Is it possible for men and women to be just friends?

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Lucifer_01 · Accepted Answer

I would say yes but there is the point I would like to mention here..
see the thing is boy and girl can be bestfriend there is so much advantages but there is disadvantages too like.. bestfriend can be together as 24/7... If this happen both start to carrying for each other more than anyone, they'll know what and when they exactly need and other person can give whatever what they want... and they'll start to think that this person knows me well and nobody can understand me more than this person in my life. then attraction, then touch kisses and all... this can make someone's life but sometime it can ruin someone's life. So we have to be more careful about it.
SO THE THING IS IF YOU WANT TO BE JUST FRIENDS THEN YOU FIRST MAKE AN BOUNDARIES, OR ELSE IT CAN RUIN SOMEONE'S LIFE.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Yes, it happens all the time, but neither of them can be single while also finding the other attractive.

Good friends are rare, it takes lots of compatibility to be best friends.

If she's a best friend, and cute/pretty/hot, then thats so rare that it's stupid to not ask for a relationship unless I'm already taken (or she is).

But if I don't find her attractive, but we get along well, then its easy to be just friends no matter the relationship status, but either way, if either of us are taken, then being just friends is easy because at that point I lose romantic interest in her, hot or not

I'm picky on looks and personality, so the odds of her being "just a friend" is MUCH higher than me developing a crush.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

As a woman I prefer to have male friends and I'm good at making and keeping men as just friends, but I find some men cannot cope with having a female friend.
Unless preliminary boundaries are set ie work colleague, married, or a client.
Some men find it difficult to see the female beyond a sexual being.

And there are even others that don't respect those boundaries.

In my experience I've happily made friends but they blew it when they broke the friends code and tried to cross that boundary.

Maybe it had been a long time for them, maybe they had broken up with someone else, maybe they were biding their time.
Yikes!
It wasn't meant to be.

You can only vouch for yourself.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's possible to be friends only if both parties are mature enough but I do not believe there are no lingering feelings or thoughts involved.
(if they both find each other unattractive, then it is absolutely possible) But normally people seek other people's company who they find attractive in some ways.

Let's say, you're 25, you're new in town, you want to make friends. You will not go "oh, she is absolutely unattractive, let's make friends" or "he looks like a loser, he could be a good friend" It always starts with attraction if it's a new connection.

Mentioning "I'm friends with my wive's girl friend" LOL, I dare you to say you haven't thought of her in a sexual way.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

That depends entirely on how strong or weak minded the two friends are and whether or not they can accept the boundaries set.
I don't feel the need to jump into bed with any of my female friends, but I value them every bit as much as i do my guy friends.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I imagine that there are people out there who can make it work. I personally haven't ever seen it work in my own life.

MCheetah · Answer

Yeah. If one of 'em is gay and the other is straight, then it's possible. Or, if both of them are happily married, then it's possible.

Also, WTF is Cyborg and Starfire doing here? I had to go on Reddit (disgusting!) just to get the context of this here. And Raven! Look what they did to my girl! How da f*ck can superheroes even get COVID, anyway?

Is it possible for men and women to be just friends?

its_amelia_c · Answer

Absolutely! I don’t want men to be anything more than friends, so if it were the case that they cannot be, then I’d have no contact at all with men.

I actually had a lot of contact with men, I found it much easier to have friendships with them than women.

Femphile_xoxo · Answer

Yes, it is. I have plenty of guy friends. Some of whom I've known for years and they've never made any sexual or romantic advances towards me. Quite a few of them have even asked me questions about what to do about girls they like. 🥱

Saying that no matter what the opposite sexes can't be friends without sexual or romantic attraction is bogus. Most folks don't just want to have sex with their friends.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Not in my opinion, no. Feelings are always caught. The best romantic relationships start out as just friends. Think of it like a game of the Sims where you raise a friendship level from that to a non-platonic relationship. People who tend to rush things get into relationships that eventually end with your partner cheating on you with a friend because they built a relationship while you jumped into one. Everyone rushes things because they think if they don't someone else will and you'll be forgotten about. It's not worth it to try either way. Just be single and happy in your own company.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Sure is, I have lots and lots of just friends, sure some want more than that but many are just fine being friends. I have guy friends I just go target shooting with and that is that.

No reason they can't.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Absolutely. My best friend is a guy in a committed relationship.

It's absolutely possible to maintain a platonic friendship with anyone, regardless of gender, if both can respect each other's boundaries and expectations.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Acquaintance sure. Close friend? No. Close friendship means feelings. When a woman comes to me feeling vulnerable, it triggers the protective instinct in me and i defend and protect her. I make myself vulnerable to her. And even though i haven't started friendships with the intent of falling in love with my friend, on a few occasions it has happened.

HawkPerception · Answer

It is, but if they're both attractive people, and find each other attractive, then there's not really much preventing them from getting together. They already know that they get along, so now 1 person just has to make a move. But a lot of the time, even if they want to, they're both always a little scared to make things weird and potentially ruin their friendship and also not end up in a relationship.

ZackBan · Answer

In theory yes but in practice, 90% of your guy friends would love to get with you.

The only guy who doesn't wanna be more than friends is the guy who has more and better options. But in that case you might fall for him.

The bottom line is. A guy and a girl can be friends if the girls finds the guy more attractive than he does her.

exitseven · Answer

I have had many female friends when I was younger. It just ended up that way. One in particular I used to think about making it more than that. She used to think about it too. The problem was that we never thought about it at the same time.

CarolineW · Answer

I think women can do it, but it seems to be much harder for men to have platonic friendships with women. Nothing seems to piss a guy off more than telling him "I just want us to be friends". They're not wired that way.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

Yeah, I think friends work. Not best friends. I got a girlfriend, and me and her are friends with another couple. I'm friends with his girlfriend, he's friends with mine. I never fucked his, he never fucked mine. We respect relationship boundaries. Like when we all say goodbye, we don't hug eachother's girls, but me and him will dap eachother up and the girls will hug

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Yes it is possible. My Best friend is a male and we are friends since 4 years now. We didn't have any romantic relation yet we are very close to each other.

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes of course. One of my male cousins has a best friend of the opposite gender and I have some friends of the opposite gender.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Age old question. Of course it is, for some kinds of people. I also believe that men have a harder time being just friends with women, than women have with men generally.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

My simple answer is no. There are cases I know. But one has feelings for sure. Or maybe both, they just don't work on it for some reason. Maybe they have other people in their lives and they haven't done anything wrong so they just can't leave them for their "friend".

meetkitty123 · Answer

Yes sure I have had several guy frends. My father has several female friends. My brothers best pal was a girl from school and the neighborhood.

serious · Answer

This is a super repetitive question on this site. My answer is always YES.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Of course.  I have plenty of male friends.  Some happily married.

SweedyPie · Answer

Yes! Absolutely. Most of the few people I consider as my real friends, I call them my brothers. They are like brothers to me.

McKellar · Answer

They can be friends, but not every coupled type of gender are going to agree on that.

If a guy and a girl just remain friends and they are good with that,... then clearly yes.
If 1 of them has feelings for the other, but the other one doesn't,... that promotes a great deal amount of complications, awkwardness which that can also lead to drama... so in that sense, no.

Lliam · Answer

Absolutely, as long as neither is sexually attracted to the other. I have lots of female friends an associates.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d say yes but it has to build over time and it might take longer to build than same sex friendships. Because many friendships start after either the man or the woman rejected or the affections for each other cooled down

Emilyis · Answer

OMG YES! My husband and I both have several opposite sex friends.

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

Yes. I have a few guy friends that are like brothers to me

Grond21 · Answer

Yes, it is completely possible. The people who deny it are usually young college students who don't know how to keep it in their pants

RedStiletto88 · Answer

It’s possible yes. I've always had a few guy friends.

MysticDevice · Answer

100% yes. I have a number a girl friends that are 100% just friends. Its possible to happen even though that awkward "maybe we could be more than friends" moment will always come up at least once.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is possible for SOME men and SOME women to be platonic friends.

Kreneman · Answer

Yes because it all depends on how each other personality, communication, attractiveness, connections, and respect are like to one another.

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Let's be real. If the guy is sexually attracted to you and wants to date you then you don't have a friendship.

Novacane · Answer

I would say it is very possible, but there would have to be zero attraction from both from the start or else there always might be something lingering in the back.

douride2 · Answer

I have been friends with a guy since back in grade school. Nothing more then friends.

Blackcupcake · Answer

yes. my best friend who I’ve known all my life is a man and we’ve always been strictly friends

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Yeah I have a few female friends who I'm not at all interested in on a sexual or romantic level (Not that they are ugly I'm just not interested in them)

shaysh87 · Answer

yes. but its more so for women than for men. men will find it harder to just be friends with a woman because men are much more sexual than women.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not according to Billy Crystal in "When Harry Met Sally". I tend to agree with him. Friends are possible but they guy often wonders what sex would be like.

Anonymous · Answer

Only narrow-minded people can say ‘’no’’ to this question.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

Yes if you're not attracted to eachother physically or your personalities don't match, but you sort of get along, you know?

Anonymous · Answer

Non-romantic friendships between males and females are not only possible, but common—men and women live, work, and play side-by-side, and generally seem to be able to avoid spontaneously sleeping together.

oliversamuel · Answer

Yeah, I've got female friends that I feel no attraction to.

Splatmate22 · Answer

Not possible if one person has feelings but there is no feeling or being affected Person and I had no feeling then maybe.

Anonymous · Answer

of course but usually the man always fantasizes or wishes to have sex with that friend. While the girl not likely.

megabamse · Answer

Yes, most of my friends are woman. Just 1 is a ex, and 2 is a hock from long ago. The rest i never had any dating history with or tried anything with.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Yes if they are taken OR searching for others. Or, they don't find each other attractive...

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah it is possible. But it requires two people of high character which only exist in a small amount of people. On average men and women cannot be friends no.

Twalli · Answer

Yes. Most people don't think so because they can't be just friends

Luopio27 · Answer

Yes if there is no crush or sexual atraction between them.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes it is, but boundaries might have to be established at some point.

TheLastRhodesian · Answer

I have female friends at the university, but I'm only friends with them so that they include me in the work groups, I don't really care about them.

TheFlak38 · Answer

can we get over this myth that men and women can be "just friends"? Sure if you offer him a friendly blow job you will be friends but other than that no.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

I think NO. They never said to eachother in afraid of it will ruin their friendship but at one point of life they will love eachother and mostly accepted that they are in love.

yourmancallsme · Answer

No point in befriending the opposite gender unless you’re there for something

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, it's very easy. If you can't do it then maybe you need to examine how you interact with the opposite s e x.

XXblack88 · Answer

Sure do you not have a guy friend that you think of like a brother?

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Yes because not all women are men's type or vise versa.

MrJMM · Answer

Most of my friends are female and like 3 males. So it is.

FatherJack · Answer

Yes of course. I have some female friends. Don't see them in person so much now , I keep self to self anyway.

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