then they don’t want to connect as a human being. Yes that’s shallow
It would appear to be that way
Yes I care about personality and looks in a woman