How to pull back so they reach out or chase?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month. He has a really demanding schedule with work and lately he has been exhausted to hang out. We text each other every day and sometimes the conversation is great and sometimes his responses are vague, however he is at work and on calls. I feel like I need to maybe pull back a little so that he chases? I’ve definitely been asking to see him and hang out and he says he misses me up as well but hasn’t really made much of an effort to hang out even on his days off. I’m trying to understand he is probably exhausted from a 48 hour or 72 hour workday

[DaveJord]

So when I have encountered this type of thing, I call the person and I use this standard line...

" I just believe that when two people meet, and its meant to be more and two people totally vibe and want to spend time together, then they make it as easy as possible to spend time together no matter what the challenges are, they find ways. When that spending time together honestly is not possible then it must not be meant to be... so if you need time in your life to figure that out for yourself I totally understand. But if you do not have the time to date or or desire to date me... I have to need to go out there and find someone you does.."

That basically what I do, and after that conversation I don't text or call them until they reach out to me and then I want to know when we can see each other in person again and if they can not commit to something then I know its bull shit and leave... Let me be honest, these types of people who do not "HAVE" the time is usually bullshit, and it reason why you have having this issue to begin with is because they typically are jerks and its not for the reason you would expect or want to believe. Honestly if they want to spend time with you trust me they find the ways to make it possible. And honestly if they seriously do not have the time for dating you proper then you should of look for something better than that and leave, because they selfish, insincere and potentially dishonest and highly self centered and you should bail on these people.

[slatyb]

"He hadn't made much of an effort..." You asked, he answered. He's not that into you. Time to find someone that is.

[whereismyjohnny]

''I need to maybe pull back a little so that he chases?'' I never understood why people play such games 🥴

[spartan55]

Yeah, try that shit and see how quick he disappears.